I'm seperated but not divorced, is it right to start a new relationship?

Answer 1

Divorces can take up to 18 months to finalise, go out and have some fun, if the relationship is over it doesnt matter does it.

Answer 2

Every separation and divorce is different and only you know if you are ready to start a new relationship or go out and have 'fun'. I guess it also depends on the grounds for the divorce, it is supposed to be quicker to get a divorce with grounds such as adultery and technically you would be committing that but it is your decision.

I separated three years ago from my husband due to his adultery and I have been trying to divorce him for 2 and a half years. I stayed single for a year and then started a new relationship which was not right for me and lasted 2 weeks if that. I stayed single for another year and then started seeing someone new who I love more than I thought I ever would again. In fact this is so different from what I had with my husband that in a lot of respects it is better. It is not without its problems because I was very hurt by what happened with my ex and this does sometimes manifest itself in this new relationship but I am working on it.

Some people say wait until the divorce is over but that is not always practical if it is anything like mine. I am onto my second solicitor, my ex will not agree on any point despite the fact that he wants the divorce, is living with the girl he had an affair with and now has a month old baby with her. Why should I have to stay single and alone when he is not? If it feels right go for it and if not then wait until you are ready.

Answer 3

Well, speaking from experience, I'd say no..wait till the divorce is final, then give yourself some time to work on you. I don't recommend starting a relationship until at least a year after your divorce is final! You may have some codependency issues if you're jumping from one relationship to another so quickly. Are you afraid to be alone? If so, you need to figure out why that is. Good luck

Answer 4

In the eyes of GOD its still adultery. If you are feeling that you want to be with someone else, why not get a divorce. I think separation is just an excuse to do your own thing. If its not working then let it go. Or get some help to make it work. But bringing someone else into the equation doesn't make it right or better. Just gets more peoples feelings involved.

Answer 5

Aside from what the bible-thumpers say. I'd have to say No. Do yourself a favor and give yourself time to heal. If you feel the need to go out then go out with some girlfriends or a guy-friend, not someone that you want to jump in the sack with.
I hope this helps.

Answer 6

you need to have a year after your divorce to be free of a relationship, before you will be ready to start a new one. of course that doesn't mean you can't have a little fun in the mean time.

Answer 7

It will be a re-bound relationship. As long as you both know that it can't go anywhere then have some fun together (not to much fun if you catch my drift) while your still technically married. Then again my dad always said I couldn't date until I was married so maybe it is ok. LOL

Answer 8

Get the divorce finalized first, then start over.

Answer 9

its upon u if u have finally decided to go for divorce than go on.... there no limit but if u think no there are chance of ur spouse to get close than wait and try one more time

Answer 10

Probably not a good idea just yet. For one, it could cause you legal ramifications and two; are you really READY for a new relationship? What's the rush?