I have a seirious quetion, and I need serious answer!?

Question

Im 13 years old and my mom just walked out on us. I feel it my fault because we were on the phone and i swung phone up because my poodle umped on me while i was talking and so it sounded like i had a tone and she came home packed her stuff and left. we tried to stop her but she said we all talked and treaded her like a dog and i dont know what I should do now.... help.

Answer 1

call her and say come back or i'll fling poop at you

Answer 2

Don't blame yourself - you're only 13 years old and your mother is supposed to be the responsible one. No adult would walk out just because you swung the phone. Your mother may just need some time alone, or she may be suffering from depression and needs to see a doctor. It is hard to raise teenagers but it isn't impossible. If you can let her know that you love her, need her and will start acting more responsibly, that would probably help. Being a mom is difficult but it's not an excuse to run away from your family.

Answer 3

Wow. It is totally not your fault, first of all. Many moms are treated like dogs by their children, but they don't walk out on them. She might have other issues, and cannot deal with her stress very well, this has nothing to do with you.

You should just give her some space, and try to focus on your own life and things that make you happy. I know that it is really hard to do, maybe impossible to not think about this, but you can't let her bring you down, it is out of your control what she does. You are not responsible in any way for her actions. She is the adult and should know better than to leave her children alone and wondering what they did wrong.

Answer 4

I know it will be hard not to blame yourself, but you can't. If your mom has walked out on you, it wasn't just one thing that caused it. If you had not done what you had done, which I did not totally understand, then someone else would have done something that set her off.
When someone walks out of any type of relationship, it isn't just one thing that causes it.
There was probably a lot more going on that you don't even know about. Some of it could have been stuff involving your mom herself that doesn't even involve the family.
Don't blame yourself and when and if she returns, you might want to go easier on her because she is obviously under a lot of stress.

Good Luck and I wish you well.

Answer 5

all moms feel this way at times because we are so taken for granted, and don't feel that we are loved as much as we love. give her time. if you have a father there, give her all the time she needs. if you don't have a father there, call a relative tonight and explain the situation to them, and tell them you need some guidance and help. if you have a dad there, it may that she just felt overwhelmed. if there is not a dad there, there may be the drug issue.she may be just trying to scare you, and make you see her as an important person, or maybe she is into drugs. whatever, don't let the night pass without calling a relative, because you need them, and maybe your mom does too. call relatives on her side. i hope everything works out well for your family. please let us know if you are ok. it is not your fault, by the way.

Answer 6

she must have had many reasons to do what she did,but please don't blame yourself I know right now that's probably hard and you feel hurt and rejected I know how you feel my mum walked out when I was 15 and 17 years on we still have issues. Is your Dad still around? Or other family you can turn to who will listen because it ISN'T your fault and you do need family to help and support you through all the confusion you feel right now. I hope things get a little better and if you want to talk to someone who knows what you are going through send me a message.



Sarah

Answer 7

First off its not your fault. There are problems with your mom that has nothing to do with you. Just be the best daughter that you can be and love your mom. Right now she may be just very sad and feeling overwhelmed with her life and needed to take a break. I know that leaving is not the best way to handle herself, but its what she knows. Sit tight and things will work out the way they are supposed to. And talk to your dad about how you are feeling he is probably sad to.

Answer 8

DO NOT think that it is your fault.
Parents split all the time.It sounds like maybe your mom is in some sort of depression and she needs a little space.Hopefully she can get to see a therapist to help her with whatever is at the root of her feelings.
Again please do not blame yourself maybe you should talk to someone as well like a student counsellor or a therapist cause there is nothing worse than a child growing up with guilt about the split up of parents.
Good luck to you and i hope your family works it out.

Answer 9

I have felt this way with my children a time or two. Children have no understanding what it takes to care for and nurture them. It's very hard work and mothers are very selfless in caring for their children ..you kids need to show appreciation for the hard work. You may not always agree, but we as adults have a lot of knowledge and wisdom to go along with the years. Stop taking your mom for granted, show her appreciation and let her know you love her. It hurts so much when you sacrifice and bend over backwards for your children and they walk all over you like you have no feelings.

Answer 10

First of all, it's not your fault. She has probably had this planned for awhile, and she used the phone incident as an easy excuse to go. Is there a dad in the picture?
Hang in there, kiddo. It will get better.

Answer 11

More than likely it may be something else going on with her. But if you really feel like it's your fault maybe you all need to show her how much you appreciate her and do something for her for once. Even though mother's day only comes around once a year we still need to show our mom's that we care and that we are thinking about them and that we appreciate everything that they do for us.