Okay so i just need a little advice --- and please no rude ones!! I'm in a realtionship and have been for alittle over 1 1/2... hes a great guy and does so much for me.We live together and for the most part he act's like the perfect boyfriend.BUT when we argue like every couple does..he always has to be right!! Now i hate to fuse and fight .. but sometimes he has the worst attitude ever_kinda like a GIRL! I mean i come home from working 10-12 hrs a day and clean and wash and take care of what needs to be takin care of .. He works 12hrs a week and doesnt do much around the house__ well point is that when we do fight he tells me that i need to leave OUR house !! WHY is this ?? that someone who is suppose to care and be there every step of the way for you TELL you to LEAVE?and his said this ALOT of times-and then will say "well i know your not going to leave how many times to i need to tell you to leave and that i dnt want you anymore" so do i just need to face the fact that he wants out?
2006-08-01 05:21:12 · 15 answers · asked by Mousey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me tell you something gal, I used to be like him. He's probably been doing other girls behind your back, if you don't break it off then he will eventually.
if I don't really know any specifics so I can't give you much more that. (if you wanna email me go ahead) but let me tell you this; you deserve, so much better than that. any girl deserves better than that. find a guy who'll treat you right, and you'll be happier than you can imagine
2006-08-01 05:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by The Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if this man wants out......Tell him too hit the door...
Call his bluff.....Chances are he's just tired and irritated and taking it out on U.
Take it from me that S**T gets old REAL quick.
But everyone has bad days and it's always easiest to take it out on the closest person too U.
Sit down with him, turn the phone off, turn the T.V. off and the two of U have a SERIOUS conversation, no yelling, no raising Ur voices and really TRY not to blame each other, just talk about what's going on. Talk about why U two are in a rut and how together U can get out of it.
Try to remember in the beginning when love was new and exciting.
To hold a relationship together takes U both, it's not easy, but if U love each other then come to some common ground and settle this together.
Good Luck...I hope things work out for U
2006-08-01 05:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry a$$. I hate when guys act like that ! He thinks(knows) that your not going to leave, so he can say these things knowing that your not going to leave. The next time yall get into an argument, call his bluff and leave. Stay away for at least 1 week. See how many times he calls you. When a guy knows a female loves them or cares about them a whole lot, they think they own them. So they act like that, because they know your not going to leave. He can't support that house by himself, hell he only works 12 hrs a week. trust me call his bluff, and if it doesn't work, then you'll know he wants out of the relationship.
2006-08-01 05:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by shizzy0117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend does this too, and I don't understand it either. He says he needs space during a fight and orders me out of his apartment. But when I do it, he gets hurt and wants to know why I would do such a thing.
I think he does it to irritate me as much as I'm irritating him at the moment =p I hope we both mature beyond such sillyness before the wedding.
2006-08-01 05:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave him. A real man would understand when he's at a wrong and, though not like it, give up...Certainly not tell you to leave the house! Especially if he did indeed care about you.
2006-08-01 05:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not the man for you. He doesnt know what he wants right now and doesnt know how to properly express himself, but telling you to leave over and over again is wrong. I would leave him and see what he does, if he really does love you things will get better.
2006-08-01 05:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie it sounds like you really need to think about this relatioinship. If yu really do love him and care for him then you need to sit down and really talk about this with him bacause this is not healthy for you. he needs to understand that what he is doing is really hurting you, emotionally. Now if he doesnt do anything then you dont need to be in a relationship like that. Trust me gurl there are many other guys out there. and i know there is a man out there who will respect you and treat you the way a woman should be treated.I know it may hard for you but you need to think about yourself first. i know that sounds selfish but you need to see whats gonna make you happy in the future. leave if he really loves you hell do somethinh about it.
2006-08-01 05:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you do. He keeps telling you to get out, and he seems to be very controlling, so perhaps you ought to get out, and let him see how much he needs you. He needs to be shown that, although you care for him, you will not stand to be treated second rate in a house that is partly yours.
2006-08-01 05:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Sorry if I sound like a preschool teacher here but c'mon, you say he's perfect). Tell him that you don't understand why you have to leave the house. Ask him if he really wants out. (Don't ask while you're in tears, sooooooo "I'm only a stupid girl". Ask when you're calm and collective). If he says yes, I'm sorry but relatioships don't always last forever.
BTW- How often do you have these fights?
2006-08-01 05:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by u3need3help3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Give him what he wants. Do you want this to continue for another 5 years, getting progressively worse.
2006-08-01 05:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋