2006-08-01 03:02:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It didnt happen to me though but how would u feel?
2006-08-01 05:57:24 · update #1
Great because then I wouldn't have to worry about someone else's wedding drama and I could just enjoy meself as a guest!
2006-08-01 03:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I got married, my mom insisted that my sister be part of my wedding party, so she was a bridesmaid. A few years later, when my sister got married, I was never asked (nor did my mom insist) to be in her wedding.
I felt "slighted"..my feelings were hurt, especially since she had been in my wedding. I talked to my parents about it, and my sister decided to ask me to do a reading at the ceremony. It felt like a consolation prize. To this day, the only wedding I've been in is my own.
Thinking back, though, I can understand that My sister's husband and I weren't close at all, and that's probably why I was never asked. I may be rationalizing a bit...
2006-08-01 03:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by LEMME ANSWER THAT! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be soooo happy. I'm sorry, but being in the bridal party is a big pain in the a$$, especially if it's a formal wedding. I just got married in June and we had an informal wedding and our bridal party was so relaxed and just had a good time. I wouldn't take it too personally, though. I'm sure the person has their reasons for not including you, like they're keeping it small or they're only having family, something like that.
2006-08-01 03:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might feel hurt, depending on just how close I was to that person, but I know that in the end I'd just be happy for them. I know that there might have been people who expected to be in my wedding party that weren't and for good reasons too. You just cannot ask everyone...
See on the one hand, I know it's a very difficult feeling to have, when you feel like there is this friendship that means more to you than it does to the other person. But on the other hand, this marriage and this wedding is not about me, so I'd have to say that whatever makes the bride and groom happiest is what should happen, regardless of hurt feelings.
2006-08-01 03:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This just happened to me so from first hand experience I can tell you that I was hurt. On the other hand she wanted only family members in her wedding one, because she has a large family and two, to avoid any contention between her friends. I think no matter what you do someone will always be offended when it comes to picking a bridal party. The best thig to do is to make yourself available to the bride and let her know that you're there to help with anything she needs help with.
2006-08-01 03:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't throw a fit about it. They may have a lot of family or had to ask some people that they were bridesmaids for. Making the bridal party smaller cuts costs dramatically. Just be happy she's getting married.
2006-08-01 05:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by kaiticometrue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky! It costs a lot of money to be in a wedding!
No, seriously, my feelings would be hurt, but you have to understand that there's a lot that goes into choosing a bridal party. So, if you really are close to your friend then you should be able to talk to him or her about how you feel and find out why. Maybe you could be a lay reader or greeter?
2006-08-01 03:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by agruppy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be hurt or offended. These times are really difficult for the bride and groom...just think about the people that they "have" to include in the wedding parties...sisters and brothers in law, random cousins that "MUST" be included or "Aunt Dorothy" will disown the family. It's horrible.
If the bride and groom were able to, I'm sure they would have included you (or whomever you are talking about), but sometimes it just doesn't work out for so many, many, many reasons.
I wouldn't be hurt...enjoy the wedding, and make sure this doesn't affect your friendship.
2006-08-01 04:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by blue_eyed_kick_boxer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I might be hurt, but I would get over it. I would understand that you can't fit everybody in, unless you want to have a ton of maids. I would feel a lot better if the bride just say to me hey i am not going to be able to ask you to be bridesmaids, b/c........ If you know what going on it's a lot easy to understand
2006-08-01 03:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be a little bummed. But consider that they are including you by asking you to share in their special day. You may not be part of the wedding party, but they have invited you to the wedding, right? I think I'd still support him/her with whatever he/she needed. The bride and groom have enough pressure planning for the big event.
2006-08-01 05:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand if you feel a bit hurt, but imagine how hard it would have been for them to decide whom to choose. Furthermore, think of how hard it would have been to have left you out. That must have been heartbreaking to tell you that. I know, as I am getting married, and a lot of my friends asked about whom my bridesmaids were going to be, and sounded dissappointed that I did not choose them. Any true friend would understand and be supportive of such things. chin up, you can still be there for your friend, and I am sure they will appreciate any help that you can give.
2006-08-01 03:55:55 · answer #11 · answered by kackaway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋