I have been living with this guy for 7 years. I am not denying that he has done good things for me and so did I. He just does not want to move out of his mama's house and he hitts me. His mother is involved in everything we do. When I got in the relationship I was 16 years old. He made me ran away from home. Now that I am 23 I feel like there is a better future for me. I want to go to school and do other things. He says he will hurt me if I ever left.
What he fails to understand is that I am not the 16 year old he met years ago - I am smarter and realized I made mistakes. I want to get out quick. He has been very abusive through the years and I feel like I need to get out and find freedom. I lost touch with most my family and old friends.
Do I just ask the police to help me get my stuff out of the house? I really don't want to get hurt. I don't have friends . all my friends are his friends. I need out right now. I have had it. Help me please. I am scared.Sorry for gramar mistake.
2006-08-01 04:01:43 · 24 answers · asked by K.S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
His mom is a nurse. she is gone to work. he is at work too. I have no children at all. I will pack my little things and go, but where? I only have $16.00 in quaters. We were never married even though he introduces us as husband and wife to people. I will pray and leave in an hour.
2006-08-01 04:19:11 · update #1
You do need to leave and fast! I would suggest calling your mom & Dad and explain that you made a bad choice and you need them, they will not turn their back on you your their daughter and that is an unconditional love. I would also suggest getting your stuff organized for the move while he is asleep and possibly loadind you car so he can't see the stuff If you don't want to move stuff out in the middle of the night because you are affarid he will wake up the load the car and wait until he goes to work then move out. Take all important stuff 1st. Don't be affarid to ask mom and dad to come over just incase he comes home. Good Luck!
2006-08-01 04:10:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jill1012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's really good you realize your mistakes. You need to go to the police and i think they would help you get all your stuff then when you leave to another state or something you make sure that this guy won't know where you are going and won't even think of the place you would go. If he has been abusive and still is there is no question about it you need to get out right away. This is unhealthy and there is so much more in life for you. You can go to school get a job start a career. LEAVE him NOW and start your life there is so much more for you. I hope this helps just remember if you do anything make sure you have police involoved and you are not alone with him ever again. Good Luck and i hope everything works out for the best. If you get out let us know or let me know, Good Luck. : )
2006-08-01 11:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, contact your local women's shelter and go there immediately! They will provide you with a network of professionals free of charge that can help you reach all the goals in your life. Forget about possesions, clothes, etc. All that is immaterial, you are what's important. They have the ability to keep you safe.
Second, contact your family. They are your support mechanism in this whole ordeal. they are the ones who will come to bat for you, be honest and open just like you were here. They will help you.
Third, once there, contact local police. They can issue either a peace bond or a restraining order against him and they can provide you with protection if you truly feel that he will cause you bodily harm.
This can be a difficult process, and no two cases are the same. A good friend of mine went through a similar situation. You are not alone, and there are people who care about you. Please be safe and try to avoid confrontation. Don't pack a bag, just go to a shelter, they will care for you and keep you safe.
2006-08-01 11:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a women's shelter!
They can even pick you up.
They will let you stay there for a few days - weeks till you find a place to live.
They have counselors that can help you.
Don't stay nearby or the guy will come after you. Get a restraining order or order of protection.
Get away from this guy now before you ruin your life. You deserve better, you are young and can start over.
Don't tell him or his family where you are going, just leave and DON"T EVER GO BACK IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE.
2006-08-01 21:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by inzaratha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, go to the cops...explain the situation, get a restraining order and go. He threatens you because it makes him feel powerful and hoping he can scare you into staying. He may not do a dang thing...BUT , there is the chance he could so it's best to let anyone and everyone know about it so you got your back covered and if he did get a hold of you, you'd be able to press charges no questions asked. Don't let that jerk scare you. You're an independent woman and it's YOUR life not his sorry ***. And if you have to....buck up and jack him if he lays a hand on you. Stand up to him and he'll probably back down. My prayers are with you. Proud that you are leaving....that's respectable and takes much courage.
2006-08-01 11:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by boz4425 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The stuff you are talking about taking is just that STUFF, non important just get out! Now before you have children with him. It's not to late for you really it's not. You want to go so do it and leave those material things behind! and go back to mom and dad if possible, and on your way stop at the police station and get a restraining order!
Good luck
2006-08-01 11:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing u need to do is get in touch with ur family, next u can get the police inolved that would be the smart move so he cant hurt u while u do, ask them if theres any shelters for women that are abused in ur area, which im sure there are, go there a while and hide from him, then once u get in touch with ur family go with them, if he doesnt know where they live even better, also u can start going back to achool or get a job, a job u wouldnt think he would think of u doing, u deserve better so get out
2006-08-01 11:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time he hit you that is when you should have got the police involved. You need to get the police involved now. Most places have abuse shelters or some type of help to get women out of abusive relationships.
I applaud you for wanting to make your life better. Get out of there & get back to school. An education is something everyone should have. I wish you all the best.
2006-08-01 11:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get out of there and get help is to contact a women's shelter in your area. To find one, you can call (800) 799-SAFE, they can help put you in touch with battered women's shelters and other resources in your area. They will help you find a place to live and move your things out of the house. If you think you need a restraining order or if he will be violent towards you when you're moving your things out, you should call the police. I wish you luck with this and hope everything works out.
2006-08-01 11:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by lagartaazul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the police involved and get as far away as you can, are there relatives you can go to? If not try to find a Providence House shelter for abused women nearby. You may also need to get a restraining order to get legal protection from him. I will pray for your safe exit from this situation.
2006-08-01 11:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋