2006-08-01 02:29:02 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do : Accept the reality. You have reached a stage that you want to get over - that means all is over. Right ? No need to think about it any more. just move on.
Just think - all your past, should it haunt your future ? I am sure, the future is much more than the past - in no. of years. Do you want to spoil them for a not so good worthy reason ? Keep crying over spilled milk or buy a fresh litre instead ? Whats that you want. You need to decide and move on fast.
Dont let the future be shadow of your past. Live every moment - enjoy, dont crib - or let the past haunt your future. So you need to take decision. I am sure you would :)
Cheers
2006-08-01 02:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by deebeein 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is definitely the hardest part in your love life. Your body and mind is emotionally worn out and feel as if you have lost something in your life. It is not easy but you have to start somewhere
1) Look after yourself
For a few days it is best to concentrate on your aims and goals in life. There may be times where you will be questioning about yourself “am I the cause, will I ever meet anyone else and etc”. Maybe it is best not to look at it again and close the chapter.
If your ex partner constantly calls/texts you while in the relationship and now stopped calling/texting then maybe its best if the phone is switched off. This ensures that you are not anxious whenever the mobile rings/you receive text. It could be a good idea to delete your ex partners mobile number to ensure that you will not call him. Get plenty of sleep and eat well.
2) Go out and socialise with friends/ family
At this period, it is best not to stay at home and be upset. Organise a get together with your close friends and maybe a visit to the local pub. By socialising, you are able to enjoy yourself and free your mind from thinking about your ex partner. Maybe this is the best time to catch up with gossip and go out with friends again. Try to talk to close friends about how you feel. You can always call the Samaritans if you feel down.
3) Go for a holiday
If you have been with your partner for a long time, then maybe it’s best to go for a short break to calm your mind and leave all the problems behind. When you come back from your holiday, then its best to make a fresh start again.
4) Start a new hobby
When you start a new hobby (e.g. gardening), your mind is only concentrating on improving your hobby. Maybe this could help you to forget about your ex.
5) There’s plenty of fish in the sea
Always think to yourself that you could find someone else maybe better than your ex. Try not to rush to fast to find a replacement. Wait until you are ready for a relationship and have moved on.
2006-08-01 03:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by falleninlovecouk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest focusing back on yourself.
There are so many things that people give up of themselves in a relationship that after a while they tend to forget certain aspects about their personality.
Positively speaking, a relationship is a place where you go to give. This robs you of that, but being part of a relationship makes it okay since you're in it out of caring, love, and connection.
Now that you're out of it, find what you gave: Your time, your money, your missed opportunities (maybe you didn't go somewhere or meet someone because you were willing to make such sacrifice since you were in a relationship).
Think about this: You're single now. There are no ties. Nothing holding you back.
Want to learn a new language? You have the time. Want to master a skill? You have the time. Want to learn how to needle and stitch? You have the time.
I would first reevaluate the relationship: What did I learn about myself? What did I learn about what I want in a partner? How can I direct my life so that I can find people compatible with this new set of skills that I want to find in someone?
Secondly, I would find a hobby, a club, something to do, something that reenforces you. Take an acting class, a yoga lesson, a kickboxing course. Gain control of your psychology and empower yourself.
Third, re-design your life. Change the look of your bedroom, change a few items in your wardrobe. Remove his pictures, his notes, his "stuff" from your room/life, and put it in a box and keep it in a closet. Find something else to take the empty shelf space.
Fourth, don't date juuust yet. People don't want to get hurt, and you're inevitably prone to do that to them, being how you haven't gotten' over your ex. Don't lead people into pain. It's not nice.
Fifth, have fun. Laughter is the best medicine.
Sixth, take it one day at a time. I've broken up with people I deeply cared for before. It's not fun. And I found myself driving around their homes even when everything in my reasonable mind told me not to.
It wears off eventually. Trust me.
2006-08-01 02:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mario E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a rubberband around your wrist. When you start to think about him, pull on it and let it snap you. When you've conditioned yourself not to think about him anymore, you will feel alot better. Also go get a good hobbie, like carpentry...no, that leads to smoking pot...then gardening....no that leads to growing pot....Maybe you should play chess, yeah, but honestly, it will just take time, try the rubberband thing, and don't go running to another guy to make your ex jealous, that will only leave you in the rebound break up situation, which will prolly set you into a worse position. Try listening to upbeat music and doing things that make you feel better about yourself. Just because you're single, doesn't mean you can't enjoy life.
2006-08-01 02:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a few ways to get over your ex boyfriend.
1. Go try to find a new one.
2. Get really really drunk
3. Become a bar whore and sleep with a new guy every night
4. Let time take it toll
5. Become a lesbian
Well I hope none of these answers offend anyone but they are all ways of getting over the probelm.....lol
2006-08-01 02:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him? Because if you do it's going to be a lot harder. I went through this 2 years ago with my ex which just so happens to be the father of my daughter. I thought we were going to last forever. Boy was I stupid. He ended up cheating on me twice in 4 years and beating the **** out of me. But give it time and you will not forget but forgive him in your heart and you will meet someone new just as I did. Just take it slow though you dont want to rush into anything. Good luck.
2006-08-01 02:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by rnikkiwilson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A broken heart is the hardest to heal! You may never get over him but life has to go on.Keep busy if you find yourself thinking too much get involved in something else.I wish I could help more but theres nothing anyone can say or do that is gonna change your loss,only time.
2006-08-01 02:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by mississippi queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is for living not moping. Boyfriends come and go your family and friends are there forever. Maybe you could spend a bit more time with them. Take up a hobby. Make new friends. Keep busy. Time is a good healer. Maybe your worth more than that!
2006-08-01 02:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a Rabbit IV
You will NEVER notice you ain't got a bloke!!! But if ya want a realistic answer... Get back to being you... love yourself and realise that everyone is different and don't persecute your next bloke just cos of insecurities this last one has given you...
And at the end of the day... smile ... people hate it when they cant get you down!!!
2006-08-01 04:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me (a guy), it took me time. After I broke up with her I found a new g/f, but it didn't help me forget my ex. I still thought about her and the new g/f was just a small distraction. I was ok six months after the break up.
2006-08-01 02:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋