ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? And he will ever call me again to apologize? I just want some answers but I dont want to talk to him until they break up. Do you think he will ever come back?
2006-08-01 03:25:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
honey i think ur better off with out him, and besides nothing kills a guy then knwing ur better without him. i mean laugh party, have fun, just show him ur sooooooooooooo over him and in privet get mad , kick , scream but dont b depressed, he isnt worth it. if he left u for a girl he met only once. and besides wen he comes around with wat he has done u can just give him the hand. ok gurl
take of ur self no man is worth that much pain
2006-08-01 03:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by baby gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might. But I suggest that you do talk to him and figure out if there is ever going to be a possible second chance between the two of you in the future. That way you know for sure and you dont go wasting your time thinking you will have one to find out later on that there is nothing between the two of you. Sit down and talk with him, if you cant do that, talk over the internet. Tell him how you feel. It is common to feel the way you feel right now. Two years is a long time to spend with someone. As for right now though, he isnt on the dating market. Try and get out, take your mind off things. Try and stay in contact with him so he knows you care and you guys can remain friends. Ask him why he is with someone he barely knows. Maybe he wants to make you jealous? I dont really know why he would date someone he doesnt know very well. He may just want some space and some time to experience more. Give him some time to gather his thoughts and be with someone else. Things will work out the way they should. Talk to him before school starts though, that way the feelings wont come back and slap you in the face. Tell yourself he isnt yours anymore and tell him that everything will be okay. Keep positive, try and move on, and let things work out on their own. If they were meant to be, it will come back. Good Luck!
2006-08-01 03:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by lacia2159 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel honey but you are young and there is no sense in wasting your life away while you wait for him to come back when he may not.You will have many other relationships before you find the guy that was meant for you.It may not be what you want to hear but it's true.I really do know how you feel and you need to love yourself more than any boy.hold your head high when you go to school and who knows you might meet someone new and have so much fun with him you'll forget the other one.
2006-08-01 03:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by coolkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he broke up with you he has nothing to appoligize for. And sweetie I know you 'loved' him but your younge so move on. And when you see him at school, smile and wave like nothing is wrong. Stop thinking about him obviously he has stopped thinking about you and moved on so you do the same. If he had wanted to be with you he would have made the effort to come see you over the summer. So open ur eyes and see him for the boy he is not who u want him to be.
2006-08-01 03:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN THE FIRST PLACE,YOU CAN FEEL LOVE FOR SOMEONE, BUT YOU CAN NOT MAKE HIM LOVE YOU. BELIEVE ME IF HE LOVES YOU ,HE WILL BE BACK. STILL BE HIS FRIEND AND I REALLY THINK IT SOUNDS LIKE THE OTHER GIRL IS JUST A FLING. IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM STAY HIS FRIEND. CONSENTRATE ON ALL THE GOOD THINGS YOU TWO HAD BEFORE THE FIGHT. AND LIKE I SAID IF IT'S MEANT TO BE IT WILLBE. YOU WILL GET MUCH FARTHER WITH SUGAR THAN VINEGAR,BUT DON'T BE STEPPED ON EITHER. GIVE AND OPPINION IF ASKED,LET HIM KNOW HOW HE HURT YOU,BUT DON'T GO SNAPPING OF ABOUT IT. ALSO HE MAY BE TRYING TO TEACH YOU A LESSON. PEOPLE DO THAT YA KNOW. LET HIM HAVE SPACE IF YOU GET BACK TOGETHER AND HE BETRAYS YOU THEN TELL HIM TO TAKE A HIKE. BECAUSE HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND THERE ARE MANY FISH IN THE SEE AND YOU WILL HAVE DISSAPOINTMENTS,BUT WITH EACH ONE, YOU WILL GAIN KNOWLEDGE AND SOMEDAY YOU WILL FIND THE RIGHT MAN. ALSO IF AND MAN IS GOING CHEAT, HE WILL DO IT ANYWAY,BUT THINGS LIKE THAT HAVE A WAY OF COMING OUT LATER AND YOU WILL FIND OUT. I USED TO BE VERY POSSESIVE BUT I LEARNED IF I LET THEM THINK I'M NOT SWEATING NOTHING,IF YA DON'T LOOK NEEDY AND YOU LET A MAN CHASE YOU TIL YOU CATCH THEM. A PERSON WHO IS INDEPENDENT LOOKS MORE GROWN AND MATURE. MEN WANT MATURE NOT A CHILD. LET HIM KNOW YOU LOVE HIM ,BUT IF YOU HAD TO DO WITHOUT HIM,SO BE IT. IF HE THINKS YOUR A PRIZE HE WILL KNOW OTHERS WILL ADMIRE YOU FOR THAT MATURITY AND WILL BE LOOKING YOUR WAY ALSO,GET MY DRIFT? WELL GOOD LUCK AND LOVE YOURSELF ALSO.
2006-08-01 04:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by CARLENE R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he is a pretty good liar to me. Do you really believe they only met once? Usually when guys break up with girls, they try to say all these things that they think she wants to hear. Which is pretty much what they do all the time. To be honest with you, he just doesn't want to be with you anymore. Not every relationship lasts forever. Give yourself time to morn, but I think once you reach the 3 month point, it's time to start going out with friends, and MAKING yourself have a good time. Before you know it, he won't be plaquing your thoughts all the time anymore.
One time, when I got dumped, many many years back, I decided I was going to go out and do all kinds of crazy, fun and productive things, so when he begged me back, I would have all these stories to tell him and make him eat his heart out. But, he never begged me back, and I ended up having one of the best years of my life without even realizing it... all because of him dumping me.
2006-08-01 03:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Sheriff Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he wanted to get back with you, he'd call you. Sorry for that answer. You need to find things to keep your mind busy - go out and hang with some friends or something. Don't worry about seeing him. When you do, you do. Just be yourself. Let it be. Maybe if you back off in school he may come back after you.
2006-08-01 03:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear heartbroken, first of all, i really wish you could change your name for a start (heartboken). I sincerely know how you feel cos i had once been broken hearted. However, life goes on and you are free to meet wonderful males and friends again. Thus, i know you really ought to stop thinking about your exboyfriend cause it does not worth it since it only end up hurting you. Moreover, i know it is time you start thinking about what went on between you as a part of live and as an experience that will Strengthen your future relationship(s). Try to see him as a friend and not as a lover: when you see him in school just walk up to him and ask him how he is and how things has been with him, you could ask after the new girlfriend and congratulate him for his achievements. Did i hear you laugh? yeah congratulate him with a lot of smiles on your face too. Tell him how things has been with you too if he wish to know but, don't talk a lot about yourself. after which you go on your way. Next time you come across him? look straight at him and see if he wish you to say hi: if not? just move on without looking back. If you wish to have other friends (both male and females) go on ahead and have them please, do not have them because you wish to make him jealous by so doing or to get his attention. No! just make friends because you truely want to or because you know that they will better your lots.
I do understand your feelings of hating him at one time and missing him at another time: it is normal to feel like that but, it's not healthy for you. You ought to like him only at least for the good time you sheared with him and that is all. Be free with him in the area of greetings but, if you can help it don't hope for or go into another relationship with him ever, and if he comes back to you? Please tell him how much you care for him but, it will be better if he could wait untill you finished school: kool hum?
Be a smart girl and don't let yourself down, pick up yourself and wait for the koolest man to come for you. A man that you will mean the world to cos this your ex? is not in love with you, it could be that he never loved you. what he felt for you could just be a make believe so, don't be deceived a second time or put youself in a position to be fooled again.
So, keep your head high and be happy always because you are born to be happy.
PS: you did not tell me your age. but, i believe that you have all the time in the world to experience a wonderful relationship with another man which, could lead to marriage if you want it to. Cheer up and remember to change your name to The Wonder Girl or something like it. Thanks.
2006-08-01 04:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't want him back...your feelings are hurt, your heart is bruised, but it was a teen romance and life goes on. Most young people don't know what they want in a relationship...that's why they date this one for a few weeks (or months) and then another one...they are learing about relationships and people and who is a good match and who isn't...they are discovering sex and wanting to check that out with a variety of people too...
He broke up with you and gave you different reasons why...bottom line he was ready to move on, so you need to accept that and move on too...why be sad and want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? Heal your heart and move forward so you'll be open to meeting someone who DOES want to be with you...
Don't let him rent space in your head or heart for free...you're wasting your time and emotions being sad, but he isn't...if you weren't a good match together that's okay...don't be angry, be glad you found out so you can move on to someone who you are a good match with, when the time is right...
Take care of you...
2006-08-01 03:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just drop the loser, when school starts just ignore him when you see him if he wants you back hell come to you other wise jjust let it be youll find someone better anyways, get used to it your only in high school your gonna have alot of broken hearts before you find the right man.
2006-08-01 03:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by jerdan95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋