She was going through problems and I was discussing with a friend how much we'd like to help...yada, yada, yada. One of the 3 people in the room went to her and told her "oh yeah, they were talking about you. Saying how much they'd like to help and that they love you". He said it sarcasticly (for fun I guess, or to get something started) so she took it as we were bad mouthing her.
Now, she won't talk to me or anyone else that was there and it's causing problems with my husband and his brother (her husband).
She has learned since what really happened but won't budge.
In all actuality, I really could care less if we forgive and forget because she should have trusted me and come to me for answers! But, I want to be the "bigger person" and confront her for my husband and brother-in-law.
My problem...my husband says not to do it because I would be "swallowing my pride" if I went to her, because she was wrong and knows it. Now, I am constantly thinking about it.
Should I confront he?
2006-08-01 01:08:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why bother ?? I f she can't figure out who her friends by now what will one more conversation do?
2006-08-01 01:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off it shouldn't have to be about being the bigger person.If she dose know the truth & is still not wanting to talk to you & if she is causeing problems between the brothers , the brothers should be family enough to not let it cause problems between themselfs.If all of this is out in the open & you know for a fact that she knows you was just trying to figure out a way to help her than it seems that this problem with her has to go deeper than the problem you might think it is.So if you do decide to go talk with her , you might want to make sure that it's just you two alone that way she might be willing to open up to you & you might very well find that it dose go deeper than the problem at hand. You should also think about while your talking with her she just might get upset but this is where you should have to hold a high ground & let her get it all out 'yes this might mean letting her yell at you'this is where you would be swallowing your pride, but you must remember that pride is not everything & you ARE doing this for your husbands & his brothers sakes. You must hold your toung to get this resolved.I surely hope this helps a little. May God Bless & be with you.
2006-08-01 01:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-28 14:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by alienello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's got her back up, she'll have a terrible time getting it back down. That's another way of saying it is very unlikely that she'll let you back into her good graces. (Big deal, huh?) Just as a guess, she's terrible fragile. Probably was abused in some way through alcoholism or other form of abuse. (I've kinda been where you are with a sister in law) You might think about apologizing several times (even though you have nothing for which you need to apologize) and recognize, she has to be treted with kid gloves, do that for the sake of the family, and, if you get a chance, talk about help through counseling, group therapy, etc. She's got a terrible hunger down inside that she can't satisfy.
2006-08-01 01:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If it's bothering you just get it over and done with and you'll feel a lot better. If she's still not willing to open up, then you've done everything you could and the ball really is in her court. Be the bigger person - the alternative is that you go on for years never talking & having to deal with a lot of hassle.
Good luck.
2006-08-01 01:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kobie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her, its not swallowing your pride. It seems that this is really bothering you. Women are different than men we like to get things out in the open. So go ahead and talk to her! It couldn't hurt
2006-08-01 01:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by KIM A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you were concerned about her and wanted to help her. Tell her that you did not mean to seem as if you were talking behind her back, but you had heard of her situation and were sorry that she did not feel that she could trust you enough to come to you for help.
2006-08-01 01:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by sahel578 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 100% she know what really happened don't do it.
2006-08-01 01:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by peace_fabulous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋