If your signifigant other told you that they were dying because they were afraid of losing you when you were moving away, what would you do when you found out that they made that lie up in the name of love? This person is insecure about themselves and love, and they were really afraid of losing me. If she really loves me, and i really love her, what would you do if you were me? Also, we have been having problems recently anyway, and the relationship at times seems less than healthy. What would you do, and could you forgive the person?
2006-08-01 04:40:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Always forgive. It's not healthy to carry around guilt. I say this to you "Set her free,and if it's meant to be,it will be. Sounds as if you guys really need sometime a lone to get your situation under control. LOL
2006-08-01 04:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by GERRI B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They ARE going to miss you, whether they are insecure or wateva. But unless the reason you're moving is to get away from them, that reason has not changed and neither should your decision to move. What should you do about the lie?? You don't have to do anything ..... revenge is not the answer. You're moving anyway, so you'll be leaving that problem behind. If you feel angry cause they lied, say so. But focus on how YOU feel about what they did, and not on what they did. And if you can't forgive them now, give urself time to get to the stage where you can forgive them, so you can get on with ur life without unforgiveness lingering inside you
2006-08-01 04:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by LoneWolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldnt. That is very coniving to me, not loving. She was willing to lie to you about something THAT important when the adult thing to do would have been to just tell you how she really felt. Sounds like she has too many issues of her own and needs to resolve those before she can be in a relationship with someone.
2006-08-01 04:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by katybeth212001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive this person only because you love him. But really interfering with someones life because they do not want to be without you was very selfish. If you love someone you do not make up a lie and hold them back. You asked us this question, but really in your heart you know what is best for you. I would personally forgive the person because I love them, but this is not someone I could be with, because there are no limits to the lies they will tell me. Please please please following your heart. Remember someone who loves you would not go so far as to say I'm dieing.... He is insecure, and very possessive...crazy! watch out!
2006-08-01 04:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
less than healthy is an understatement. They said they were dying to keep you... thats downright disturbing. If you truly love this person, you could go into counseling with them and try to fix it. But, you might be better off to just run for the hills.
2006-08-01 04:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Joking and lying about death is not forgivable. How can she even think about stooping so low to use that? If the love is strong enough it will survive the move but you should not use such lie to keep someone close. Its wrong.
2006-08-01 04:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would easily forgive but not forget~ U lied about dying to me. I do not think she is the one for you cause that little lie could of turned into a BIG mess. what if you died because of the hurt of her dying then what> sick sick sick.. Just move on
2006-08-01 04:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by HotPucci220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide if you want to continue in relationship with her, and if you love her. If so, stand by her and you will from time to time have to reassure her. It seems you already know her ins and outs. Show her by your actions not your words. You should forgive her as we all know sometimes love makes us do stange things.. Have a good conversation with her... Take care and good luck.
2006-08-01 04:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might need some more info. Are you moving and they lied to keep you here? Thats bad. Its hard to be with someone who is insecure and you cant build their self-esteem they have to believe in themselves. You need to sit down and have a serious discussion. If you cant trust someone you cant be with them. Good Luck.
2006-08-01 04:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship should never be based on a lie. This is a very BIG lie. Move on.
2006-08-01 04:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by onucoqui2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋