they kick and fight all the time i have two little girls and they get very scared when they come to stay (they live with there mom)
my partner have had loads of rows with them and even treated them but nothing works it now getting to the point my partner dont want to see them but i would feel like i have split him from his boys can anyone help (his ex wife hates us as well so she is filling there head with nasty things )
2006-08-01 04:11:05 · 3 answers · asked by kitthekat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh just to let the first person know
she left him for another man
we have know each other 3 years we have only been living with other 9 months so how long should we wait!!!!
2006-08-01 04:28:50 · update #1
That is the problem then - their Mother. You need to talk to her (or your partner does) to try to make her realise that in the long run she is only damaging the kids. She should get herself a life of her own, suggest her going out when you have the kids?
Believe me - me and my partner are going through the same!
We found keeping him away from other kids, and playing in the park etc and going cinemas stopped him being naughty for a while too.
Hope that helps - I sympathise!
2006-08-01 04:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry to be the one to tell you this---even though you probably already know---but there will be no real peace in that house because those children are in the middle of a sinful relationship. You know it's wrong to live with a man that isn't your husband. And you are certainly not those children's mother. In fact, you have absolutely no rights to the discipline, the choices, or the decisions that will need to be made for those children. You are merely the live-in "sexual service person" and live-in babysitter.
You may do well to see how you and you "boyfriend" are misbehaving and how your sins are affecting the children that are innocent and who have to live in your sinful situation. They should be able to reap blessings from a marriage, not reap the consequences of a sinful relationship.
You already know this, but ---here's a reminder:
"What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from you desires that battle within you? You want something but dont' get it. You murder and cove, but you cannot ahve what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives that you waste on what you get on your pleasures. You adlterous people, don'to you know that frienship with the world is hatred toward God? Anyone who chooses the voices of the world becomes an enemy of God." James 4:1-4
2006-08-01 06:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a kid's family breaks up, the last thing they need is their parents' love lives to cope with, let alone children of people their parents' are having love lives with.
You should date, not live-in. You should keep your dating life away from your kids for years, so your kids can heal from their family being destroyed. And, you shouldn't date much - see previous clause.
You should be devoting yourselves to them, not forcing them to adapt to your life. it's outrageous, really, what parents subject their kids to these days.
2006-08-01 04:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋