The object of your lust is extremely physically attractive, exciting and on a platter for you. Would you resist still? How deep is your morality/reserve?
Pros:
Exitement, great sex, diversity, amoral, fun, empowering (if temporarily), something to measure your current partner against.
Cons:
Guilt, low self-esteem, amoral, makes current partner seem boring, something to measure your current partner against, cheapens your love for current partner, cheapens your idea of love in general.
Remember, this is completely hypothetical!
2006-08-01 02:32:49 · 45 answers · asked by Stomach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I would know it. I wouldn't be able to live with that. Again, I would feel like touching hell while doing that. I know it sounds weird what I'm going to say but i can't look at anyone else...(I'm not blind) i just can't, if i do is like "oh, that's a great ***... my baby's *** is so far better, and cute". It's like I've been programmed not to look at anyone.
I remember a time that my boyfriend and i were having probs and everything, and i asked him for time, he said that I wanted to break up and so many things... we didn't talk to each other like for 3 weeks. I didn't want to break up with him. I was into so much pain and decided to rebuild my life, without him. By those days it seemed like we had broke up forever. I went out with a guy like a few times, and when he kissed me i almost cried. I felt like touching hell even when it wasn't really cheating since we had broken up. I was feeling like i was touching hell because it weren't HIS lips which i was kissing.
Conclusion... We started talking again after 3 weeks since we realised we couldn't live without talking to each other... we are back... and it has been almost a year from that. I wouldn't look at anyone, since i know i just CAN'T.
2006-08-01 02:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 15⤊ 9⤋
There is no way I would cheat on my partner. I am in love with him and he is in love with me. Although your question is hypothetical, consider this; when you are in love with someone, you are of the complete conviction that they are the best person for you, you have been through thick and thin together and you have great trust and respect for each other and an amazingly fun friendship.
A new man could never compare to this favourably. I would simply not have known him as long as my partner or be able to trust or respect him in the same way. He would not be my best friend.
Therefore I would know for a fact, without bothering to try it that the sex would not be as exciting or as fulfilling as the sex I have with my partner. I have no desire to risk what I have for an unfavourable comparison. The sex would not be empowering with the other man it would be enslaving. My natural inclination is monogamy (luckily this fits in with what society sees as'moral') so I would not be satisfying my sexuality if I were to cheat on my partner and would feel anything but empowered.
It's not really about cheapening love for my current partner or the idea of love. These are not things which can be cheapened. If you cheat, then you are not experiencing love.
2006-08-01 03:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Cons outweigh the pro's. One night stands in my opinion are awkward and a bit of a fumble in the dark, I feel very uncomfortable with them, so on that note alone in order for to even consider cheating then it would have to be someone that I know rather than just some random guy in a bar.
But the answer to your question, is that no I wouldn't be tempted to cheat on my partner.
2006-08-01 02:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I will never cheat on my partner, i love him too much to do that, people who cheat shouldn't in the first place find a partner.
Cheating is exciting, but you will definately be found out and even if you don't the guilt will haunt you for the rest of your life, your current relationship will be marred forever....
Its better to admit to the partner if you have ever cheated on him or her rather than he or she finding it out later....
Well to summarise we are all humans and unlike animals we do have a choice to either choose not to do something to hurt someone we love no matter how tempting it might be, or be like an animal who moves by instincts and feelings rather than rationality.
2006-08-01 02:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by gpetit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
A wise person once said "Love is giving someone the ability to destroy you, and then trusting them not to."
That applies to cheating, because you've been trusted not to destroy the person with disloyalty.
Hypothetically, ef you're never caught (which is highly unlikely, considering that two people can keep a secret only if one of them is dead, LOL) you still have your own betrayal to self to deal with. Self-esteem and conscience are a type of self-love, IMO, and going against your own morals (even without the threat of punishment) is a type of self-betrayal. If a person has self love (in the form of self-esteem and moral conscience), then one has to trust oneself not to act immorally.
Resisting temptation requires more resolve and empowerment than embracing the opportunity to cheat uncaught.
The lowest form of motivation is "fear of punishment". In terms of moral development, it's a much more highly evolved being whose behavior is motivated by the desire to do good, to become a better person, to give back to the world, and to live right for the joy of living right.
2006-08-01 02:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by visualizewhirledpeas72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldnt, its not worth it. It would make me feel disgusting and unreliable if I cheated on my man even if I got away with it. Deep down I would always have this ever lasting guilt and resentment towards myself for acting in a despicable way. My man would be honest with me but I would always lie. Acting this way with my partner would not please me at all. My partner deserves all the best of me. Also I dont want to get a reputation for being a ****. Sure Id get alot of men coming at me but it wouldnt feel good on my part. Id feel kind of embarassed all the other women out there would feel disgusted with how I acted. I believe women should all represent a certain behaviour to look up to. Being a **** by cheating is not one of them.
2006-08-01 03:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was someone I really loved and cared about, then no, absolutely not. But if I wasn't that happy, and someone who just turned me on to no end was right in my face tempting me, I would probably give in but I would break up with my partner. I would do that because I'm not the type to deal with a bunch of people sexually at the same time.
2006-08-01 02:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by THICKUMS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of the very few poeple in the world who has no guilt, I dont get guilty of any of my actions.. Thats why my friend come to me when they need something handled in a certain way. I have no moral conceince either, but no i wouldnt cheat on my girl, unless it was with my dream girl and i really really had to much to drink(doesnt happen as often as it should)
2006-08-01 02:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never want to do that to my man. He's the best thing I've had in a long while. My ex was abusive and liked to play mind games so yeah I would never do that to my man. I like having a normal relationship where our biggest problem is my daughter's behavior. Besides when you know you have something good why f u c k it up.
2006-08-01 03:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by rnikkiwilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! My fiance is excitement, great sex, diversity, etc. Sex is more than sex to me. It's sharing an physical connection together. It's giving pleasure to each other as well as receiving it. It's wonderful! We are very open with our sexual relationship and we are both willing to try crazy things if the other asks it. If it doesn't work...then we don't do it again.
2006-08-01 02:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. ive been cheated on and the feeling sucks.. even if there was no way in the world my partner would find out i still wouldnt because i still have to look at myself knowing what i had done to the one i love..
i wouldnt be able to do it no matter how hot or attractive the other person was.. but thats just me. i wouldnt be able to face myself..
2006-08-01 02:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋