I know he has a hearing problem as he keeps missing conversations and asking to repeat. he cant even hear some sounds that everyone else says they can hear.
2006-08-01 00:20:21 · 13 answers · asked by miss disquieted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As with so many other people, I also have been in the same situation. Unfortunately, there is no easy solution to helping your dad. As you said, he is in denial about the hearing loss.
As you get a little older, some people deny problems that are most common with aging. The fear of getting older and what's to come is very disturbing to some. The association of a hearing aid and aging can be frightening to some, hence denial.
As your dads hearing loss was gradual, he is unable to comprehend how much hearing he is missing. He has learned that the world is a little quieter and he is comfortable in his world. Unfortunately, as he has been losing his hearing, people around him have also "learned" to compensate by talking a little louder, repeating things for him and such. Even the volumne of the tv, the radio and such is now louder for his hearing loss. Although it won't be easy, you need to go back to your normal. Do not compensate any more for him, not to hurt your dad, but just to show him how much hearing he has lost. Don't repeat things anymore for him and don't act as his go-between. The rest of the family should do the same. Let him know in a gentle way that you will not be shouting anymore to talk to him and that you will no longer be repeating what he hasn't heard. Tell him that you love him, but that he needs to address his problem with his hearing. Tell him it's ok for him to have a hearing aid as so many others do. With the designs of hearing aids today, you can't even tell, and even if you could, today, it is no big deal.
I have written this with the assumption that your dads hearing problem can be corrected by hearing devices. There is that possibility that his hearing could be helped by other means.
I hope this helps a little. I know how frustrating it can be.
2006-08-01 01:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tweek 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He probably doesn't want to admit it to himself let alone anyone else so hes in denial about it, stand at the back of him and say something and if he doesn't hear you then he has an hearing problem, tell him what your doing and see how frustrating it is for him and hopefully he will get the picture, he needs to understand that things are only going to end up been a lot more frustrating for him and if he doesn't put his pride in his pocket it could all end in tears, none of us want to be told that bits of our body are no longer working at the full spec they used to do, but help is at hand and he could be the life and soul of the party again if he stopped been so stubborn.
2006-08-01 09:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using a tape recorder. Maybe he will hear himself asking what was said and that will be enough to get to a doctor. You might start writing things down and giving that to him. My mother is very hard of hearing and also uses hearing aids, but I still have to write things down instead of yelling at her all the time. Maybe someone else can help you with telling him about his hearing problem. Two heads are better than one.
2006-08-01 07:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, a tricky one. No-one likes to think they have a hearing problem as they think it's to do with old age and no-one wants to get old or admit to getting old! My nan was going deaf but she wouldn't have it. We used to have to say things to her over and over and in the end she still misheard us so we gave up. Eventually, we did persuade her to have a hearing test - which she agreed to as she wanted to prove us wrong - and it turned out she needed a hearing aid!! When she got it, she wouldn't wear it because "people would think she was old" (well, she was 77!) and she still reckoned she didn't need it.
Sorry I can't help you but I can empathise. Good luck.
2006-08-01 08:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sue K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there, it drives you crazy doesn't it. He used to say that everyone else was mumbling!!
Has he any friends who have hearing aids?
Maybe they could sell the idea to him and convince him of the benefits.
With my dad we always had to manipulate the situation so it would seem like his idea!!
Good luck
2006-08-01 07:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad is the same way, he even has his tv extremely loud.
there is nothing you can do till he admits he has a hearing problem himself so he could go get his hearing checked, but nothing you can do.
2006-08-01 07:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Denise to have a word with him.
2006-08-01 07:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Denise to leave his ears alone.
2006-08-01 07:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He surely has friends. Talk to one of his confidant among thiese. Or get the support of other children and call his attention to this- perhaps add your intent to foot the bill.-if u can.
2006-08-01 07:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just mess with him on purpose until her goes to get one.....Start talking to him then slowly go to a whisper until you ar just mouthing the words...it helps when everyone around plays along...then he might get tired of it and go get his hearing checked.
2006-08-01 07:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by dratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋