My fiance wants to go to Vegas for his bachelor party and Im literaly freaked out, He enjoys gambeling but I also know that there is a major party life, Im scared that temptation will get the best of him hes never ever cheated on me, but being around a bunch of guys and getting sh*t faced drunk worries me that wrong decisions will be made, what could I do to make myself stop freaking out???
2006-08-01 01:49:12 · 10 answers · asked by landscaperschick73 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would be lying if I said this wouldn't bother me, but not because of the "vague chance of cheating" (which I don't think exists here anyway) but because I don't like the idea that getting married should create this "must see boobs for the last time" mentality.
You must trust your groom. He is going to be your husband, and life partner...
One little night isn't going to change his love for you, so please put those "he could cheat" thoughts out of your mind. If he does (HIGHLY unlikely), well, he could have just as easily cheated before, while you are pregnant, when he is away on business etc etc. A cheater is a cheater, and if they aren't, they aren't.
So please don't be worried...and have an awesome bachelorette too!
2006-08-01 04:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by blue_eyed_kick_boxer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have your bachelorette party in Vegas, too. He'll be less likely to do something stupid if he knows you're in the same town. Plus, I think it would be fun to have your parties there. I love Vegas. But, I know how you're feeling, I would have never let my fiance do that. Can you play up the excuse that he shouldn't spend so much money on a bachelor party? Tell him you guys need the money for the wedding or the honeymoon. It's just an idea. Good luck!!
2006-08-01 02:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be freaked out too, but i am sure he wouldn't do anything. Do you have a brother or a guy friend? You could send the "spy" in to make sure things to get out of control. The guy wouldn't be there to check out if your fiance cheats, just to calm your own nerves.
Also I would tell your fiance how much you love him and how you are scared that he might drink to much, friend gets him one to many lap dances... ect. how it would hurt you if he did cheat. This will make you feel better if he understands your concerns.
Nothing bad is going to happen at the bachelor party, but do whatever you can to make yourself feel less nervious about it.
2006-08-01 02:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably get so drunk he wont be able to get it up. How well do you know your guys friends? If they just like to get drunk and get lap dances you will be fine. If he hasnt cheated on you yet he wont now. Its a party. Dont worry about it.
If he like to gamble he will either be too broke to go to a strip club or too busy all night winning money. I really think you are safe. I read this article yesterday that says a better predictor of a mans probability that he will cheat comes from his father and his closest friends. So if his dad and all if his buddies are faithful, he will be too.
2006-08-01 02:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should reconsider your fiance. If you can't trust him to respect your feelings (and vice versa) then you two have some issues to sort out BEFORE you tie the knot.
2006-08-01 06:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a deal breaker to me. If he ignores your wishes before you are married, there is a guilt-edged, gold-plated guarantee he'll do it after the marriage. Doln't let yourself be governed by momentum, "I shoulds", or anything but your own feelings.
2006-08-01 02:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't think you can trust him now, it will only get worse once you marry him, won't it. Just let him go, if he loves you then he won't be marring you right? All Bachelor parties don't end up with them cheating! :)
2006-08-01 02:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by just me being me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't like the fact that he is going. And if he really cares then he will not go and use the money for something more important like your honeymoon.
2006-08-01 02:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I would freak out too.
Just have faith and trust him. If he really didn't love you, he wouldn't marry you.
2006-08-01 01:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of his friends to call you if anything goes wrong
2006-08-01 01:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkinism 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋