question for a belief in homosexuality?

Question

I asked this question in the lesbian, gay room but in 20 minutes have still not received an answer. My question is that I have read of former homosexuals deciding to become heterosexual. If this is true then doesn't this go against the theory that they are born that way? I also said I mean no disrespect and would like a respectful answer please.

Answer 1

Uh, let me put it this way....

no it doesn't.

Why is that? Genes give us a chance to become something, and determine the strength of those characteristics.


By chance, people are distributed through all possible points, so some will be borderline.

So someone borderline COULD change the way they think, provided they were really motivated.

But that is well acceptable.

If, say, 40% of gay people were able to change, then that would mean genes effect was weak. :)

But not so in the percentages we have seen.

Always remember, humans are very variable!

Answer 2

There are people who "turn straight" so to speak, usually due to religiously based programs that allegedly overcome homosexual tendancies and such. My parents belong to a church that is attended by at least one "former lesbian" but as a gay guy myself, I can say that any form of sexual conversion doesn't so much prove that people aren't born gay as it supports the more controversial theory that people aren't born straight. By the logic set forth by people who propose to prove that homosexuality is a choice, one must also look at the fact that it will prove that heterosexuality is a choice as well and that one must have both experiences in order to determine which they prefer.

The "former homosexuals" you have read about fall in to a pretty hazy category of people. Many of them are gays who are uncomfortable with the fact that they are gay, and in a search for social acceptance they enter into such programs in an effort to "turn straight." These programs do nothing but submerge a gay/lesbian person's natural biologically-determined orientaton beneath religious dogma that often becomes a more intense form of self hatred/abuse later on. In other cases, the so-called ex-gays were never gay to begin with. Very often people WILL express confusion with their sexual identity due to bad experiences with the same or opposite sex...some impressionable women will believe that they are lesbians if men find them unattractive, and equally impressionable young men (mostly boys) will believe themselves gay if they lack the proper skills and techniques for "adequate" lovemaking. THESE particualar individuals are the most likely candidates for "ex-gay" ministries, and it is THESE impressionable individuals who will likely become whatever the dominant opinion says that they should be.

Of course many Christians (and others) are likely to disagree with my judgement of the whole "ex-gay" phenomenon, but I do have to raise a question that your question actually raises. If gay people were to make value judgements of straights and were to imply that heterosexuality was a "choice" then how right--morally and ethically--would any religion-sponsored programs be to "recruit?" And how ironic is it that it's actually straight religionists who are doing the "recruiting" rather than us deviously perverted gay people?

Answer 3

a heterosexual person can at any moment for reasons of their own .. abstain from sex , this may be due to religious beliefs etc
now a homosexual who has decided not to be homosexual any more would just be doing the same thing .. abstaining from homosexual practises for whatever reason
this doesn't mean they are homosexual or weren't born homosexual ... what it does mean is they are giving up something that is so natural for them
i do not feel this is good for anyone , to act against their nature and give up something because a belief tells them so , and will probably do them more harm than good in the long run
its very sad

Answer 4

I have a friends that had low self esteem and when approched by other girls and got that attention (really pretty girls I might add) she probably liked it. Them walking around together also got the attention of guys. So when the right guy came along she decided that she wasn't gay anymore. I'm not saying that this is what is happening but this is what I saw once. And it gave my other friends ideas, which is why I think it is so commone to see girls kissing other girls. It gets guys attention. Just a thought.

Answer 5

Well I am going to answer your question as the christian woman that I am. Homosexuality is a choice and people can decide whether or not they want to live in sin or not. God would have never made homosexuality a sin, if it was something we could not change about ourselves.

Answer 6

There is plenty of evidence for this. There is a "Love Won Out" aspect to the ministry of Focus on the Family whose purpose is to reach out to homosexuals. The conferences/mission tackles the truth on homosexuality and has been involved in the repentance from it.

Answer 7

Programs dedicated to trying to make homosexuals into heterosexuals have an extremely low success rate. Since we know many people are bisexual it would make sense to assume that those who where "changed" already had some heterosexual tendencies.

Answer 8

I was a lesbian. Only dated women. Now all I have been with is men. I am going to switch back to women though. When I marry...I hope I can fall in love with a man because I want to live the "american dream". Confusing huh? I prefer a realationship with a women but I am so turned on sexually by men...and barely by women.

Answer 9

THEY ARE NOT BORN THAT WAY IT IS MOST ASSUREDLY A CHOICE ONE MAKES.
Le 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

Ro 1:24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
Ro 1:25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
Ro 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
Ro 1:27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.
Ro 1:28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
Ro 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Ro 1:30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Ro 1:31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
Ro 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
1co 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

Answer 10

I'm gay, and I don't think I could turn straight. But if a gay guy came up to me and said he has decided to become straight, I wouldn't argue with him. I respect all points of view.

Love, Jack

PS: I sleep with women from time to time, but I still identify as gay.