A guy I met on line about 5 months ago asked for my photo a week ago. I asked him for his as well, but he seemed to be afraid of something. He told me to imagine how he looks instead of looking at his photo. I assured him that I would not discontinue writing him no matter how he looks. I also said that as long as he's a nice and decent person and we get along fine, his look doesn't matter a bit to me. I meant what I told him, but he still seemed afraid. To me he's very self-conscious and insecure, so he won't even describe to me how he looks. I really want to know how the person I'm talking to looks, but then I don't want him to feel pushed. Could you please tell me what you would do if you were in my shoe? Keep asking or just drop it? Your help is greatly appreciated.
2006-08-01 01:28:00 · 16 answers · asked by CRT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him give his photo when he's ready. He could be self conscious for a reason. When he is satisfied that you are really interested in who he is and not what he looks like, then he'll have the courage to send you his pic. Until then, keep up the contact and get to know him well through his writing. I wish you both the best of luck!
2006-08-01 01:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Could be that hes hiding something . Maybe a lie about his age or even gender. Something that would make it obvios by a photo. Maybe hes a public figure , and would like to remain anonomous.
There are alot of lonely people out there looking for friends and talking as you two have been might seem a safe way for him. If you get along and have tons to talk about just keep it on that level , and push no further. If hes being truthful about everything with you hell eventually come around if not......just enjoy the friendship for what it is. An anonomous online buddy thing.
Take care.
2006-08-01 08:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Coyote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only part I don't like about the whole thing is that he's telling you to "just imagine" how he looks. And....he won't even describe to you how he looks! That makes no sense. First of all, how old are you? You have to remember that there are lots of people on here that you cannot trust. He seems as though he is trying to hide something, possibly his age!! Don't send him your picture...you have no idea who you're dealing with. If I were you, I would try and break this whole thing off....period!! If he has so many "secrets" about himself, you can rest assured, that he's definitely hiding something.....and maybe it's something that you don't want to know!!! Keep in mind that you can tell anyone "anything" behind a computer screen!
2006-08-01 08:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep asking him for it. Reassure him, but also be firm. After all, it's not fair that he expects to see yours if he can't do the same for you.
Perhaps it is not really insecurity. Maybe he is older than he says, or married and afraid to send his picture into the big wide world. Maybe he's on America's Most Wanted. Ya never know! Be careful with it and don't give out your personal information.
Keep in mind also, that the computer is a great place to lie. Even if you do get a pic from him...don't be so sure it is really him, especially with his aversion to giving it to you in the first place.
2006-08-01 08:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by AlloAllo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First a little about myself. I am a 52-Year old single white Male who loves women.
If some female asked me for a photo I would expect then to send me one of there's. Just out of common courtesy.
He may just be Terribly self-conses or he may be MARRIED and not allowed to chat with you so he has a hidden identification. OR he could be in prison and not able to get a photo except in a prison uniform. (it has happened)
I agree with you that looks don't matter between on line friends, but if they are so scared they won't share their identity I would lose them.
Personally I would just communicate less and less till they lose interest.
If I find out they were married and lying about it I would drop them like a hot potato.
2006-08-01 08:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by space_man_stitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep asking. Why would you talk to someone for 5 months who does not want you to see them. He may just send you a picture of someone else anyway from the sounds of it. I think you have exhausted the shelf life of this pen pal and now it is time to move on to another. He simply has no good reason to act like that, unless you are so desperate to talk to him that you will take a bad one.
2006-08-01 08:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Marshal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after he seen your pic he thinks your to beautiful to want to have anything to do with him.Either he is self conscience about his looks and thinks that u are too good.OR i hate to say this maybe he is not the person you think your talking to you may think you are talking to a young guy and it may turn out to be an older man or woman.Hey alot of people do lie on the net.Just tell him you would really like to know who you are talking to and explain why and if he still dosent want to then you could still continue to talk to him but just be aware it may not be who u think that desicion is all yours
2006-08-01 08:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I probably wouldn't send mine till he sent his and I damn sure wouldn't meet him till I got a pic. Maybe nothing. I was chatting with a lady once and she stopped talking to me when I told her what job I had at the time. Funny thing is I wasn't even interested in her, I just wanted to chat.
2006-08-01 08:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That man is probably not allowed to give away his identity. The best way to get to know his physical features is to actually go meet with him some time. It's still summer vacation. Hurry, before it's too late.
2006-08-01 08:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would demand a pic, he's obviously hiding something. There's no reason he can't show you some type of pic. He's probably not who he says he is or maybe he's married or something. I wouldn't continue talking to him if I were you. Sounds shady.
2006-08-01 08:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by beautifully broken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋