My fiance was all for it- we were going to do our own thing and then meet up later and all hang out- but now he's saying he doesn't want to cause it will cause "drama" later- (he thinks I will bring it up later and be mad at him) Do people still do these parties?
2006-08-01 05:15:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My brother-in-law went to Vegas with a bunch of his friends a month before his wedding, and my sister and all the bridesmaids and girlfriends went out the night before the wedding to a bunch of her favorite bars. It was actually a lot of fun - we ran into a bachelor party at one of the bars and the groom-to-be bought my sister a shot (a cumshot to be precise) - very funny.
I think if you trust a person enough to get married to them, then you shold trust them enough to not worry about what might or might not happen at a party. I think your fiance is more worried about your reaction than what he might do. As long as you assure him that you aren't going to overreact (and you stick to that word) things should go well, and you can always keep the don't ask, don't tell policy about the parties.
2006-08-01 05:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by MandyT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People still do them, but it is not advisable to do it the day before the wedding. Usually a week before. Also, set down the rules. Don't say you are OK with a stripper if you are not. He should respect what you ask or you shouldn't be marrying him. If he doesn't do anything wrong, there is nothing for you to be mad at him for,right? So just sit down and discuss it.
My fiance's friends are taking him out just to hang out with the guys. When his other friends got married the worst they did was take a couple shots and smoke a cigar. They ended up playing HALO for the rest of the night. It doesn't have to be about "a last fling", it can just be about being with the guys.
2006-08-02 10:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out with my girl friends for a girls night out before I got married. But I didn't do anything that would damage my relationship with my husband. I think it's disrespectful, and distasteful to do certain things.... (for example: strippers, kissing someone, sexual experience, etc). I understand that a lot of people see it as a last chance before you get "tied down".... but I think that's the wrong way to look at marriage, anyway.
I say have some fun with your girlfriends, but remember: before you do anything, think, "how would I feel if my fiance was doing this/that?" and that should keep you from doing anything that will cause drama later.
but, have a few drinks and dancing with your girlfriends shouldn't be a problem. I wouldn't get in a situation that would make your soon to be spouse uncomfortable.
2006-08-01 06:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by mr and mrs gee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of couples having a bachelor/bachelorette party together. It doesn't have to be separate. I suppose it does depend on what you both had in mind. I guess I'm a little bit more conservative and I'm choosing not to have one, but if I did, I think I'd enoy an evening with my fiance and our friends together to celebrate.
2006-08-01 05:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I owuld ask the bride and groom what they choose...possibly you have got seperate events to initiate the nighttime and connect up in a while....that ought to be relaxing and thats style of what i did...Wasnt the plan yet ended up that way and it became a blast... What they did for my celebration became this: The subject became black and crimson(thats what colorations definitely everyone wore) the marriage celebration had buttons and stuff with thier function on them and that i had a tiara, boa, garter, and another stuff and universal we began out at a friends homestead. There we performed some video games inclusive of How nicely does **** comprehend hubby...each and every answer i've got been given incorrect i had to take a shot out of the shot glass around my neck Then that they had a stripper come and it became relaxing through fact he became large...he risk-free definitely everyone particularly my wedding ceremony celebration. Then we've been given interior the limo so no person became making use of and headed downtown to the club! Then later the adult males joined us there!! It became large...many times golf equipment enable bachelorette events in for unfastened!! They did for us! desire you have relaxing!
2016-10-01 08:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah. And they're always fun. Just sit down and set out guide lines. You can do anything you want for a bachelor party. It doesn't have to be at a strip club for men and an afternoon tea for women. Be creative. And make sure your planned night is cool with you fiancee.
2006-08-01 05:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by kaiticometrue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend just got married a couple days ago, amd we had a bachelorete and bachlore partys. she didnt care that he went to a strip club and neither did he, so i think that it just depends on you, cause i would care
2006-08-01 07:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Alina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In ontario they have stag and does witch is guy and girl party together .the best way to go I think you love your partner but you know what happends that night if not together....
2006-08-01 05:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to do one. Strippers and all! It's your right, (unless of course he doesn't agree to it). But I think you guys both deserve a night of fun. Just no touching.
2006-08-01 05:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mischelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋