how do you tell your family your a les.
2006-08-01 04:40:43 · 37 answers · asked by blak_heart9099 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell them, if they love you now they will still love you no matter what your gender preference is. GOOD LUCK! XOXO
2006-08-01 04:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess you don't have to tell them I'm sure sooner or later they'll eventually figure things out themselves - that your a les... just stay true to yourself and when they finally ask you, tell them the truth I'm sure they'll understand it's you family just don't do anything stupid that would disrespect your family... Maybe at first they can't accept the fact that you're a lesbo but they still love you no matter what your sexual orientation is.. :) cheer up girl!!
Good luck!! Don't worry too much..
2006-08-01 05:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by *rocker chic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Due to the fact that I am not I have not had this problem, but my sister goes both ways and she had to tell or parents so I can sort of help you with this. She was honest and just told them to the truth. My parents were stunned and didn't know what to say for a bit but then they started talking about how they suspected it during her senior year and they told her no matter what they would always love her. Just be honest, loving parents will accept it though it may take them a while to accept the truth. Hang in there.
2006-08-01 04:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by mom2havenandlace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. Well, every situation is different. I had my parents over and waited until every one was sitting down and paying attention. I told them that I had something that I wanted them to know. Then I said, "You know that I haven't dated any guys for the last few years. That's because I don't date boys." I never used the word lesbian, because sometimes that can be sort of a shock. They asked lots of questions and I answered them all honestly. It was really hard, but totally worth it.
If you are still living with your parents, you should have a plan for what to do if they are upset. Make sure you have somewhere to go if you need to.
2006-08-01 04:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by onucoqui2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to be honest, then tell them straight out. You know them best, so know if it would be better to tell them as a group, or individually. Do you have a family member that you believe would support you if they knew? If so, perhaps tell that person first, so you've got a shoulder and some moral support when you tell those whom you think might not react positively.
Be who you are and be proud. Good luck!
2006-08-01 04:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit your parents down and tell them. Then tell your siblings separately. They all probably suspect the truth already - so don't worry about it so much.
I wouldn't be happy if one of my kids was gay (I think it's a very tough lifestyle) - but I'd get over it in a hurry because I love my kids and because I truly believe that it's not something people can change. I'll bet the people who love you will keep right on loving you without missing a beat.
2006-08-01 04:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's really only one way to do this.My daughter is a lesbian and i kinda figured it out on my own so i went to her and asked her about it and we talked it over. yes,she was embarresed.Although she felt alot better after the weight was lifted off her sholders and it was out in the open. I suggest you go to your mom first and be honest with her about your sexulality then take it from there.She will help u through this if u let her.Just do it! I just hope u have an understanding family as well as openminded,if not, some things are left better unsaid,especially if u feel this will hurt your relationship with them at this time. good-luck!
2006-08-01 05:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gather them together and tell them that you want to have a family talk. Tell them that you have a change in your lifestyle that they might or might not accept. I have a cousin and and a couple of friends that are lesbians it doesn't bother me. If your family loves you they suppose to they will understand. It might take a while but they will get over it. Be easy, and take care.
2006-08-01 04:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by red334chip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit them down and explain to them that you were born special, and special people need special things. That should be the break through to telling them you are les.
2006-08-01 04:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by U don't say 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to wean them in. First you should break up with any boyfriend you might have taken to hide your sexual orientation. Then you should make a big fuss about gay rights. Constantly talk about it. Keep talking until they are sick of it. Then you should openly flirt with girls. It will start making people wonder if you are really strait. Then, go up to your parents and tell them that you are bi. A while later you should say you are lesbian. This process worked for me so it might work for you,
2006-08-01 04:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. 1st of all I'm not sure how good my advice is gonna be because I haven't ever done anything like that before. But if your parents dont know you should deff. tell them. How are you supposed to be happy and have a life with someone you love? I mean you can't do that when its all one big fat secret. If you tell them of course they are going to react but not all reactions are bad. If they are mad or sad they will get over it. They have to. If they love you they will want you to be happy!
2006-08-01 05:40:57 · answer #11 · answered by bonnie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋