My boo and I love each other and we are very open and trusting with each other. Just recently I was introduced to a friend's friend, another man, and I was immediately attracted to him. Whenever I fantasize, then it's not about my boo...it's about the other guy. I feel wrong about it, but I also know that I love my baby and I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize our relationship. Is it okay for me to have these thoughts?
2006-07-31 23:14:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Those are normal helathy thoughts, you cant just automatically stop from being attracted to people because you are with someone, it's any actions you take that would be right, wrong or cheating.
Men do it all the time so women should be no different.
Depending on how much trust you have with eachother in your relationship and what your man is into, would determine if it's ok to tell him about it, in most cases I dont' think it would be a good idea.
We all have our secret fantisies or fetishes, many of which we'd never actually do in real life but are our own thoughts. Most of those who say it is wrong or a sin come relgious followers but the truth is no one is pure or sin-free in this world and should spend more time improving their own lives than judging others.
2006-07-31 23:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Gary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes its ok if u knoe that ur boo is the guy then why not imfatuation happens even when u are in love with someone else and its totally ok but id suggest be honest with this boo is yours but tell him that for u he is the one
2006-07-31 23:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by cute gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love my boyfriend so much, an i kno that i can look at a man an just think yeh hes good looking an thats it. you need 2 look at why u thinking this and r u with the right person. My names Stephanie 2 lol i hope u do wots right 4 u
2006-07-31 23:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by pinkncheeky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it is..do you think your boo is really making love to you????everyone fantisizes.you can love your other half more than anything in the world but when your hitting it you will be thinking about other people..its normal,so dont beat yourself up over it.im sure boo aint sweatin it when hes thinking about the girl at work,or the one in the store.......
2006-07-31 23:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has them at some point,,when you get a little closer then watch your relationship,just remember not to call your boo by the other guys name
2006-07-31 23:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by tay3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as that's as far as it goes. If you know you wouldn't do anything to ruin what you and your man have, it's fine. There's nothing wrong with thinking about others as long as you dont act on anything.
2006-07-31 23:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, def not ok!
If you aren't married, you need to figure out why you are thinking bout this other guy. Wouldn't it hurt you if your man was doing the same thing?
2006-07-31 23:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by bburgandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No big deal, I do the same but be sure to always remind yourself that whatever u feel or have for the other person is infatuation.
2006-07-31 23:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by oasis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that its right if it was someone famous then i think it would be ok cuz ur boo would not be threatened by someone who is reachable. put ur self in his shoes how would that make you feel?
2006-07-31 23:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by Maryfer805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok if u can control these thots...cos we r al humans n its natural to hav thots lik this.......but its also important to stop it before somethin really happens.....dont start somethin u can never stop
2006-07-31 23:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋