Is it true that Muslim mens can marry any number of times and what about womens?

Question

I asked this to muslim mens and they said they can marry a poor girl to support...So does it makes sense to see a 45 year ol man marry a 15 yr ol girl cause she lost her parents and the ol man is already married twice before..Cant he just adopt her as his daughter or help her by giving her school fees and treating her as his daughter rather than wife.and he's already have a daughter 15 years ol.

And he says he's following islam...Wow what a religion.

Answer 1

It is true that Muslim men can marry up to 4 women at one time. But polygamy isnt an uncommon thing. It was a common practise before the 20th century even to other religion such as Christianity as well. BUt as time goes by, polygamy has become something really ugly. And ppl today even refuse to know or discuss the reason for this particular act.

The reason why it is allowed is to prevent men from committing adultary and other henious act. Thus at least by allowing men to marry more than one wife could help prevent men from sleeping with other women behind their wife's back. How often do we hear men cheating on their wives in the western world? This could help prevent such act.

Though there are such freedom, it is not as free as one thought. It is actually a limitation. It limit the freedom of men trying to find other women and commit henious act and it also limit a man to 4 woman the most.

There are also rules, as not any man can marry more than one. One has got to be able, financially, physically and fair. One has to be fair with both wives and most of all need to receive a consent of the first wife before getting married to another one. Without the consent, he cant do anything.

About the story of that 45 year old man getting married with a 15 year old girl, to me and u and modern world today, it is considered unreasonable and wrong. And ur idea is great about him just adopting her as a daughter instead of marrying him and i dont know why doesnt he do that instead. It is all about his own wish and perhaps promise to the girl. But then at the same time, perhaps it is just a normality in their culture. As we all know, in different parts of the world, the cultures are totally different up to the level that a sign of peace might mean a sign of war in another place. But the act of the 45 year old man, doesnt speak for all muslims, ethic wise. In terms of law, i do not see him breaking any law written in islam nor other religion im sure but at the same time i do not see any law in any religion especially in Islam that encourages it as well.

It is true that he is marrying a minor. But the "minor" law is only being implemented in certain countries and to other countries, a 15 year old might not be considered a minor anymore. There are differences u know between a 15 year old in a developed country and how they act and a 15 year old in some 3rd world country. Perhaps it is due to the lifestyle and responsibility one has got to take depending on the region and places one live. That is why sometimes, it is not the age that matters but the mentality of a person. A 30 year old guy can sometimes be a little kid whereas some 10 year old can sometimes have a mentality of a man.

Answer 2

Islam always marriage 4 women at a time but under special conditions mainly to be equally fair with them to be able to give them their rights and if he thinks he can't do that then he should have only one wife
i think this is far much better and more respectable to all of them than the unlimited multiple illegal relationships allowed in other civilizations
besides Islam has warned old men from marrying to young women(but it is not totally prohibited as there may be individual cases)
and many times we see in many civilization a girl having a relationship with a man in the age of her father and both of them say we are free we can do whatever we want
all this can tell u one thing , Islam has put great regulations in the Islamic community that aims at protecting it from sins and moral deterioration

Answer 3

A man can marry more if only his wife permit, financially solvent, any social or humanitarian reason presence and off course if the female agree. No other ill sense should be there, totally prohibited, Haram.

And Woman can’t do that, they are allowed for subsequent marriage after legal separation from previous with valid reason.

As per present medical science it is also good for woman. Just consider a woman has multi husbands, (Allah forgive me, Astagferullah) what those the entire husband do during her biological period, and if it is longer what would be the social scenario.

Islam does not allow prostitution, free mixing (human is superior than animal) but allow nice excellent social relation. Which one sounds good?

There is no discrimination. People are misusing, misinterpreting, doing wrong thing by the name Islam. May Allah help us.

Answer 4

Muslim men can marry up to four wives, provided that he can treat them equally. Most Muslim men, however, have only one wife.

You must look at the context of which these things applied. Marrying more than one woman was allowed originally in order to protect the women, not because the men want more women. And Muslim men and women are allowed to marry when they have reached puberty, which is in some cultures considered adulthood.

There are many things that you really cannot understand by applying them to today's standards. You have to keep an open mind and look at the reasons why these things were so. In Biblical times, for instance, men could marry any number of wives, without limit, and women were often married young (at least by our standards). In these types of societies that was the norm.

Answer 5

its up to the girl, either she wants to marry the old guy or not. if yes, then there is no harm of getting married. i mean the girl and old wont be asked any question coz the girl is mature and so they guy, both had will to marry and they did.

but if the guy is just marrying a 15 years girl for his lust, and marriage is just a try to give reason to his lust, then ofcourse this is wrong and Allah's know better. He will give him what he deserves.

there r a lot more ppl around who will prefer to adopt her and give her good education. yours case seems to be exceptional.

2nd or 3rd marriage has alot of requirments that needed to be full fil. but due to lack of interest in religion, ppl do not bother and take the things as they want. its all bull **** about muslims marrying multiple ladies. some times if u get a chance to meet muslims or came to some muslim country, have a rough survey n u ll know that all will be married to one lady. in my life of 26 years, i have hardly seen 2 men who have two wives. one of the man has the reason that his wife can not concieve and other i dont know for sure but i think that was a love case.

Answer 6

There is a long philosophy behind the marriage topic in Islam..
The others don't understand easily & don't take it seriously.
Well. For women, the rule is that she can marry the man of her choice.
There is one marriage at a time.
When her man & she are separated(divorced), or she became widow then she can again marry a new man of her choice. BUT after 4 months.
Yes 4 months.
The logic is, that if she is pregnant but there are no symptoms of pregnancy, these 4 months will help in showing any symptoms of pregnancy.
If she is pregnant then it is better to stay single untill the birth of her child.
If she is not pregnant then she can marry easily with the man of her choice.(after those 4 months)

The woman can not marry multiple guyz at the same time because there must be no confusion between the father of her child. I mean who is the biological father of that baby.
But again, she can marry different guyz at different times, bieng wife of just one at a time.
There is a lot more to explain, but I hope the point is clear....
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Now let us take rules for men..
In case of men, Men CAN marry, more than one woman at a time, in Islam.
Actually 4 women at a time.
The logic is clear.
The man has no problem with child birth.
He does not give birth to baby, so he does not have to worry for his baby's mother. ie. who is his baby's biological mother.....
Had it be the man to give birth to his child, the same rules may be applied to man as is to women(to marry 1 person at a time.)

Other conditions for marrying more than one woman at a time is that
If his first wife allows him to marry another woman, he can marry.
Similarly, If he wants to marry third woman, he first asks his first 2 wives whether he can marry or no. Similarly for th 4th, he asks all of his 3 wives.
Others are that whether he can fully support every of his wife financially.
He treats all of his wives equally....
He treats ever child, be that from any of his wives equally...

there is also an other option where what to do if a man or woman wishes not to marry & remain single.
In this case, The man is ordered to do fasting untill his death or untill he marries later some years or so...
anyways....
This is also a little part of explanation to ur question...
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As far as your question for a 45yr old man to marry a 15 yr old girl., I dont think ther is any problem.
Ofcource he can adopt the 15yr old girl but he can also marry her.
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A marriage is a sacred relationship in Islam.
It is the most easy & true & logical religion on face of the earth.
Don't u think the logic of waiting for 4months to marry for a divorced or widowed woman with a new man, sets correctly.
This idea was given to us more than 1400 years ago when there was very less knowledge & it was the period of ignorance !!!!
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Answer 7

lets get this thing right ok...
Muslim men can marry up to 4.
if 1st wife approved the marriage then the husband can get another one and so forth.
but the husband has to be equal and be treated fairly to all his 4 wives. in terms of financial needs as well as emotional needs.
muslim women on the otherhand have to have one husband unless the woman divorce his ex husband, then she can get another.
this reason is because in any family, the husbands is the one providing for the family..not the other way round..
it is morally not right if the woman have four husbands and she is the one providing for the family.
about the case about the 15 years old girl..
any girl at the age of puberty or have started their mensuration can get married provided if she wants to or is subjected to approval by her parents..
which is better? a 45years old man get married to a 15 years old gerl, or you have seen lately that old men, hanging around the red light looking for young blood with no strings attach?
ask yourself this question. aite..take care..

Answer 8

In American culture that doesn't make sense, but other cultures wouldn't view a 45 year old marrying a 15 year old as anything bad. The age at which a person becomes an adult varies from society to society...it also varies throughout history. So, ya he could just adopt the girl, but that's not how their culture normally handles things.

Answer 9

Do you know Islam is the only religion that says 'Marry only ONE'???

no other religion says marry only ONE. GO and open the Bible.
But Islam also ahs an upper limit of upto 4. Why?

The physiological reason behind that...

Men are more sexual than women. Its proven scientifically. Women have times at which they can thave sex. Therefore, what should a man do at that time? Wait or else have it in a legalized manner by marrying upto 4 as per the Islamic doctrine PROVIDED he mantains and treats them equally.

The lifespan of men is much lesser than women. On an averge there are few men available for women. Moreover a large number of men are killed in wars, heart attacks (smoking) etc...

My question to you... What should the remaining women do, who have no man left to marry????
become a Public property??? or become a Legalized wife who enjoys many rights???

New York itself has 7 million Gays. US has countless Gays. Smae is the case with Britain, France etc....

Now keeping in mind that the Men to women ration is already such low, subtract the Gays and what number of men are left now???

So where should these women go? As i said earlier, the safest, economical, hygienic (free from AIDS and other STDs) is to enter into a wedlock and have rights and benefits.

Why not the other way round???
More chances of AIDS if a woman has multiple sex partners.
Depression and other psychological factors.

Decide yourself, Islam uplift the status of women or not??

Watch for yourself the video:
"Women's rights in Islam - Protected or Subjugated?"
A talk by Dr. Zakir naik - An expert on Comparative religion studies.
www.irf.net

Answer 10

actually this is one of the commandments of God that has been used negatively by the westerners to quite an extent without realizing that it actully is the rule of God......................
well the logic behind it is to stop adultery and wrongdoings or sins. if we look at the ratio of men and women we will find out that in each house there are more no of girls than boys and it's a fact .........likewise in the world there are about 3-4 times more womenfolk than men meaning thereby that if all are wed with each other than so many women will remain unwed as there would not be any men left............therefore in Islam it has been granted to marry 1,2 3 or 4 in order to ensure that all the girls get the chance to marry and they are not let alone to sin with there growing age......but to do that it has been conditioned over a muslim that he can only do so if he thinks that he can marry another without prejeducing the earlier wife and if he thinks it difficult than he should marry only one...........
so in all verdicts of God there has to be some betterment for the human race.........................