Back in June, my girlfriend of a year dumped me. A month later I found out that she's gotten engaged to a guy she was cheating on me with.
I still hurt, because I love her very much. I know I shouldn't still love a cheater, but she and I were so close that I felt that I would never find anyone that could love me like she did. Now, it seems that I don't matter.
How does one heal a broken heart after a situation such as this? How do I convince myself that I'm not going to be alone for the rest of my life (seeing as that's how I feel)?
2006-08-01 04:18:02 · 14 answers · asked by Steven W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course you are hurting. If you truly love someone then they are unfaithful, you lose more than just your trust, you lose self--confidence and get a bruised ego. Give yourself time to heal. You WILL HEAL. This may happen to you again sometime, but can be avoided by looking in the right places and remembering that for every "cheater" there are millions of wonderful girls who are looking for a good, sensitive guy, like yourself, so keep on dating but take your time.God has a plan for each of our lives and we should keep in daily contact with Him so that when "Miss Right" comes along you will recognize her as someone who will keep your trust as carefully as she will expect you to keep her trust in you. Forget the cheater she is not worth the pain.
2006-08-01 04:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by daisyP 1 · 17⤊ 1⤋
They say, "Time heals all wounds", and it's true to a certain extent. When you're young, a year seems like a long time. And when you've had a close relationship and are hurting it seems like you'll never be able to feel that way again.
My advice: accept that you're going to feel bad for awhile, but commit yourself to eventually remembering the good times, not allowing the experience to make you cynical or put you off of getting into another relationship - and when you're ready, jump in again. You will meet someone else who you fall in love with and from that vantage point you'll be able to laugh a bit at what you're going through now. Hang in there, you'll see.
2006-08-01 04:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by rj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The exact same thing happened to my fraternity brother after a relationship of two years. He is doing much better now. Obviously she had issues with your relationship. She wasn't happy. The best way to get over this is to move on and get her out of your mind. Don't talk to her and don't see her for at least six months. Just give yourself time and put yourself out there. Try and develop some meaningful relationships and friendships and a close support system that you can turn to.
Just give it time you'll be fine.
2006-08-01 04:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rare Hero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, don't forget there are plenty of fish in the sea! Someone who has cheated on you and lied along with it, isn't worth crying over. You must realize that your a great person with good morals. Give yourself time to heal and keep yourself busy with positive outings with friends and family.Love one self and think highly. Don't settle for anything less. We all must have genuine people in our livies that we can trust and won't be out to hurt us. My son is going through the same sort of drama. I tell him to be active and stay away from dishonest people. You hang around with trash, you will live like trash! You are much better than this, so wake up and see the light. There is someone out there that thinks like you and is loving, and caring of your every day needs. Set goals for yourself and follow them through. Good Luck AND Keep Smiling!
Cocoa
2006-08-01 04:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you have to realize that she didn't really love you in the first place, and you weren't as close as you thought. In the long run you're better off finding out now then later.
Next, there is not a whole lot else you can do except give it time. Time does heall all wounds.
2006-08-01 04:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by TheDoctor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad there are just a few good guys out. To really find a guy that loves a lady like you do is very hard to find. Too bad her lost. Love can't be defined by anyone. Only a few in the have experienced it and even they can't explain it.
Find a girl and say this.
Take my heart, body, and soul,
Cherished them the same way i have cherish yours.
2006-08-01 04:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by kittykat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but is she the only woman on planet earth? you're too romantic, just dump this cheating B. I. T. C. H who did not honor your relation and go find a nice and faithful gf. Let her enjoy marriage to her ram and I'll bet you that she'll make him grow horns in no time. Once a cheat always a cheat.
2006-08-01 04:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you feel you were close to her, she obviously didn't feel the same way. That should help you in trying to move on.. Think about that you were giving all and she wasn't.. Get right back out there and start dating again someone is outhere waiting for you.. Don't miss them or the oppourtunity! Take care and good luck....
2006-08-01 04:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, u gotta understand reality, and be alrite with the fact that she's gone & no more yours....
just cuz she cheated on you, and you fell in love with her head over heals, it doesn't mean you can't fall in love in again... It'll definitely take time... & it'll seem like forever.. But if you go through it, you'll find yourself getting back on your own feet..
Life's always about facing ups & downs.. Keep ur chin up... Take it one day at a time...
You'll definitely fall in love again.... Trust me... You just gotta wait....
All the best....
2006-08-01 04:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've learned that if someone wants to walk outta your life, let them go. They'll realize what they had, but by then it'll be too late for them. Just keep yourself up, and if they don't come back to ya, then you really didn't need them anyway. Someone else will come along if you keep your head up and look past the past, trust me. You don't have to forget, but don't let it get to you really badly either.
2006-08-01 04:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jammy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋