This guy and I had been talking for about 3 weeks and were interested in each other. We've kissed twice and have breifly talked on the phone a couple of times. On Friday he texted me "we should def hang out, i want to see u and kiss u again" i responded "i wanna kiss u too and more..." So I gave the impression tha i'm dirty and i regret it. furthermore when he called me saying he culdn't hang out, i tried to lure him by telling him about the sexy lingerie i bought and stuff. then he never called me back when he said he would and i called him about 3 times and wouldn't answer. the next day i apologized for being pushy and he said it was ok. yesterday he barely talked to me and i feel like he was totally turned off by how i acted. and i really am an innocent girl and i wasn't being myself and i feel terrible. what do you think?
2006-08-01 02:59:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a conductor and i'm a passenger on the train and that's where we usually talk, but yesterday he didn't sit next to me as usual and he didn't hug or kiss me goodbye like always. i feel like i did something wrong and he is giving me hints that he's not interested. also, he's 25 and i'm 21 so
2006-08-01 03:01:00 · update #1
Yes, he lost interest. You will go further in life by making the guy wait. No male wants an easy female. It's the thrill of the chase that turn into long lasting relationships. I am not saying wait until you're married for sex, but being easy has never gotten women anywhere! Just be careful not to do that again. Remember that men like women, not tramps. I am not saying that what you did was trampy, but he may think it was!
2006-08-01 03:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 10⤊ 3⤋
Maby u did, but maby he has other problems on his mind or some thing ask him whats wrong and be straight out tell him what really happend
Maby yea just back off just a bit cuz if a problem is bothering him that badly he needs to be alone for a little while or needs more room.
Oh yea and dont listen to people that tell u to dump him don't
If u think he is the man of ur life stick with him there is nothing u 2 cant solve
Best of luck
Kev
If u need more help e-mail me ok.
2006-08-01 03:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by dbzkid13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there are definitely boys that get scared and run-off the moment a girl becomes too straight-forward and pushy. I guess, the guy's just afraid that he won't be enough for you or that he doesn't feel ready to go where you hinted you wanted to go, so he just decided to break off the relationship, rather than telling you he's a coward. Or the real reason could have nothing to do with this, and that he's having problems in his life that he doesn't want you to worry about. You should talk this over with him. He might just be going through a rough time in his life.
2006-08-01 03:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does seem that you've scared the man off. Try backing off and leaving him to make the next move. Try to keep conversation light with him. Nothing serious just small talk. Don't push him to see you or sit next to you. Let him make the choice. And don't call him repeatedly! You've given him the impression that you are stalker material. Don't worry, we all make these kind of mistakes when we are young! Give it time, if he comes around fine, if he doesn't you've learned an important lesson. And there are plenty more where he came from. You are young, give yourself a break and remember that everyone makes mistakes.
2006-08-01 03:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have done all you can. You have already explained to him the reasons for your actions and I am guessing you apologized also. If he still wants to give you the cold shoulder then just leave him alone. Trying to continually pursue him will just make the situation worse. So leave him alone and if he does come around and begin talking to you again good but if he does not then just move on. Take some advice from another woman you must NEVER chase a guy! You have already done all you can. Leave it alone.
2006-08-01 03:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going too far too fast would turn me off big time. That's just for starters. There could be many, many reasons why he backed off and your behavior is just one of them. Be yourself, let things cool off, don't apologize but once, and be available to talk. That's for him.
For you, examine yourself because going too far too fast (which you seem to agree you did) does not bode well for you. You may need some help to figure out what causes you to behave that way. It's quite dangerous and can get you into very sticky, unpleasant situations.
2006-08-01 03:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, their's other guys in the world take "Richard gay simmons" for example. U made him lose interest and only who can find a way out, i'm just saying the stuff on the top to prove "A" point.
2006-08-01 03:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down Girl, take it easy. He's obviously in no rush so why should you be. Take it a step at a time. Offer to go on a picnic in the country with him on a really hot day. Wear brief shorts etc. Rub the sun lotion in slowly and sensually, then ask him to do your back.
Then ask to rub it in on him and away you go. Easy.
2006-08-01 03:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Susan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you have already pushed him away by being too easy.
Nice guys get turned off by girls that are too forward.
Next time you see him just let him no that you are sorry and you where not being yourself. Ask him if you can start over. This time try to behave yourself lol
2006-08-01 03:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop acting like a teenager . Stop calling him , I would not call you either if you kept calling me and calling me I would think you was nuts,or obsessive freak . He is being nice to you and brushing you off , so take hint and find some one else.
2006-08-01 03:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by its_ok_im_here69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋