My mother owns a business does she come in! I run her office all the time! she calls me saying she has chest pain and lays in bed all day then she says her house needs cleaning..my brother and stepfather live there..she is putting alot on my shoulders !What can I do? You only have your mom once but im going crazy!
2006-08-01 04:27:59 · 21 answers · asked by aquaris01975 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother must have a lot of confidence in you and your ability to run things.and we do only have one mother and if she is having chest pains call a ambulance and be there and make sure her husband isn't causing it.If your brother lives there too its his responsibility more than yours to clean house,just because he is a man doesn't doesn't get him off the hook.Your lazy stepfather,if he cares about your mother needs a good boost,ask him why he doesn't help and does he care what happens to your Mother.Be strong and force full you must be or you couldn't run the business and you should be a full partner.I'm a man and i do my own house work,i don't expect my daughters to come in and do it for me.You need to take care of your self too..Marshall.
2006-08-01 04:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by freshstart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it from an older Salty Dog darlin'----if you will---they'll let you
Then--after just a very short while---they'll expect you to
Then--not much longer than that --if you don't--they'll go rabid on you for "shirking your duty"
And just the lest little trip beyond that--they'll be ordering you around like a bound slave
Stop this abuse NOW
When the subject of her dirty house comes up---bring up the fact that there are two able bodied people living there who evidently don't do much---let her know that you have quite enough to do
If you do not end this or get it curtailed in some way---it will only get worse and you will simply crack under what is to come !!!
2006-08-01 11:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs to get professional help if she is having chest pains and I suggest she get tested to see if she has any heart problems. It could also be acid reflux disease. I'd volunteer to accompany her to the doctor so I could hear firsthand the test results. If she has a genuine medical problem, she's not a psycho. But if she is feigning chest pains to manipulate you, then you, your brother and stepfather need to stage an intervention and let her know you are on to her and you aren't going to clean the house and do her work for her.
2006-08-01 11:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom seems stressed out. Perhaps she needs a full medical exam to rule out heart disease, and then a new exercise regimen, maybe including yoga.
As for all the manual labor, perhaps its time she hired some outside help to come regularly and keep the house clean if she no longer wants to do it herself. That could ease some of the stress too.
Please look into some of these solutions, as you don't want to take on her stress. It will give you worry lines in your forehead and make you crazy!
Good luck.
2006-08-01 11:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she got a lots of stress from work and she maybe just sucking
of the stress inside with her.maybe she not facing some issues
from work the way she should.maybe she too nice to her
custemers.them when she come home she wants to relax.
she may need some time off from her business. go out town.
please! just put your self in her position. think about it.
is not easy as it may looks.she probably work too much n too
hard!..i think she needs a break!
2006-08-01 11:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Novato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to tell your mother No sometimes now that you are an adult. You maybe can talk to your brother and stepfather to get them to pick up some slack. You are a woman, trick them into helping. ha ha ha
2006-08-01 11:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well chest pains she needs to go see a doctor as far as thehouse tell your brother to help keep it cleanand ask your step dad if he can help 2 he lives there as well or ask your mom can she affors to hire a cleaner to come in once or twice a week to clean up as well explain to her that yourone person and you cant do everything
2006-08-01 11:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, many props to you for spelling "psycho" right, there aren't enough people on Earth these days that can.
Second, make her pay you or suddenly disappear, or what'll really get her is take her to the hospital and have her checked out.
2006-08-01 11:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her. Tell her you feel. The more you continue to let her do it to you the more you will feel bad. Tell your mother to ask your brother and father to take turn and run the business. She probably thinks that you are more responsible than them (don't you think).
2006-08-01 11:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by red334chip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may have depression. I would encourage her to see a Dr. and get back into life. I know that you love her and sometimes we need a little push so have a heart to heart talk about how you feel and your concerns for her and for yourself. Good luck
2006-08-01 11:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Janis G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋