My husband's Grandfather is very ill and is not expected to make it through the day. The family told everyone to just go about their day as usual they'd keep us posted. Well, I get to work and tell the only other person that works in my office what was going on. She said that if anything happened she'd cover for me, but that she had to make a quick run maybe 15 minutes. Well she just called me and said that's she was actually going somewhere over an hour away, but to call her if anything happened. Do I have the right to be upset with her or am I just letting my emotions take over?
2006-08-01 03:26:50 · 23 answers · asked by LJ 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
sounds like a selfish act to me- i think i'd be upset. your co-worker has betrayed your trust, and taken advantage of you at a vulnerable time. unfortunately, there isn't much to be done about it. i'm sorry this happened at such a rough time for you. personlly, i would take this as a lesson learned and not trust her to "have my back" again.
2006-08-01 03:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by shar71vette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have the right to be upset. This co-worker said that she would cover for you, and then lied by saying she'd be gone for 15 minutes, but will actually be gone for at least 2 hours (1 hour there, 1 hour back).
Learn from this, and be leery of ever trusting this co-worker - or any other co-worker - again. Sometimes, people's hearts are in the right place, but their heads are up . . . in the clouds.
Don't make a promise that you can't keep. If for some reason you can't keep your promise, have the decency to tell the other person WHY you can't keep your promise. S/He may be upset with you, but they will appreciate your honesty as to why you broke your promise to them.
2006-08-01 11:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by GottaGo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you explained to her what was going on and then she decides to go somewhere, while being her right, is irresponsible. If she wants really to cover for you, she would not have gone so far because you could need her to cover ASAP.
On the other hand, don't be upset because she is in no obligation to cover for you. Look to see if someone else could cover or if your position could be idle in case you need to run. Don't be upset with her, think clearly so you are safer while driving and making decisions, especially at a time like this. Just in the future remember that she may not be there for you and look for someone else to help you out.
2006-08-01 12:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be upset with her. It's possible she committed to something before she realized she couldn't do it, and didn't know a graceful way out. Try to take care of yourself anyway.
I'd talk to the boss, explain what's happening, and just take the rest of the day off anyway. If I were a boss, I'd understand. Even though the family said "just go about your business," I'd still go to the hospital and lend some emotional support to them.
Blessings to you in this difficult time. We all will be at the end of our lives someday, and it's most difficult on the family and loved ones who are experiencing the loss. Remember to celebrate his life - that's the best gift you can give him.
2006-08-01 11:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by locolady98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say whether the run was for work or not, but regardless, it's not her responsibility to make sure you can run to your grandfathers side in case something was to happen. If you were told that he would not make it through the day, you should have called your boss and told her that you would not be in. The person you were and are upset with is yourself, you are just looking to blame someone else. You have to take responsibility for yourself. It's not fair to you if you lay it on others.
2006-08-01 10:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by hrhelm30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was rude of her..
she said that she was going to be 15 min..
when actually she is going somewhere that will take 2 hours minimum for travel time plus whatever time she will be at the location!
That means if you need to go that she is an hour away minimum.. That's just plain rude..
If you have to go, you should call her and your boss and then go.. let her answer to her employer..
and I would confront her on another day when you aren't totally upset..
2006-08-01 10:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be upset with her. Realise that she is a bit selfish but don't be upset with her unless it actually does end up causing you trouble and if you DO need her to cover for you.
She still has sais that yuo should call her if anything happens, so she is still keeping to her word. PLUS there may be good reason why she needs to be gone for an hour.
2006-08-01 11:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by vixenrules80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry your family is going through a hard time right now. It sounds like your coworker was really nice to offer to cover for you and let you know what her plans were. It sounds like maybe something changed that made it so she had to go on a longer errand, but she called and let you know. That sounds thoughtful to me. I hope everything works out.
2006-08-01 11:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our emotions are over taking you, though I would be upset as well. It could be that she honestly did not know it would take her so long to do whatever it is she ran out to do. You do have to give her credit for calling to let you know she was going to take longer than she expected and for you to call if you needed her.
My sympathies to your family, the impending loss of a loved one is never easy.
2006-08-01 10:33:48 · answer #9 · answered by ladyangelovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your emotions are taking over. She is under no obligation to "cover" for you... most workplaces would understand this situation. Plus, it sounds like she had something already scheduled and if it is an hour away, it probably would be difficult to change.
2006-08-01 10:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋