I am thinking of moving to Portugal to work and to become independent.My mom says that i shouldn´t live there because it is very dangerous to live there.The reason why i am thinking of moving to Portugal is because, i can´t stand my family,my 32 year old sister and my mother.I hate them so bad.I don´t want them to see me or call me.I just want to leave my family.My mom threatens me with killing me if i comunicate with my boyfriend again in wich she does not know if i´m still going out with him.She does not understand that i have to think about myself and that i want to work.She only wants to see my sister happy.She treats me and my sister differently.And they are good friends.I don´t like them both at all.what should i do?go to Portugal to start from zero?because i preffer to start from zero than to be with them.I am 23 and i know what is bad and good for me.
2006-07-31 23:34:52 · 13 answers · asked by vrrms 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are 23 years old and your mother threatens you to kill you? What is wrong with her. Cant you get a job and move out from the house? If you cant, then maybe it would be better to move in Portugal. From what i now that's not a dangerous country. The people are very civilized. She cant stop you to do that. But you should be careful if you tell her before moving.
2006-07-31 23:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to go to Portugal to live but running away from your problems never solved them. Don't think that living in another country will make you forget that you think your mother was unfair to you.
What you need to do, first, is talk to someone who will help you resolve your anger towards your mother and sister. Do see a therapist of some kind. This will be a big step towards freeing yourself from this bitterness.
Also, even though it sounds illogical, the best way to put bitterness and anger behind you is to forgive the people you are angry at. Once you are able to truly forgive them, you will be free of all the hatred that continues to tie you to them. Then, whether you stay wherever you are or go to Portugal, you will be your own person and finally free to live your own life.
2006-07-31 23:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I question at 23 if you really know what is good or bad for you I made a lot of mistakes about that age you have other options than Portugal may be just get apt on your own and do not communicate frequently,but my Bible says to Honor Thy Mother and thy Father I think that is the wisest choice you can honor her but live a separate life.
2006-07-31 23:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You are old enough to know what is right and what is wrong. I think you should go. BUT be careful.First make sure you have a job WAITING, accomodation, etc. OR at least a back up plan, just in case it doesnt work out(Im sure you dont want to go crawling back to your parents, you will never live it down)LOOK AFTER YOURSELF. I left my home when I was 18 (not by choice though) and because everyone was so negative towards me, I made a life for myself.If you believe in yourself, you can do anything.If it'll make you happy, do it!Good luck!!!
2006-07-31 23:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, in the old days the average age to have a child was like 12. People make mistake and that mistake is the reason she is on this earth. Your daughter needs to learn respect, no matter the age you are still her mother. I doubt the kids in school are saying that much about it, like the worst thing is to have a young parent. Nevermind the parents that molest,beat, or even kill their kids...its the young ones that really get the brunt of it. Tell your 18 year old to grow up and respect you!
2016-03-27 12:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to Portugal move on with live she won't kill u coz it is a crime and she will stay in prision for the rest of her life anyway ur in control of ur life not her not ur sister she won't appriciate u not until u leave her and mayb after u are gone ur relationship with her will be better leave them ok the grass is always greener on the other side of the mountioan all the best
2006-07-31 23:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by astrid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult and you know what you want. Do what you think is going to make you happy. If your Mother isn't going to see that her daugther is happy, then you're going to have to see to it yourself.
Just go.. tell her that you're an adult, and you're going to live your own life. Tell her that you think moving to Portugal will make you happy, and you're leaving.
Or , just leave a note some night that says you're moving and don't be there when she wakes up. You have to think about yourself and your happiness.
2006-07-31 23:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave,start a Life you Deserve.
2006-07-31 23:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in western thinking 23 is plenty old enough to make your own decisions.
it's the big age difference.
2006-08-01 00:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it! good luck. But, dont completely cut all of your ties to your family. You will regret it later.
2006-07-31 23:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋