whys my mom being such a prick?

Question

she's really getting on my nerves. she hates most of my friends including my bf. im 17 but she still thinks im too young to do things on my own sometimes she forces me to wear clothes i do not like.. mosto f which are bought by her..

Answer 1

you need to talk to her about how you feel, at 17 you have a right to choose what you want to wear. dont get aggressive but be mature about how you talk to her.

Answer 2

I used the think the same of my mother when I was 17, but now I am 38, I have seen the other side of the coin and see that she was only looking out at me.

At a young age of 17, you want to scream and shout your independance and your mum is scared for you and this new found life of yours.

You need to tell your mum how you feel - not in a tantrum slanging match, but in a proper conversation and tell her that you understand how she feels about you growing up, but please can you both come to an understanding over issues that she will herself have had to overcome with her mother when she was 17.

I am sure that both of you can also come to a compromise over clothing as well.

As for boys and friends, again, your mother is worried that these people will steer you off the path that she has tried to set you on, she is just concerned, and in some instances, rightly so. No boy will ever be good enough for her baby - but in truth, you will only see all this when you are a parent yourself.

I swore blind that I wasnt going to turn into my mother, but if I can be half the woman that my mother is, then I will be more than satisfied.

Be good to your mother, she is the only one you will ever have.

Answer 3

That's a tough age for moms and daughters. At 17 you should be allowed to choose your own clothing, but I can understand why your mom would still want to choose them for you. It's probably hard for her to let go of the little girl and let you be the young woman you are. In your eyes, she trying to control your life and keep you from doing all the things that make you happy... in her eyes, she's loving and protecting you from the things that she knows could cause you harm. Talking calmly and coming to a compromise that you can both be happy with is the only way to really start to turn this thing around. Give mom a chance and I bet she does the same for you. Good luck...

Answer 4

She may be a little overbearing but you need to appreciate her point of you and that it comes from caring about you. she may go a little overboard but you won't change it by being combative.
If you talk to her and explain lovingly that just because some of your friends have issues that doesn't mean you are automatically going to have the same problems, and that she raised you well enough to trust you to befriend those who may need a friend and not worry about you getting caught up in their problems. That will help if your friends have major issues (drugs, laziness) or if it just small things she doesn't prefer about them (rude, obnoxious).
Also explain to her that she should love you for who you are and, most importantly, she should do one thing.
She should treat you, and her relationship with you, as if it does not reflect on her at all...she is her own person.
Many parents are overbearing because they are overly concerned with how their children reflect on them in the community. If you explain that what you think of her should be more important than what the community thinks of her and she should treat you as such, she just might. You can even agree to compromise and try to dress and act a little more like she would like when you are in certain social settings, where a lot of her friends may be.

Answer 5

Ever occur to you that your mom thinks YOU are the "prick"? No responsibilities, doing pretty much whatever you want, having money handed to you and having a roof over your head and food on the table without so much as lifting a finger? You probably don't have to share household chores, and I'll bet your room is a mess and you don't show respect to your folks. You ARE to young to do some things on your own. She if FORCING you to wear appropriate clothing to protect you, ding dong.

Grow up a little, show you are trustworthy and try to think about someone else besides yourself and she might lighten up.

God Bless Mama's!

Answer 6

Being a mom, I will try my best to help you with this question. First, I'd like to say that your word "p k" is very distasteful. Having said that, I have a few things for you to give some consideration to.
Your mom has brought you into this world, cared for all your needs and has loved you for 17 years. She has molded you and your thoughts, raising you to her very best. She was their through all of your situations upon growing up. Your mom has depended on you needing her for your needs. Now, you are growing up and would like to put that little space in-between you and your mom. Yes, this is natural, but for your mom, you will always be her little girl that she has been with for 17 years. Reguardless of your age, her role has been to be your "mom" in every sense of the word, after all, she loves you.
In watching you grow up, your mom can spot certain traits about you that you probably do not even realize, the good and the bad. Being older, your mom has learned some of lessons of life which you have not yet encountered. Through her experience, she is trying to help you so you don't have to have "unpleasant experiences". She doesn't want that for you because she loves you. It sounds like your mom is having a little trouble recognizing the fact that it is time to give you that little bit of room that you desire but please, it does not make her a "p k". She has only your love at heart, your needing her.
As you say you are 17 and would like a little room, then you are old enough to be able to find the right words and sit down and have that little chat with her. Express to her that you will make mistakes but it is time for you to learn through your own experiences and that you hope she will always be there as a guide and to help you along the way, that you will always love her no matter what. Believe me, she is not doing things to hurt you or to be a "p k", she just loves you so much and is having a hard time realizing you are growing up.

Answer 7

Your mom is just trying to do what she feels is best for you. I know you think you know everything that you need to know but trust me your mom is not stupid. She does know what she is talking about she has probably been there. She probably doesn't like your friends and boyfriend for a reason. Have you asked her why? Maybe if you understood why she doesn't like them you could see why she doesn't want you around them. Maybe she wants you to wear different clothes because she thinks your clothes are sending off the wrong signals not because she doesn't like them. Take the wisdom your parents are so willing to share with you. By the way I am only 25 (that isn't old to 17 year old's yet is it?) so Its not like I have issues with my own child being a teen yet, I am speaking about when I was a teen. Once I realized that my mom had reasons behind her madness we got along so well and we understood each other. I will pray for you and your mom to communicate better.

Answer 8

sounds like what jack said lol might help her.Or she is just a total control freak.She needs to loosen the reigns a little bit and let you make your own choices and desicions.You are 17 years old you are old enough to be picking out your own clothes.Shes trying to keep u her little girl forever and thats going to blow up in her face.You need to calmly sit down with your mom and explain to her how u feel and that there are things u want to do.And the clothes part that u want to pick out your own thats the way u express your self (as long as u dont dress slutty).Try that hopefully your mom will listen to u

Answer 9

It's called love and not wanting her baby to grow up. She's afraid of letting go because you just might go. She's just protecting you. You're her baby. She only wants the best for you. It's way better than not having a mother at all. By the way about your boyfriend, never doubt your mom's opinion about a guy. They see what we refuse to notice.

Answer 10

welcome to the world of teen angst.

The long and short of it, she loves you and wants to protect you. There are a lot of nasty people out there, also if you have made it this far without harm she is doing a damn good job.

Also you want your own life, makes total sense. 17 years is a long time to be in the world, at 18 you can get out and live on your own. This fight for control happens to most people, its part of the growing up process.

Answer 11

Show a little "poise" and respect towards your mother. You're about to turn 18. If you have an issue with her when your 18, move out! In the mean time, be patient with her and remember, you are living under her roof; not yours!