my bf is not talking to me since 50 days now coz of jealous due to my doing salsa with a handsome guy on 14thjune...till 10th july i mesgd him and said sorry's, acted proudly also telling him he's wrong, at times i appologised, i mean i kept mesging something or the other. then on 10th july i mesgd him that i will never contact as he doesnt wan me to. he remained silent again as he had promised that he will never contact me coz of salsa...then all through july...i ignored him when ever we crossed on road as he also ignored but looked at me when i wasnt looking at him. he also mesgd that his blood boils when he sees my face and wants to hit my car with a stone, also his heart tells him that he should slap me...but i remained silent. now i hav thought of a solution...jus tell me should i...-"MESG HIM AFTER A FEW DAYS THAT YES HE IS RIGHT IN HIS DECISION THAT HE SHOULDNT TALK TO ME OR REPLY ME. AS HE HAD ALWAYS BEEN MY WELL WISHER...SO HE HAS ALL THE RIGHT TO DECIDE. AND THAT I WILL NEVER COME IN HIS WAY AND HE IS FREE TO MAKE ANY GIRLFRIEND...I HAD HURT HIS SENTIMENTS AFTER HIS TELLING ME NOT TO DANCE WITH OTHER GUY, I STILL DANCED SO I AM AT FAULT AND HE SHOULD NEVER LOOK AT ME ALSO." NOW GUIDE ME AS I KNOW I AM NOT AT FAULT BUT HE THINKS I AM SO WHY NOT COMPLY WITH HIS BENT OF MIND TO WIN HIM BACK...WILL THIS ASSURITY HELP AND BRING HIM BACK TO ME AND WILL HE CONTACT ME???
2006-08-01 04:37:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him be. Stay away from him. You don't need to bother with someone like that. Move on.
2006-08-01 04:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you went and did the salsa with another guy after being asked not to by a boyfriend, then you were most definitely in the wrong, deserve what you are getting and should just let him get on with his life. Stop contact as it's quite obvious he is through with you. More you try, more he'll despise the attention. Get the hint girl, and leave well enough alone.
2006-08-01 11:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens if some real serious conflict happened? I think that you would be better off without him as he does not seem to be the type to work on a relationship. Yes you may be at fault for dancing with someone else knowing he would get angry , but he is as much at fault for not talking with you afterwards. In order for a realationship to survive then thrive there MUST be communication therefore it is time to let this one go as this is very lacking. Good luck one future relationships I wish you the best.
2006-08-01 12:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make a decision....Do you really want to be with someone that says he will smash your car? Next time it may be you that he is smashing. You deserve to have your own fun! I would have done the salsa with another man as well, if my bf wasn't interested. Your happiness is #1. Believe me, my husband of 13 yrs doesn't dance, and I found someone else to dance with. (It's a secret though) I had the time of my life. Then I go back home to my boring husband. I am not proud of it, but I have to move on for my own personal happiness.
2006-08-01 11:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by dtammyus♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't message him or contact him in any way. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and if he genuinely cares for you, let him make the first move. It is also stupid for you to feel guilty for dancing with a person you don't know - but it is equally stupid for your guy to be mad at you for dancing with someone else. Just that fact alone makes me think that any relationship with this man is doomed - if he's jealous of you dancing with someone and wants to throw rocks at your car, what would he do if there was something serious that happened? He needs to learn anger management, and you need to steer clear of him and find someone more mature.
2006-08-01 11:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you are at fault. First you have a bf and that bf asked you not to dance with another man. I dont think that is too much to ask of you. You have handled this thing wrong from the beginning. It is your fault and you dont think it is. You guys dont think the same so why would you want him back ? Go dance with other guys.
2006-08-01 11:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wasting your love on the wrong guy. Love doesn't have to hurt or be violent. You're lucky he's the one who broke it off. If you get him back, one day this guy is going to hurt you. You owe him one more text. Tell him that you will honor his decision and go on with your life.Wish him luck with his new love, day goodbye and say away from him.
You are so lucky, you may feel lonely now, but better is coming around the corner. No more death wish guys.
Good hunting
2006-08-01 11:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be in a relationship with someone so insecure, of course you wont dance salsa with another guy, but what if you have a buisness dinner with another guy or something like that, you cant stay home. it is not healthy for thier to be insecurities in a relationship, you need to have fun with life. I think you should move on. whatever you do, dont give him the pleasure of rejecting you as your crying on his doorstep(take that metaphoricly).
2006-08-01 11:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a guy who wants to slap you or stone your car. he is nuts. if you want to go into a relationship where you already know that the guy is just waiting to slap you around, your not dealing with a full deck yourself. be glad he showed you what it is that you don't need in a man before you got closer to him. if he cared about you he could not have stayed away for 50 days, he is just into controlling you. or anybody else for that matter. he is not mentally well. move on to someone else, and don't ever look back.
2006-08-01 11:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Debi K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you have asked this question numerous times.He sounds like a very jealous and unstable person someone that u dont need in ur life.He has been out of picture for over a month obviously he does not want to be with you anymore the best thing to do is move on and let it go.
2006-08-01 11:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want someone back that is jealous and tries to control your life? Move on...drop the drama and let him go on with his life as you should go on with yours...
He's behaving like a spoiled child (and a mean one saying he wants to throw rocks at you). He's potentially violent and that could lead to being an abuser on down the road.
Protect yourself and get away from this guy...he's bad news.
2006-08-01 11:44:14 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋