I saw my boyfriend on a personal ad and he said someone stole his info. and placed it on there. When I discussed it with him the first time he teared up and held me real tight. A week later I told him I still felt like we needed time apart. He is 27 and very mature and until now I have never seen him get choked up about anything. He said for me to do what I needed to do but that he did not place the ad. He told me how he talks about me to his entire family and he couldn't see me not in his life. He also said he has been planning his future with me in it. What should I do? We have been together almost 2 years. He does watch porn but I am 23 and still home with mother so we don't get to have sex that much. He claims it does not bother him. He is perfect except for this one thing. Does he love me or should I just walk away? He is with me 24/7 on the weekend and during the week I know where he is and he answers the phone when I call. I don't think he is cheated on me.
2006-08-01 01:42:36 · 9 answers · asked by littlebit23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I found the personal ad on his computer. It was at the top in his browser window.
2006-08-01 02:57:25 · update #1
I say trust him. If hes always with you on the weekends and always answers the phone when you call its safe to assume hes not fooling around. As for when a man cries it happens, crap I did it last night after I told my daughter that her doggies ran away. I did it when she wasnt around but it was stilll hard to tell her.
2006-08-01 01:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by tony c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man is NOT weak when he cries, timestamp!
The question is, why are you looking in the personal ads? Someone really could have done it as a prank, or stole his info. I wouldn't jump to conclusions. And if he really didn't place the ad, then you have nothing to worry about. Has he tried to call the paper and had it removed. If he really didn't place the ad, he should call them, and try to find out who did, and have the ad stopped. If someone actually "stole" his info, there may be more at stake than just a stupid personal ad in the newspaper. They may also have access now to his bank account, credit cards, etc. and can absolutely RUIN him. He might even consider going to the police if things get too suspicious. I would tell him to keep a VERY close eye, especially on his finances.
2006-08-01 08:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if someone stole my info and placed a personal ad that my husband found, I would be angry, not tearful!!! I would be sorry that it hurt him, obviously, but my main concern would be who did it and why.
It is possible he did post the ad himself, but maybe not with the intention of cheating or hurting you? It may have just been to see if it would generate any interest. Maybe he was just curious to see IF someone else would be interested. Dumb idea for sure, but then, male ego is a very fragile thing. He may have cried because it hurt you and he didn't mean to do that.
BTW, why were you looking at the personals?
2006-08-01 09:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a man cries it means he trusts you. You obviously mean something to him. But if you've been together 2 years and you're going to let this come inbetween you obviously you don't trust him. If he says nothing is wrong, nothing is wrong. The best thing to do is stand by him. You're the one with the issue. And if it turns out he did place the add, thats something you two should talk about. If and when the time comes. But give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-08-01 08:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by zetser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of anything else you have to give him the benefit of the doubt. He sounds like a nice girl and seems to really love you . If you really love him well i would definitely think twice before i decided to call it quits. It may have been a practical joke that has back-fired.
2006-08-01 09:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'd have a very, very hard time convincing me that someone "stole" his info. Never, NEVER happens. He's troubled and if you like trouble you know what to do.
2006-08-01 08:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky to have him. And every guy watches porn and it can improve your sex life if you watch it together. And i think he is telling the truth. And if he has his own place, maybe you can move in together.
2006-08-01 08:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he just needs time alone. Wait a month or so. By then, he should be more calm.
2006-08-01 08:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whan a man cries he is weak!
2006-08-01 08:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋