Ever noticed how holier-than-thou types are always eager to bash/judge you & your question b4 they even fully?

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understand what you're talking about? Even if you are on the same page as they are they still try to insult you and nail you to a cross. What's the deal with that? If you are more moral or holy shouldn't you try to live your life as an example and seek first to understand and then to be understood? I think when they try to insult me it makes them look like hypocrites and imbeciles.. what do other people think? and have you had this done to you?

Answer 1

DISCLAIMER: I am about to potentially offend people. This is NOT the spirit I offer my thoughts in. I am stating an opinion. I may generalize, but only to make my point. I KNOW there are true followers of Jesus. I'm talking about the OTHER kind...

I call it "Hiding behind the Bible". And my experience has been that few of these "holy ones" sincerely follow the WWJD model.

I fully respect the idea of religion, however, it too often becomes the rationale for hate, exclusion and righteous rhetoric. Total waste of precious time talking, excusing, condeming, rather than sincerely wanting to heal the world. "Healing" as in accepting differences and celebrating commanalities,(that sounded painfully rhetoric, but I'm sincere).. truly living their lives on principals of kindness, compassion...like the Jesus I learned about.

Thanks for serving as a perfect example, Jack. A perfect illustration to my points above.

Answer 2

You will be judged accordingly to how you judge others...first are they judging you or just telling you something that you don't want to hear because you know that you are wrong but just want somebody to tell you that you are right? There's always a reason we feel a certain way. Remember whenever you air out dirty laundry on an open board such as this, you will get alot of reactions. You can't just expect everyone to give you the answer you want to hear, because we all come from such diverse backrounds. I would take everything with a grain of salt honestly, since you don't know anyone who's answering your question. I also have news for you, not so holy and moral people also share the same values sometimes, it's all in the way you are raised and what you believe is important, so to go around expecting everyone to be so understanding and forgiving all the time is a bit hypocrytical of you don't you think? It goes both ways.

Answer 3

I agree that some may do so, but I also think it would be a mistake to think ALL do such. And besides...so many that are not Holier-than-thou types do it so much as well (if not more). So, you must hope these idiotic imbeciles learn and grow and in the meanwhile, ignore them. Here's a quote that may help:

"Sometimes silence is the best answer."

It's very true in most cases. People are always looking to fight back on and on just to really nail each other down hard, but learn yourself to stop doing that (if you do, that is). Anyway, so far in my life, not many have done it, but when they do I intend to keep silent or if necessary, to fight back with respect and firmness and nothing more, nothing less.

Thank you for reading and I hope I answered you (at least a bit). :)

Answer 4

I apologize if you are speaking about my previous post. I had no intention of putting your post negative.

I do see pople do this and I walk away thinking WTF???
I did private duty ONCE for this woman. When I arrived, my job in her mind was to be a slave. I'm a nurse and she wants me to clean up dog urine and put down papers in her bathroom before I even assess her. It was down hill after that. She was wealthy, a high level community leader, and believed in God/Jeshua. I had a horrible day in her presence and that is the impression I will have forever. Think she would ever lead me to want to live her life? Absolutely Not!

A pastor and wife in our city treat their neighbors like dirt. Never a kind word comes out of their mouth to their neighbor. Theses people are on TV & radio. The wife talks down to the servicepeople that come to the home. I'm told he's nice & normal. BUT, I see her at Victoria's Secret alot. She's not buying the pink collection or cologne either. $300 a pop silk garments by the bagfuls. Don't like what I see when her 16 year-old daughter came with her once too.

So, yea, I do think that there's a pride in some people that place the public beneath them. But, I believe you posted it best to try to live your life as an example of what you feel is wholesome and then try to be understood. I feel approachable in my skin than in the above two scenarios.

Answer 5

i find that people often don't even fully read a question/answer before responding ! i always find it strange that several different people can read the same thing and get very differing messages. don't ask me why but thats the way it is. one thing you got to do is realize that these (well all people) are fallible and subject to their own upbringing and preconcieved ideas, that includes us too...you just have to be patient, read carefully and try to understand where others might be coming from. in saying that though sometimes i have figure out some people at all then its necessary to not take it personal and ignore them.....its not just the holier than thou types its everyone now days that seem to take the attitude of bash/judge first rather than truly listen to someone....plus i think some people just get a thrill out of hurting/bashing/judging others...if you ask me they have worse problems than those they are bashing...hang in there as there are those who may not understand all of the point you're trying to make but they are willing to listen fully and respond politely.

Answer 6

Yep...I've had that same thing done to me. I asked a question once about the best way to bond with my baby. I explained that I was inexperienced with babies and was worried about properly bonding. Some lady told me to put my baby up for adoption because I was obviously an unfit mother. Excuse me?

People are definatly on a moral high-horse sometimes...and they feel comfortable hiding behind their computers and insulting people. And the worst is when they don't understand your question...that drives me crazy. I find myself "over explaining" every single question I ask in order to avoid the 'crazies' telling me to put my child up for adoption.

Good point.

Answer 7

yeah, it happens, but that's the risk you take by putting up a question that may be "controversial".
the criticism can be pretty tought to take, but if it really bothers you, then either focus on mostly answering questions or just be REALLY specific in your question and details.

try not to let it get you down. some people want the world to be run eactly as they see fit...they don't stop to realize there are 6BILLION+ personalities on this planet and no one is the same. their effort on conformity is futile, so think about that next time someone ticks you off.....

that's what comforts me...that someone is getting so worked up over someone's life who they don't even know. i mean, why not focus on yourself??

hope this helped!

i just posted what i thought to be a dangerous question, but i have prepared myself to get "bad mommy" responses...so that was my choice!

take care!

Answer 8

obviously people who think they are holier than thou are hypocrites. i happen to think that most people who need god in their lives are imbeciles as well. it's a nice thought to say god is out there, but to say "i am nothing without god" is totally weak.

most of all i want to say that your picture for your avatar is really gorgeous!

Answer 9

go back to the seventies... you hippy. And we're all hypocrites, in one way or another, so in the end, the question that should be asked is why do you care?

Answer 10

"Nail you to a cross" that's classic.

In any case, you are pregnant and not married right?