My boyfiend and I have been together for a year now. When we got together- he was really different. He really treated me like I was everything he ever wanted. Now that we're together- he has changed. I know people change, but he is really someone else. I love him and all- he's a REALLY GREAT guy but theres just some things about him I don't get. Like this week he is on holidays from work, and me I am not. I wanted to call in sick this morning and didnt want me to for some reason, I mean, we havent had a day off together since we started dating (he works 6 days a week and skateboards on sundays) At 9:00 this moning my cell phone is ringing and all his friends are looking for him- he obviously wanted to spend the day with them. Am I right to feel offended? Is it possible to love someone who constantly disappoints you and makes you feel alone? How do I know if I should stay?
2006-08-01 03:14:28 · 10 answers · asked by nat_00420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
evonne i - I LOVE SEX & THE CITY!! Thanks for the advice, I watch that show all the time!
2006-08-01 03:21:45 · update #1
maybe he is taking u for granted.
2006-08-01 03:17:52 · answer #1 · answered by juan de fucanada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the day off goes, just understand that he may have had something planned in advance, and you taking off work didn't make any sense. You should ask him about it.
I can't tell you if it is him making you feel alone, or yourself. You need to be able to occupy yourself without a man! I could easily be happy without my wife, and her without me. I could find friends and only be lonely at night, and missing someone to know the deepest part of my mind. It is only his job to fill the deepest need. If you just need more contact, make some friends. If he's leaving you high and dry when you want to talk personal morality and life dreams then tell him that that's not fair.
More detail can lead to better answers.
2006-08-01 10:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are time for your friends and time for your both of you. Who does he spend more time with? Someitmes people need there space. MY girlfriend knew we were spending way too much time together, so we gave it a break for two months and it was a fun time, but it was also sad because i missed her and she missed me. Now that we are together, it's like when we first hooked up, we just can't get our hands off each other. Trust me, give some time and be more independent. Try not to over analyze things, live for the moment and you'll find yourself having fun.
2006-08-01 10:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his friends are more important to him then you and you need to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel if things don't change when you already talk to him then leave when men change like that most of the time there cheating or isn't interested in you anymore so you need to see whats up don't waste your time put your feet down and let him know the time
2006-08-01 10:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you should have a talk with him over the issue. Frank and truthful communication is important in every relationship. Do not worry about the outcome. What will be, will be.
Good luck and god bless!
2006-08-01 10:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Celebratelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk clearly to your boyfriend, let him know how U r feeling, that will really help both of U. Never assume that he knows ur feelings, he may not...plz talk with him then U can take another step from there.
2006-08-01 10:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by benird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the book, 'he's just not that into you'.
you deserve more and i think you know that within the deepest reasoning of your soul. i would click the dust off my prada heels and MOVE ON, sista!
2006-08-01 10:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he hates you for complicating simple stuff.
2006-08-01 10:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Genio Atrapado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just came to you for sex
2006-08-01 10:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by triumph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no if i was him
2006-08-01 10:18:19 · answer #10 · answered by jamale f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋