I'm in love with a girl, 160 miles away...?

Question

We met on holiday, only for 2 days. But those two days made me feel so happy. I drove to see her on the weekend... It was hard to leave her knowing that I can only see her weekends... I said we will make it work. We are together now. I want to reassure her it will work and that I love her... Any advice or thoughts would be much appreciated...

We met two weeks ago on Holiday. The feeling is mutual between us... We both miss each other like crazy. We have spoke about the future and moving in with each other. She told me that she finishes her education in a year and that she will be free to do whatever after that. So we are looking into the future as we both see this relationship as being successful. I have just found out that she has booked a meal for us this Saturday when I go up there... :)

Answer 1

kind of went through the same thing.

Show her committment. Ladies need that.

Show an interest in her area she lives.

Set a reminder in your phone every couple of days (even if you are together physically) to do somthing for her.

Such as:

Write her a letter and post it.
Back massage.
Send her flowers.
Tell her to get dressed up then take her out.
Tell her how great she looks in that dress, or her hair is nice
Treat her special

Go for it!

Answer 2

Well mate, i wish you all the best, my other half lives 156.3 miles away (approximately!).

Few things i'm curious to know about though, when you say you met on holiday, how long ago are we talking about here? IMO (and i admit i'm a bit of a doom and gloom merchant) if you've met the girl for 2 days on holiday, and visited her once, that's awfully early to be calling it love, and unless she's feeling the same i'd keep that one close to my chest. Also i notice you said that

"I can only see her weekends... I said we will make it work. We are together now. I want to reassure her it will work and that I love her"

That's a lot of "I" one "We" and no "she".. the distance between you isn't (or shouldn't be) exclusively your problem. So where is the "We want this to work, we love each other, we need advice on how to do this?"

I guess i'm saying the most important thing for you do to, is make sure that this is mutual, that you talk to her about how you're going to cope with the distance, and that you're both prepared to give it a go and don't do anything to abuse the trust of a distance relationship. Until you've got all that sorted then i'm worried that you'll end up hurt.

But once it is sorted.. then comes the fun part :-) letters, pressies in the post, texts, phone calls, suprise visits etc, it's actually not that tricky, and in a way i like having to work at things because it stops us from taking each other for granted... oh and the sex when we do meet!! - Hubba hubba!!! lol

All the best!


Just read your additional info mate.. sounds very posisitve :-)

Answer 3

I'm in the same situation, only she's 300+ miles away. You can make it work by visiting when you can and calling often. But it only works on the presumption that someday soon one of you will be able to move to where the other person lives. If you're just trying to have a normal relationship with someone who lives 3 hours away, its not gonna happen in the long run.

But if you both are REALLY into it and you BOTH feel that you will turn this into a Long Term Relationship and that you'll be together sometime soon (within a year at most), then go for it.

If you really want to get her, send her a card from you that just says "hi, hope you're having a good day" and spray a ton of your cologne on it so it smells like you when she recieves it.

Answer 4

I was with a fella from Oxford for 6 YEARS! and i live in Grimsby (175 miles away) We met on a one night stand type situation in a pub and it was great for 6 years, seeing him every other weekends and longer times in the summer etc. He wrote letters, sent cards, e-mails, texts, phone calls (bills of like £500 a month!!!) and loads of romantic stuff. He eventually moved in with me after the 6 years of long distance and then it was S**T!!! We were together for another 2 years but then.....

I learned he was a cheat, a gambler, lazy, a heavy drinker and all round nasty violent low-life. All I'm saying is...while we were long distance it was wonderful - but I guess you don't get to know someone fully if you're not there most of the time. I think he had four girlfriends on the go while we were long distance, as I was only there one weekend out of two, so was none the wiser! When he had other girlfriends while he lived in my house I realised and kicked him out! (Am much happier and married now to a lovely bloke)

I wish you luck and hope it works out, just watch your back honey :) xox

Answer 5

You can make it work, my bf and I did. He lived in Devon and I live up north and we managed it until he finished Uni and we are still together 4 years later. Being apart makes you realise your feelings for eachother and how much you want that other person. My bf sent me a single red rose and a poem and that was amazing. We used to buy eachother little gifts and surprise eachother by just turning up at the front door. (obviously, make sure you know she will be in). Trust me...Long distant relationships do work-I am living proof! Good Luck, it will be hard but remember it will be worth it in the end.

Answer 6

you took a massive gamble both of you, everyday is now a learning experience. i had the same thing, g/f is from england im from ireland we met in ireland. could we make a go of it after one weekend together ect..i was having a bad time in life and she took me in to her house in england. but i let her know i cant live anywhere but ireland, so she sold up and moved over to ireland with me, a massive gamble on her part. year and a half later were still together we are in finiancial difficulty and she gets homesick every 6 months so we use our holiday fund money so she can go to her family for a few days, know what? we wouldnt swap a minute of it for riches if it meant not being together.. only thing you need to watch out for is her and you missing your friends and family because it does hurt. but fixable

Answer 7

Long-distance relationships take a lot of effort from both parties. I guess you just have to communicate with her more through phone-calls and online chats on the weekdays. Eventually though, it is better if one of you can move to either one's state. To some people, absence makes the heart grow fonder. To the others, it simply means it won't work. It depends on you and your girl.

Answer 8

my boyfriend lives 200 miles away, and we have been seeing each other for 3 months now. Enjoy the weekends and enjoy the time together, and think of the fun you can have with phone call, texts and emails.

I have great fun

Answer 9

I have dated boys from London, East yorkshire & Swansea and I live in Liverpool. You can make it work..in fact, It keeps that little spark for longer, remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder, you don't get so sick of each other. It makes it more exciting because you have 2 different cities, towns to enjoy.You just both have to make the effort to see each other as often as you can and have lots of trust in one another........It can work, I now live with the guy from Yorkshire and we have 3 beautiful little girls together. (write lots of letters too)

Answer 10

im in a long distance relationship aswell, but i only see my bf evey second weekend, we have been dating for 7 months now. its so hard leaving him so i know how u feel. the most important thing is trust, u need to let her know that she can trust you when your apart. hang in there

Answer 11

Love will find a way,all the very best to you both.