Do you think that once a cheater always a cheater? Will you go back to that person that has cheated on you?

Answer 1

maybe not "always", as i do believe some people can change.. but for what it's worth, in my experience, even the most devoted man who proclaims his undying love for you can cheat on you. it's a pattern which oftentimes points to their own immaturity, insecurities, and/or need for ego boosters. i've made the mistake of hoping past cheaters had changed, and they hadn't. yes, i went back, because i was naive, but sooner or later you wisen up and choose better. good luck.

Answer 2

My first questions to you is.. are you the one who cheated or are you the one who was cheated on?

Depending on how you answered that will greatly depend on how you take my answer...

Once a cheater always a cheater? No I do not think so. Going back to the person who has cheated? Ah, that is the question.

There are multiple things in a relationship that would cause one to cheat on their mate. I cheated on mine only after I had already decided the marriage was past the point of no return. I was so unhappy at home and depressed. He showed me no affection, would not touch me, would not compliment me or anything. I was getting low self esteem and I met someone who made me feel alive, attractive, and wanted. So, I have cheated. Do I want to get back with my husband? No ~ I am ready to file the divorce papers as we are passed the point of no return. Does he want to get back with me? Yes, but he does not know about my "extra-cirricular activities". For the record I am not leaving my husband to be with the man I cheated with (for there are too many). I have been sexually deprived for way too long and had the urge to go out and explore again.
I have met a guy that if the circumstances were different, I would be completely faithful to him. I feel deep down he is my soulmate if there is such a thing.

Answer 3

Once a cheater always a cheater?
False. People change
Go Back?
Never. The trust in this particular relationship has been destroyed and is no good anymore. It cannot be fixed. He may not always be a cheater for someone else, but for him and you it is over, and it should be.

Answer 4

I wont even date a person who has ever cheated! Once a cheater, always a cheater is 90% true. SOME people do change, but NEVER right away, so if in their last relationship they cheated, then they havent changed when you date them next. So DONT even put yourself in that position, i dont care how nice this person is. Good luck.

Answer 5

I do believe once a cheater always a cheater

plus it impossible to forgive someone who had cheated on you no matter how much you try

I have taken back cheaters and its never the same after. if you love the person enough before they do it, youll almost definitely take them back, but it wont last much longer after that because you can no longer respect them

Answer 6

Sometimes cheaters learn their lesson. I have never been cheated on, as far as I know, but I have always said that I would never stay with a cheater.

Answer 7

yes once a cheater is always a cheater & i will never go back to the person who has cheated on me..he is just not worth it because if he was then he wouldn't have cheated on me no matter what the circumstances!!

Answer 8

Not in all cases. There are basically two cheating scenarios;

1. Got drunk, was stupid, happened spur-of-the-moment. I think there is hope that a repeat of this situation can be prevented in the future. I would consider taking this person back under this scenario.

2. A long-term affair, having a separate life, etc. Since this involves emotion, time & energy to cultivate and maintain the relationship, plus deliberate, repetitive deceit, I would NOT take this person back in this scenario. I think the odds are that at some point it could happen again. The damage to our marriage would be beyond repair.

Answer 9

History they say always repeats itself. So in relationships it is often the case also. I believe that my partner and I are both mature and open enough to not cheat. We have discussed this possibility and both agreed that if the temptation was ever there that we would let the other know before the deed actually occurred. This way we would be honest and able to bow out of relationship without having being burned too badly or cheated on. Cheating can be written messages, open communication, any type of interaction that you know you and your partner feel is wrong. As I heard it said not that long ago "If it feels wrong DON"T".

Answer 10

True. When you cheat on someone you have a reason. When I cheated on my ex, for instance, it was because he had hit me once and was verbally abusive. I found someone who I thought cared about me much more than him and would never do what he had to me. If he is the same person and still treats me the same way, [even though I would never go back to him] then yes, I would cheat on him again. And if I could go back in time I would still cheat on him. He only felt half of the pain that he caused me. If the reason that they cheated still exists, they will cheat again. No second chances, unless it was something you did wrong.

Answer 11

The old adage once a cheat, always a cheat, I don't believe, I believe people can change, but you have to be able to talk to each other and have that comfort to delve into each others feelings.

There are lots of fish in the sea, and just because you are connected with one, doesn't mean you can't be connected to someone who wouldn't cheat on you, even though it sucks to start over again...talk, listen both ways. You both need to be just as open and you BOTH need to deal with why it happened.

I didn't go back, but I believe if I did now he wouldn't do it again, he realizes what he has lost.