I feel miserable?

Question

I'm a 14 year old boy, but everyone says I'm younger than 12. I am very shy, fat (I mean not very fat but not thin either). Everyone in my classroom thinks I am weird. When I try to do something to look good I look even dumber than before. I have no friends. Nobody likes me. What should I do?

Answer 1

awww...dude dun worry i am also 14 and i am too skinny and every1 makes fun of me but i juz deal with It. Juz Pray to god tht u hope u had some frendz tht u could share your thoughts with and all..Oh well i am not good in giving advice but those are the only thingz i can tell u sorry.


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Answer 2

hi, i know it seems hard right now. when i was your age i had the same problems.but don't worry things will get better and it will happen faster than you think. i am sorry you feel miserable. i want you to remember your life has just began. you still have a long life ahead of you and great things will happen for you. before school starts go get your hair cut and tell the hair stylist to give you a cut that will look good on you and is in style. when you go back to school it will be the new you . and i want you to feel like the new you when you walk in the door of your school. hold your head high. it's not what you look like it's how you Carrie your self. fake it until you make it. even if you don't feel confident act like you do. if someone one says something mean to you. just let it roll off you back. i know it hurts but don't let them see it. people will notice that. and every one gets made fun of. others will see that your strong and gravitate towards you. the will want to be around you. your not scrawny so you can be intimidating
Carrie your self like your tough. when you get older you will find women like that. a big strong guy makes a woman feel protected. where as a little skinny guy make a woman feel like she might need to protect him. weird is not a bad thing . you are obviously very smart. and that will get you a long way in life.also try researching on line some full jokes and funny come backs. and use them
a kids mind is easy to change . they can not like you one minute . and then you say something cool and all of a sudden they change there mind. this is how kids are. they think they don't like you because you haven't given them a reason too. so give them a reason too. i know you can do this. and school will be over soon and it will be a point in your life you will never have to go back to again.
good luck sweet heart.

Answer 3

Hi, Bloody3d,

Wow! I'm sorry to hear that. I remember being in that stage of life and how frustrating it was. I am in my late thirties now and I have the advantage of a little experience. I think it might help for you to know that what other people think of you matters only to a certain degree. Even though your classmates might look like they are confident and are getting along fine, they're probably feeling like you do--not very settled in their lives and wondering what their classmates think of them. The only difference is, they don't tell people that, so they keep it a secret to most people. I think maybe what you can do is take something you enjoy doing (even if you're not perfect at it--just that you like to do it and enjoy learning about it) and do that and maybe ask your folks to help you find people your age either in your school or maybe in some community club outside of class with that same interest. Or, sit down and write up a list (ask your mom or dad or brother or sister or some relative to help you if you like) of anything that interests you (school subjects, sports, games, anything!) and then ask your family member or relative where they think you could find other people your age who like that same thing and who get together on a regular basis. And when you talk to those kids, you both would share that same interest and you could probably find some friends there. The main thing to remember about friends is to pick people who have good character (i.e., they don't lie, don't steal, they are kind, they want to learn to be a better person, etc.)I wish you the best! I know it's hard to believe now but in a few years (I know, that seems like an eternity now!), you'll begin to gain confidence. You are a special person! Hang in there! :)

Mark

Answer 4

You should just be yourself. You're 14. If people are saying you're under 12, they're stupid. So you're weird. So am I. So is everybody. Enjoy it. Run with it. Make it something you can have fun with. Honestly, you don't need those people as friends. Join a group outside your school and see if you can meet other people with the same interests. What do you like? Swimming? Art? Music? Find a group that'll support this interest. Forget about what everybody else thinks and start thinking about what will make -you- happy. Nice friends that think you're pretty cool if a little odd.

Answer 5

When you try to seem cool; it never seems to work out. I guess the trick is to be who you are...because no one can do it better than you. Find something that you are good at, work at it, and you will be admired for it. It gets better when you get older and you gain a little confidence in yourself. Lots of boys your age begin to grow into themselves and by this time next year, you will probably look much different. Remember that what you are going through won't last forever. Maybe you could join a club or something of interest to you...then you will already have something in common with them and can make friends more easily.

Answer 6

Know that there is "nothing" wrong with you.You will grow out of being "shy" and,if you get into outside activities, you will lose the weight (chances are, you really aren't"fat" either...alot of people have a bad image of self.) Find out a few things you are really good at, and try to develop them. Try out a few things you haven't tried before, just to see if you'd like them. Don't let anyone who may be having a "problem" themselves get you down, some people don't fell happy unless they make another person sad, or mad, and I still don't know why. There are probly alot more people you know that like you than you suspect....maybe they are just too shy to tell you.

Answer 7

Join some clubs and activities: boy scouts, volunteer organizations, or play an instrument and join the school band. There are lots of school clubs that are open to new members. Also you need to be active so you can lose the excess weight. Get out on your bike, take karate lessons, or get involved with a sport. It sounds like you are too focused on yourself. If you volunteer to distribute food or go to nursing homes, you will soon find out that there are many far worse off than you and many people who need a friend.

Answer 8

You could try going out for a club that intrests you. And you could start riding bikes or walking to help lose some weight. Yes, I think that you should get off the computer right this minute, and go out and get some fresh air. The nice thing about walking is it's easy, good exercise and it gives you a chance to think. Also, people like friends that are interested in them A good way to make friends is to ask questions about the person, and listen to their answers. Don't ask questions that make them uncomfotable, just basics.

Answer 9

You should go talk to a counselor, your parents, someone you trust, anyone whom you can share your experiences and feelings too. Its never healthy to keep it all bottled up inside. One good way to make friends is to join more clubs and organizations, talk to people and find some who share the same interests as you.

I know how hard it is to be ignored by everyone else. Its not an easy thing to live by. So you should just go up and do something about it. You have talents that you can share in class, so share them. You may not know it, but someone might actually be admiring you from afar and is just too shy to approach you.

Good luck!!

Answer 10

Geez, sounds awful. First thing you can't try to do things to look good, it just doesn't work that way, I wish it did. It almost always either backfires or you end up compromising yourself in the act, so even if you succeed and people think you're cool it was 90% acting/being someone else. My advice, and I hope you take it, ask your parents to see a psychologist, there's nothing to be ashamed of, and don't just settle for the first one you go to see, if you don't like them try another.

Answer 11

The fat part - if you're 14, most likely you'll grow out of it. No friend - just hang in there, you made it this long without any, you'll survive couple more years. And once you're out of school, EVERYTHING changes, you know. And don't try to make yourself look good , if it always come out bad for you - they think you're weird, don't make them think you're stupid. Just be yourself (even if that mens BY yourself). And if you're lonely and need to talk, come back here:))