I used to go out wif this particular guy but then we broke up. Not long after we broke up, he liked my close friend and became her boyfriend but only lasted for about 3 weeks. Then behind my back he blamed me for making them break up which is totally untrue and I don't even understand why he could blame me for in my opinion I did not interfere in their affair. He called me backstabber and even threatened if i go out with this other guy who happens to like me not long after we broke up, he will find a way to ruin our relationship. Help! What am I supposed to do??
2006-08-01 01:52:09 · 17 answers · asked by Lucia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people do all sorts of things to assign blame for their own failings. It makes their picture of themselves better. It sounds as if you are all stuck in a very small arenea. Don't waste one second of time denying, whatever...just walk away. No matter what you say, it will look like you had something to do with it. Keep quiet about the deal, it will pass. Life does not end because a fool runs his mouth off. This will blow over very soon, you are making a mountain over a molehill. He will be off to another girl soon enough and forget about this whole deal. It is called dating. You are learning social skills, and sometimes the best thing to do in defense is to do and say nothing ....to anyone about it. IF someone brings it up, ignore it. Don't get drug into his game...that is exactly what it is...a game, and a boring one, at that. Surely you have better things to do than to worry about what a stupid boy says. Time and time alone will show his true colors, and I suspect everyone already knows what kind of guy he is. Behave with class, hold your head high, and move on with life. It won't take long before everyone notices the difference in how you and he act. You will win without doing anything...that is how life works. I can guarantee you that if you defend yourself, the more you say, the more others will NOT beleive you. Good luck
2006-08-01 02:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like the first love relationship that I had more than a few years ago. You just cant mix friends with ex boyfriends. Has anyone told you of the rule If you have friends they aren't suppose to date your ex's or friends brothers. Its not your fault that it did not work out. This guy is a control freak. I would ignore him at all costs. He has no room to be in your relationship. Hes the dog he missed out. See a guy can go out with alot of girls and be so popular and than the newness of the guy wears off , the girls just dont think hes as attractive . Than he tries to go back with the first girl or the girl he broke it off with and she dont want him back. If the guy that likes you likes you for being you your ex will not ruin the relationship. Just tell your new guy how your ex really is and he will understand. If you go from one relationship to another its like your on rebound. So you should wait for things to cool over tell you get back on the court to play.
2006-08-01 09:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small matter! he called you a backstabber, you too can call him a flirt. Let others to decide who's is telling the truth, simple. Just carry on with your present relation and ignored him totally. Not worth to have him as a normal friend.
2006-08-01 09:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,
To begin with u should be true to urself and have a clairty in ur thinking. If u have not done anything and u broke up with this guy whom u had been dating, don't sweat on it and stop bothering cause worrying more abt it will just eat u up. Things easier said than done but this is what i think.
All the best !
2006-08-01 09:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by borndude2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your ex bf is a sore loser. What I think u need to do is just ignore him. Don't try to reason with him, the more u try to do so, the more arrogant he will become. If the new guy really love u, he is able to place his trust on u and will not believe in any rumors. Dun ever let your ex bf ruin your own happiness
2006-08-01 11:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rise above the muck and mire, dear one. If you know the truth, as does your close girlfriend, then that is all that matters. Ignore completely the dolt of an ex, for to argue will only make you look bad...funny how that works, actually, but trust me here, it will. Another tip, do not speak ill of your ex, for that will work against you, too.
2006-08-01 08:57:01 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so lucky that he is your ex-boyfriend. Totally ignore him, do not bite to anything he says about you. I am sure people who know you can make up their own minds about you. At the moment it sounds as if he ruling your life, forget he exists, don't allow him to rule your happiness.
2006-08-01 09:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him, I don't think that he deserve to be anyone's boyfriend these guys are hungry for body. and they actually don't know what is love and its feeling ,and dear it's really a hard job to find out a true lover.
I'll suggest you to not to blem urself 4 this breakup and just contnu to ur work.
2006-08-01 09:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Ravish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, Sweetie? The guy plays dirty. It was wretched of him to date one of your friends, and it was equally wrong for your friend to date him! Lose both of them, nad move on. Don't bad mouth eith of them, just take them out of your inner circle and your life. Choose friends more wisely in the future. These two were LOSERS!!!
2006-08-01 08:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by funigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him and he will learn after time that he doesnt control your life. If u like the other guy go out with him and see if it works out!!
2006-08-01 08:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋