i dont stop moanin at my boyfriend most of the time its for no reason im scared im gonna lose him im. if i dont get my own way i kick up a big fuss but it could b over whats on tv
2006-08-01 00:41:33 · 32 answers · asked by *samzie* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there and bought the t-shirt! If you're scared you're gonna lose him, then you're gonna lose him as you're insecurity will make you moody, naggy and 'clingy'. You need to develop more self-esteem. The more self-confident you are, the more he will realise he could lose you, the more attractive you will be and the more he will want to stay with you. Also the more confidence you have the more guys will be interested in you, so if he does leave you'll have tons of applicants as a replacement. A win-win situation.
2006-08-01 00:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by phil_intime 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Stop being a spoilt little girl. I bet he slags you off to everyone (mum his friends and I bet yours mates too). Basically if you have not got anything nice to say to him, don't say anything. mind you hes a mug if he sticks around to listen to you moaning, whinging, and generally being a knob. Thing is, I bet you are actually a nice person as well. Why is that. All women are really nice and then get a year down the relationship and its **** and they become argumentative knobheads. You are not a unique case though, every woman is like you. I heard a quote "women expect men to grow up and they don't and men expect women to stay the same and they don't". Sort yourself out before he goes. Be nice to him, let him go out to the gym and with go out with his mates till 3 am in the morning, any later and he could take liberties. Buy him a surprise, explain why you are being such an ****.
Personally I would just tell you to **** off.
I really think you are a kind cairng person, you just have to stop being a prat and try and go back to what it feels like when you first started going out together. Go out and get pissed with him. If you can still find loads to talk about with him and you are okay with him. You stand a chance. If you go out and keep finding faults with him and there are lots of uncomfortable silences. You will have driven him away and it will serve you right.
2006-08-01 01:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy two times 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you recognize that you have a problem is the first step in trying to solve it. Just remember life is not fair and you can not always have things your way.Try not to be selfish. It sounds like you are trying to test him all the time to see how much he cares about you. If he gives in then everything is good right? If you really want to change things start doing things that he likes and stop fussing when things are not your way.
2006-08-01 00:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not happy with him, so time to make or break.
Sit down, write down the things you are not happy with, see if your list is justified and reasonable. If it is, then you'll know what to do, if it is not, then you need to screw it up and bin it, and move on together. Happy.
MOANING about it, won't fix it. It will drive him away, possibly into the arms of another. Maybe you need some professional advice from a Doctor? They can get you some help to be more happy and satisfied.
2006-08-01 00:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. My gf is the same way but i know that it is just who she is so I tend to try to over look it, Sometimes it gets hard and trying, especially when she pushes me to far and i get upset and she gets upset with me because she can't understand why i got upset. If you realize how yo are acting then the best thing to do is sit down with your bf and talk to him tell him that you don't really mean to but it is just who you are and how you have been for so long, ask him to please not take it personally and try to work on catching yourself and stopping yourself when it happens. Dont forget he has feelings as well. Trust me if my gf would do that for me It would mean everything to me and make me feel so much better.
2006-08-01 00:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by shycountryboy85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to grow up poppette if all you have to take a b*tchfit about is not getting your own way with the tv
you probably dont deserve him - he's probably better of without the hassle really
grow up and sort yourself out and maybe the relationship can be saved.....if you're lucky - the damage may already been done
nobody likes a primadona little girl
2006-08-01 00:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill
2006-08-01 00:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being childish & being on his case. This way you will lose surely, you are seriously pushing him away. If you really care about him, consider how he feels everytime you do that to him. He is only human & eventually he will get tired!
2006-08-01 00:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep him you have to stop doing things to push him away, and you have to be honest about what's going on with you. What's eating you up and causing you to over-react, if you don't know, you've got to figure that out. There's something behind it, you aren't happy this way, yet you keep doing it, you have to figure out why, gotta search yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-01 00:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to hide a middle of you calm and upset mood, and when you are crossing it go to the computer and answer some questions it sound like you love him and want to work this out it going to take time and practice so breath deeply and relax.
2006-08-01 00:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋