Should Abortion be soley up to the woman or should the father have a say. My beef with this is When woman decides to have the baby and Dad is irresponsible for running off, BUT to say a father in this situation has no choice in the abortion is also calling him irresponsible. So if he runs off all of a sudden it's his baby too, but if she decides to abort then it was not his choice, since it's not his choice is it still his baby?
2006-08-01 05:08:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
What I'm saying is if she wants to abort and he doesn't it's popular belief that it's not his choice. I don't agree. Do you?
2006-08-01 05:19:40 · update #1
I believe that its also the man choice. I know that a woman is the one that will have to carry the baby for 9 months but if the father wants to care for the child then its a very push and shove situation. I had a exfriend carry her baby full term then once she was born she signed over all rights to the father who is taking great care of the little girl.
2006-08-01 05:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by miss giggles 3 · 11⤊ 3⤋
To me, the bottom line is always this: The government doesn't care at all about telling a man what he can or cannot do with his penis, so logically, it follows that the government or anyone else has absolutely no right to tell a woman what she can or cannot do with her uterus. I think a baby that was born and then left to die in a trash can is a lot more of a tragedy than a thing that is removed from a woman's body, especially if the father has left, or she has been raped or forced into sex in some other manner. I think the most involvement a father who has taken off on a pregnant wife or girlfriend should have in her choice to have an abortion is being forced to pay for it, the same as if the woman had given birth and he would have been forced to pay for the child he didn't care about seeing.
2006-08-01 05:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that the father should have a choice in the matter. But what I'm getting from your question is: If the father abandons the mother, and she decides not to try to raise the kid on her own and has an abortion, does the father have a right to get mad ...even though he abandoned her.
If THAT is the case, then NO, the man has no say... he didn't care enough to stick it out with the woman he impregnated so why should he care what the outcome of the pregnancy was.
And as a "bonus" to the guy, at least he won't be paying child support.
Irresponsibility entered into the matter when these two people had unprotected or under-protected sex, and the woman got pregnant, as well as when the guy decided to run for the hills instead of being as mature and adult as he thought he was when he was having sex.
2006-08-01 05:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without getting all worked up over the abortion right or wrong issue (by the way i hope to never be in a situation where i have to make that choice),
if the father-to-be wants the child, he should make it known he is willing to take full responsibility of the child. As in paying for the mother's medical bills, baby's medical care, pay for the time off for the mother to recover etc....
that's the ethical way about it. Just as if the mother kept the child and forced the father to pay child support, he should be able to do the same thing.
other issues do come up though. what if the father backs out at the last minute? decides when it's too late for the mother to get an abortion that he doesn't want to do anything with the baby? then who is stuck?
somebody has to be able to make that choice. and here's the arguement. It is the mother that is incovenienced. She has to carry the child for nine months, her body makes changes that will last her till the end of life, and she has to recover from the ordeal. Pregnancy is a full body experience. it effects you emotionally. Everything in life has to stop for this pregnancy. If adoption is a presentable issue, then by all means the mother can sign off her parental rights to the father.
But again, here's another issue. if the mother and father had been responsible in the first place, neither would have to face the consequences of having to make that choice to begin with.
2006-08-01 05:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the father should have a say whether his child should be aborted or not. Why should the woman have the sole choice? She decided to open up her legs and let a man inside of her, it takes two to make a baby, why should it only take one of them to soley decide to abort?
Pregnancy can only be prevented by having no sex at all. If the woman did not want to get pregnant, she should have not opened her legs to let another man in. Some men actually would take in the baby if the mother wishes not to have the baby, why should the man suffer for the womans decision of aborting a child, unless he agrees to it too.
You guys should google abortion pictures. It is quite discusting, and the methods and tools they use to make the abortion happen are equally as discusting.
I am a woman with 2 children and one on the way.
2006-08-01 05:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by feel_n_learn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women get to choose what happends inside their bodies, so they get to choose if they are going to have the baby or abort. Once the child is born a father can give up his rights to the child because he had no say in the child being born. I think whatever the father chooses can be a responsable choice even if it is taking no responsability for the child, it depends on the situation. Also if the mother of the child is a danger to herself it is posible that the father can stop the abortion by proving the mother isn't stable enough to make that decision, but that takes lawyers and is very hard to do.
So the father has the posiblity to have some say in either abortion or a baby, but taking responsability is up to interpretation. The fetus or the baby would still be genetically the father's child if not legally, since legally the fetus is the mother's and the father of a baby can have his rights taken away or sign them away.
2006-08-01 05:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why it is important to choose your partners carefully. I read a question a few weeks ago where a woman needed her husband to take her in for an abortion because she was getting it whether she had his help or not. That must be sooo sad for the husband, seeing as he did not believe in abortion. It is true, if she does not want to have to go through a pregnancy, she has the right to kill the baby. But for the husband, it is not fair, because that is his child too. That is why it is important to choose your partners wisely. Make sure that you don't have opposing ideas of abortion, because pregnancy can happen regardless of your precautions, and if the woman is ok with the idea of abortion, then you may not want to take the chance that she will kill your child if she does become pregnant.
2006-08-01 06:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should have a say but ultimately it is going to be the woman that carries and cares for the baby so she should decide. If he does not want an abortion then he needs to legally commit to supporting everything.
I personally don't believe in abortion for myself but don't look down on others for it. There is some support for single moms but none for the kids. They need special help because having one parent that raises you and the other not, is a hard thing to grow up with.
2006-08-01 05:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by Fantasy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree it is the dads choice also, but if the mom wants to abort then is she going to take care of the baby in her belly for 40 weeks or is she going to take every med she can to mess the baby up. Then what to do. I am totally pro life. I don't agree with an abortion in any case, but could the mom be crazy and hurt the unborn child? something to weigh out. Hope this helps
2006-08-01 05:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by jacket2230 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think abortion is wrong except in the cases of rape and medical complications that would kill the mother. In that right, I think the father should have no say so. But I think more men should sue for the right of their children. Most guys sit around wishing they could do something and never actually do anything. If more guys like you would fight for their rights a lot of children could have been saved. Draw up a petition in your area and send it to your senator and district attorney. If this is happening to you, then sue the woman and keep fighting it until something gets done.
2006-08-01 05:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Pren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think abortion is wrong and shouldn't happen. Too many people are using it as a form of birth control, which is sickening.
However, since abortion is legal, I do think that the father should have a say so in it. After all, the child is his too.
2006-08-01 05:13:35 · answer #11 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋