Tell me your story....... were you an only child? And if so how was your childhood/adulthood? Were you spoiled? And if you were NOT an only child how was it for you?
Would either of you have it any other way?
(We're trying to decide if it's ok to have just one child or if 2 is better)
2006-08-01 05:09:58 · 35 answers · asked by yello_flower 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i am the first of six and some days when i was a lid was better than others i was a permanent babysitter and what ever else was asked from me ...
2006-08-01 05:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by erf1960 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four sisters all much older (9 years and up)..they say that as far as siblings are concerned if the children are more than 5 years apart each child will have the "only child" personality. We studied this in psychology a few years ago. Now I have 5 children all together including a set of twins. The twins share the best but they fight the worst. I wouldnt trade this over flowing house for anything. Being that I was "the only child" growing up I always wished for a closer sibling and still do til this day.
2006-08-01 05:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an only child. The worst thing about it was that my parents argued a lot (eventually divorced). I would have liked a sibling so I didn't have to go through all that alone.
Otherwise, it was ok. Got to do a lot of things I wouldn't have been able to in a bigger family. Was not spoiled.
Personally, it's a decision you'll have to decide on your own, but I am glad my kids (son, 21 and daughter, 15) have each other.
An only child can be stereotyped as: spoiled, selfish, stuck up, shy.
Good luck w/this.
2006-08-01 05:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have siblings and I wouldn't have it ne other way. If you have sibs then you will always have some one there by you no matter what. never lonely always have some one to play with mom and dad cant tell them to go home
If you are a only child you are spoiled rude have no respect cause your mom and dad give you every thing you don't think you have to work for ne thing and all that I have a Lil boy and he is 14 months old and we are going to try to have another one when he is about 2 because I don't want a snobby child.... Good luck on whatever you choose and if you do just have one you can spoil the hell out of that child like you really want to just make sure they don't forget there are less fortunate children out there and you don't have to make fun of them just cause they don't have every thing you might have!!
2006-08-01 05:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 brothers and 1 sister. I loved my childhood. There was always someone to play with and something to do. I was never bored. I also got plenty of attention from my parents and my siblings. Whenever anyone in my family had anything whether it was a sport or a play or anything we had a HUGE support and cheering section. It was wonderful. Obviously there were times we fought and times I didn't get along with my siblings but I don't remember ever wishing I was an only child. I'm still close to my siblings and talk to them regularly even though they all live in different states than I do. It's wonderful to still have that support.
2006-08-01 05:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by gumby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was an only child for 8 years until my sister came along! It was great having a younger sibling to help take care of and learn. I am 20 weeks pregnant and we're planning on having another about a year after so we have 2 close in age.
2006-08-01 05:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by coryannewilliams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child... and I will say that I am very spoiled... I am 21 now, and out on my own.. I had an amazing childhood, but I have to say while growing up i felt like I was missing out on something not having a sibling... however, as an adult i see that i had so much more than most kids have when they have siblings... I am spoiled, by my parents, i know they would do asnything for me... I think that it made me more mature being an only child, and it made me more awear of who i was rather than trying to compete with someone else... altho i missed out on the whole having someone there to play with and be best friends with... it's a crap shot i think... My husband and I plan to have more than one child... Just becuase thats what we want... Good luck! I think more than anything you should follow your heart... it will lead you into what it best for your family...
2006-08-01 09:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Beckwith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the middle child. One sibling was always allowed to do grown up things while the younger one was spoiled. It was not a good experience by any means. My friend is an only child and she gets basically whatever she wants-not only that, her life is always problem-free. My advice-if you do have one child, do not spoil him/her. And if you have more than one, I suggest having 2. That way, they are not lonely but there will be no middle child!
2006-08-02 14:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by kid_at_heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had two brothers - I was the middle child. I didn't mind having siblings...I didn't know anything else. My older brother might have been bothered by it, but he was the only child for 5 years and them I came along. My younger brother is 14 months younger then I am so I didn't know anything but having another person around. It was nice because we were built in playmates. If I wanted to play with someone, I have someone to play with. If I wanted to be alone, I had space for that too. I would probably have liked to have a sister and not all brothers, but hey, we can't have it everything :)
2006-08-01 05:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the middle child of 3. My brother is 11 months older than I am, and my sister is 2 yrs younger. Growing up we had in-house playdates. My mom didn't have to entertain us because we had each other. There were arguments, which is normal between siblings. But my mother was very strict about how we treated each other in our family so it wasn't out of control like I see in some families nowadays. We didn't have tons of money or anything so we weren't spoiled, but we had everything we needed and didn't feel we were missing out on anything. As adults, my brother, sister and I have grown apart a little bit just because we are all so different and have chosen different paths in life. I myself have 4 children, my sister has 1 and my brother has decided not to marry or have children. I find that my sister is as busy with one as I am with 4 because she has to give so much attention to entertaining my niece. It's just about what kind of lifestyle you want to have.
2006-08-01 05:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the oldest. I have one brother 2 years younger than me and a sister 10 years younger than me. I have a great relationship with both sibs today.
I have 4 kids myself. I personally always wanted a big family. I think that it should be up to how you feel. I couldn't have only one child. I like watching how close my kids are and how well they play together. They are the best of friends and the worst of enemies. I do understand the benefits of having only one child, more money etc. But what we gave up saving money wise we get back one hundred times in laughs, kisses, and fun.
2006-08-01 05:18:04 · answer #11 · answered by mommato4boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋