If you're unhappy with your bf but you he won't let you go, what should you do?

Answer 1

"He won't let you go"??? Why are you allowing that to be his decision? If you don't want to be in a relationship with him tell him its over. If he harasses you, then call the police. Very simple.

Answer 2

I was in exactly the same position as you about 2 years ago.

i tried everything to break it up, I told him I wasnt happy, he would say "too bad, you have to be." etc etc etc

I was with him for 4 and a half years and spent the final 12 months trying to end it.

When I finally did, a month later I was seeing someone and he headbutted me, cracked my eyebrow open and I had to get 3 stitches - we werent even together at that time and I still didnt report it.

I now have an apprehended violence order out on him.

My advice:

make sure you build up a strong support network of close friends and family

when you are actually ending it, DONT BE ALONE WITH HIM again ever after that.

The police wont do much until something has actually happened so I suggest joining a gym and becoming friends with a body builder or find some local thugs to stick up for you if he's gonna get violent.

It sounds bad, but in reality, that's the only way.

Answer 3

That depends on what you mean by he won't "let you go". How can he stop you? If you mean he won't accept it and has trouble letting go of you emotionally, there's not a whole lot you can or should do about that beyond ceasing to speak with him. If,on the other hand, you mean he's trying to physically control you or restrict your movements, then you need to explore legal options to ensure your rights are respected ( up to and including police involvement).

Answer 4

He cant keep you if you dont want to be kept. It sounds like you arent being demanding with wanting to leave him. Tell him that you are your own person and that the relationship isnt working out and you want space. He needs to respect that and let you go do what you want to do. He doesnt control you. If he respects you as a person, he will let you go your own way. Yes it may hurt him, but if he cares about you, he will want the best for you. The best for you being, you doing what you want to do. Tell him how you feel and tell yourself that you need to leave this relationship. Dont let him stop you from leaving. If you arent satisfied, why stay? Tell him he NEEDS to let you go.

Answer 5

I think you better ask yourself what you really mean when you say he "won't let you go". If you want out, all you have to do is tell him and then break up and not see him again. There must be extenuating circumstances you did not mention.

Answer 6

First, physically separate yourself from him. Go to a place of safety.

Next, you must emotionally and fully let go of him.

If you are in physical or emotional harm seek help immediately.

He has no right to control or keep you.

Peter

Answer 7

Tell him you don't want to continue the relationship, its over. If he bothers you then I agree turn him in as a stalker, Its your right to see who you want and live your life. ( as long as your single) He is invadeing your privacy by bothering you if he won't stay away.

File charges if he continues. Maybe then he will get the message.

Answer 8

You should do what is right for you. If he truly won't let you go, then he's a control freak and you are better off without him.

Answer 9

Wait till he has gone out for the day then pack your bags & go. Your self being is more inportant than any material things you have in this home

Answer 10

Honestly, if he's hurting you, you must call the police.
Or, what my friend did was switched her cell phone, never let him make any contact to you.
If he knows your home...and he's not getting your message at all, and if he turns up to your house, now you must call the police for sure.