tell me frankly, how many of you ladies would like to get marry to multiple men?

Question

i am reading this thing again n again that islam doesnt give equal rights to women. most posted example is if man is allowed to have 4 wives at time then y not a woman can have more then one. now answer me this question with solid reasons, how u ll justify a woman having mulitiple husbands at a time?
one more thing to tell u all, v muslim ladies r more happier n satisfied then u non-mulsim and western ladies. even if our husbands r allowed to ve 4 wives, v know from the depth of our heart that they wont do it coz they get all the pleasures from their one n only wife thru out thier lives. like ur men they do not ve to go to so many girls for the pleasure sake. if we mulims ladies r happy with what v have then who r u ppl to interfere in our lives?

ok tell me what is the right, or what r the rights that are given to western women but not to a muslim women?

re:pangel, a person who want another wife, he has to provide her a separate house. 2ndly its up to 1st wife if she agrees to her husband will. man is suppose to convince her with proper reasons. but still if she doesnt want then 1st her husband can never bring any other lady 2ndly if she wishes she can ask for divorce.the man is left with 2 options, either to divorce his 1st wife or drop the idea of 2nd lady.

well mr seeing n practicing with an understanding has difference. u must ve seen something but nt necessary that u understood them 2.
husband is suppose to keep her in separate home if she asks so. islam has given this right to the wife.
permission of 1st wife is necessary otherwise he has 2 options as i stated above.
Khula is rite thing u mentioned n that would mean she doesnt want anything from his property except Mehar.husband mostly gives the divorce, otherwise v ve courts also.
3 words of "talaaq" is not common.
u r so illitrate. kid is with mother till the age he gets 2 know about what is father n what is mother. once he enters that age, the kid is asked whom he wants to live with.decision is made according to kid's will. that mostly goes in mother's favor.
u cannot prove me wrong if i say majority of muslims live their lives with only 1 wife n extramarital affairs ratio is far more in non muslim countries. otherwise come with solid reasons n prove me wrong.

above last comments r for Mr Rian30.

Answer 1

While I am not going to comment on polygamy at all I would like to comment that whatever you said about second wife and divorce options , is highly misleading.

I have read laws of Islam about marriage and divorce and inheritance quite well. And I live in a country which has second largest Muslim population of the world.

I know ground realities. Seen it too many times.

A Muslim can not force his wives to share the same bed but they very well live in same house.

They are ordered to behave with equality but their permission for another marriage is not compulsory.

As for divorce , yes a wife can ask for it under Khula but she has to forsake her Mehar for it and its her husbands prerogative if he divorces her or not.

And she is not entitled to any other compensation or maintenance after the time of three monhs except her "Mehar".

Triple Talaq is too common a practise and custody of a kid older than 5 years goes to husband .

Saying that I know not all Muslims marry 4 wives and extramarital affairs and deceits are common everywhere and not limited to any religion, nation, society or social group.

So instead of getting defencive try to improve situation in your own society.

Ranting at YA wont help.

Added:

Triple Talaq is quite common form in Indian sub continent and its second largest Muslim Population. Its been topic of debate and many Muslim Women are asking for improvemnent too.

You really do not want me to post Shahbano (1985) case here.

I am better informed about Muslim law than you think. I read it at college level .Looks like you thought nobody knows what the real law is.

I already said that I know that not all Muslims have more than one wife. So Where is the question of proving you wrong?

But if you really want to argue like this , What about Muta marriages?

ya ya its not approved and only Shia thing. But then Again many Sunni kings have had harems and off course sex with slaves and enemy women is not considered extra marital affair either in its culture.

And yes, they can not have more than 4 wives and the fifth will be irregular. But it gets regular if one divorces one off the earlier wife. So the rotation system can be followed to have even more than 4 wives , just not at the same time.

I was not opposing you. I just said, do not mislead.

Answer 2

There are many reasons why a woman having multiple husbands won't work, while a man having multiple wives will.

For one, the wife with multiple husbands would be in constant pregnancy, which is severly dangerous for the woman. If the woman were to get pregnant, then no one will know who the father of the child is until it's born, which will cause much depression to the husbands who wanted to the father.

Secondly, there is a greater population of women in ratio to men in every country of the world. Women will always over-populate men, which means that there will be women who will not have a male spouse/boyfriend, because of the "one woman to one man" rule.

Third, the constant sex and damage done to the woman's vagina by the husbands' penises will have permanent effects on the woman's vagina as well as self-esteem.

In almost every religion, males have always been allowed to have more than one wife or female companion. Look at Abraham (Sarah and Haggar), King David, King Solomon, and even Jesus's disciples.

Answer 3

i have thought about this a lot and i can actually see the benefits of having other women in the household , many times i have thought wouldn't it be nice if i had another woman here to share the burden of being a mum , running a house etc and the company would be wonderful as mums are at home many times on their own
i am not sure i could handle the emotional side though and sharing the love of my husband .. but if i was brought up in such a way that this was normal .. i can see this would not be such a problem
as for more than one husband .. ermm no thank you , one man is more than enough lol

Answer 4

I personally don't care if other people are okay with polygamy. It's just not something I would want. There are a few cultures where women have multiple husbands, it seems to work find for them.

Personally, I agree with those who view Islam as not giving equal rights for women. It's not about if women would want multiple husbands, its just that they should have equal rights as men. But, since I'm not Muslim and those beliefs aren't being imposed on me, I don't care. Plus, the Bible also doesn't treat women equally...so I'm not just being biased against Islam. To each their own, just don't try to convince me that your way is better than mine.

Answer 5

It is a DUMB man and/or woman who wants to do what others do because it is popular, especially if you know it causes strife. Any woman who would dare say, I want to have four husbands because a man can have four wives is DUMB!

Women are not wired that way. A woman (not a whore or a slut)wants exclusivity. She wants someone whom will be hers alone, and alone she can giver herself to.

Answer 6

because a man could potentially father millions of baby's a day, but a woman can only give birth to one baby once every nine months.

Answer 7

I'm with Pangel, One husband is far enough.