i need help wih my teen son that wont go to school plus he has adhd?

Question

he wont got to school he has adhd . so every day challange for the both of us i just need help with geting into a school program that he feels good being in

Answer 1

Have you talked to him in dpeth about why he won't go to school? Does he have an IEP? Were teachers unsupportive? Is he bored? You may want to look for a private school but here in Ohio those are rare and expensive. A good tutor or psychologist who deals with ADHD could really help. I have ADHD. I happened to like school but it was really really hard. You just keep doing things WRONG! Knowing about the fact I had ADHD (diagnosed at 25) and learning I wasn't alone and there was a reason things wrere like this helped. So did finding other who could help me with it online and off. There are a couple of good books on teeens and ADHD that you should be able to pick up at a large chain bookstore or online. Offhand can't remember what thy are.

Answer 2

We have Denver Academy which deals with learning disabled children. Maybe this school knows of a similar school in your area.

Many ADHD children are successfully medicated, so it may not be ADHD that is holding back your son. He may be more of a hands-on learner in which case you need to find a school with a different style. Or he may be depressed. Another possibility is that he is seeking instant gratification in which case he will be eager to do those things that provide pleasure but will not be interested in those things that require work.

Sylvia Rimm is a psychologist who has written one or more books about educational motivation.

You probably don't want to homeschool him if he doesn't want to do school work.

How are his standardized test scores? If they are really good, you could possibly list him as a homeschooler and hire a few tutors to get him through the rest of school. You could also enroll him at the local community college as part of homeschooling (otherwise they sometimes want a high school diploma) and have him take a few oddball courses to see what profession would suit him.

There are educational consultants throughout the country. Many have written books which are available online and through your local library. You can consult with these consultants through phone calls or by visiting.

There is a great guy near the Carolinas who has written several excellent books on student learning issues and brain function issues. He has an entire institute that thoroughly evaluates each child. I've forgotten his name, but his books are available in the library and through Amazon. Maybe a search on "learning disabilities" would reveal his name.

Answer 3

ADHD is a myth, like Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and Global Warming. For the most part, the problem is with the school system, not the students and they'll want to drug him if he shows signs of wanting to be a normal male. Most of them have now even outlawed recess and gym class because someone might not be able to do as many knee bends as others

I'm sure others here who have experience in other programs can provide some viable solutions.

Answer 4

Have you tried home schooling? That would be an option that a lot of states don't have a problem with. Maybe if he has the one on one attention from you he will discover what he is good at. You could also try changing his school. He may actually be having problems at that school with other kids making fun of him. I remember not wanting to go to school when I was much younger because the kids used to make fun of me and beat me up everyday. When I went to high school, I went to a school that no one from my grade school was at. I had a much better time in school and I was always at school early and I did my homework. You could talk to the principal and his teachers to find out if this is the case, where he is being bothered by his classmates. You could also talk to him and see why he doesn't want to go.

Answer 5

Well, if you have the available time and the drive, homeschooling can work for you. Personally, we start school early in the day, when ds is awake, fresh, not half way through a movie or game etc. We do math first (always math first) and then science and on and on. When I look at him and say to myself
A) he's not getting this information
B) He's done, he needs a break, I've lost him
Then I can either send him outside to play or give him art/music to do. Rather than teach something with a 2 inch deep book, we GO to places (museums, farms, stores, displays) or we just try something different.

My son spent a lot of his earliest years playing Jumpstart (first grade, second grade, etc) and Reader Rabbit games, scrabble, other online sites (like brainpop.com) etc. He is a hands on learner. To sit and read, read, read is boring for lots of us.

Answer 6

Hi, my son also didn't want to go to school and had terrible trouble concentrating.

I decided to try independant studies, he goes twice per week for tests and does the workbooks at home. Since he started, hes getting good grades now and feels better about himself.

Sometimes in a big school, children who have ADHD or just dont like crowds do better with home schooling or independant studies.

If you live in California, they have one of the best programs for this.

Answer 7

That is exactly right, he needs to feel good about the progam he is in and be with teachers that understand the condition ADHD and can accomodate succh students. Has he been clinically diagnosed with that? The school should be aware and make arrangements that you and he and the teachers he encounters can accept.

You may have to send him to another district. With the support from the school and yourself, if he stills feels frustrated with his learning (which is probably why he doesnt want to go to school) than maybe it is time to see a doctor about medication as a last resort. I hear it can improve concentration tremendously.

Answer 8

First off, the ADHD stuff is baloney. He's a guy, he has energy. People were not designed to sit in a classroom all day, of course he's going to resent it.
As for him not wanting to go to school. Does he care about learning? If he does, homeschooling him should be pretty easy, just have him read a wide variety of subjects.
If he doesn't want to learn, he can always work at McDonald's for the rest of his life.

Answer 9

There are programs for children with ADHD. Check with your local, county and state health services. Most counties will have a Child Protective Services, or a Mental Health Department.

To find your counties web site, just do a yahoo search on your county.

Answer 10

Since this is the homeschooling section, I would recommend homeschooling. I am meeting more and more homeschooled kids with adhd whose parents have pulled them out because it's just not a good fit with school. With homeschooling, you can set up a schedule that works best for him and you can pick the type of work that's best for him.