hi my problem is my ex, we were together for 2years he went overseas for six months and i waited for him loyal all the time, he came back it was fantastic, he left me five months ago saying he wanted his space, two weeks gone by and he already got a new girlfriend, it broke my heart i moved to another city with the thought it would be better but it hasnt dissapered!!! i tried to move on but the relationship i had now is a disaster cause i just cant forget my ex, he was also my first love and first sexual relationship. i want to know how am i gonna go on with my life normaly without him in my thoughts and me missing him. i just want to be happy. please???
2006-07-31 21:53:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry for what has happened to you sweetie.
Do not hang on to the past you'd only get burnt from it time after time. Let it slide Go get some fresh air look around and see how life is beutiful and it would be a waste of time being sad. Your never lonely if you think you are. Your free again to do what you were restrained to do during your relationship. Take this as trial of life afterall you've already gained experiance from it why not try to flirt around get tons of boyfriends and break thier hearts hehe Teach them a lesson or two and laugh over it. After all i'll be truthful we man can be typical fruit flies. But not all man out there are the same when you stumble on a good one keep them and when you know this one is fooling you around dump him. You know what you need Miss? "Andrenalin", It helps sooth the pain away do somthing extreme with a group of gal friends. Throw everything he has gave you erase every memory of him. His only a dream.
2006-07-31 22:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lawrence 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lets be real. Five months of u guys broken up can't make u forget a relationship of two years. It is really understandable that u haven't forgotten him yet. You never really will, if he was ur first love. But u can move on and the best way to do that is to just sorround urself with friends that make u laugh. And just let time do its job. Trust me. I've been there. Done that. Good luck. Hope this helps.
2006-07-31 22:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know how it feels but lets think abt it this way so it will help
first he had a gf 2 weeks later so belive me he was cheating already
second do u think he deseves all of that missing and love specially that he didnt care and he just left even when he knows that he is so lucky that u were loyal to him all that time and u didnt find ur self an execuse to cheat!!!
so u have to know that ur wasting ur time and ur life thinkin abt someone who dun deserve it its not worth it
now u should do this it really helps i always tell ppl to do it find somthing belongs to him and i bet u kept somthing lol and break it and get rid of all his stuff that u kept wich i know u kept,then take a walk alone for 30-60 min then go home and remember thatur new bf didnt harm u and it wasnt his falt and u should treat him right and before that make sure that u didnt date him just to get over the ex..!
2006-07-31 22:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research has shown that a woman normally takes two years over a lover...especially if the lover's her first. It takes time to rebuild your life. If a guy gives you lame excuses like 'I need space', it's actually a politically correct term for 'I don't have the balls to break up with you, I know I am a ******* asshole but I want OUT!' It's not fair for your new guy to be stuck in the rut with you until you've ironed out all your personal issues first. Take time to mend your broken heart....but never indulge in self-pity, girl! Find yourself again and find God. You are not alone, girl. Every girl walks through the same path that you took and she will eventually learn to smile again.
2006-07-31 22:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not always easy to forget your first love. I was in the same position. Put it this way theres no use crying over something that isnt worth your precious time. You deserve beter. You need to go out and enjoy yourself, what ever you do, do it because it makes you happy. If your ex really loved you, he would be siting next to you right now.
2006-07-31 22:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by cookie_monsterdc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise you it will get better.. it hurts for a while and that pain is very difficult to just sweep under the rug... I am going through something similar and all I can tell you is do everthing in your power to go on with work, school, be with family and friends and it will get better. Don't call or allow him to call you because that will set you back...you wil get better I promise but it does take time.
2006-07-31 21:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing happen to me, a girl said the same and did the same, and i'll never be able to fully forget about her, and a part of me will always love her to bits, even though she made me cry a few times. but i concentrate my time on friends and having a good time. take your time and love will find you.
also its believed that, on average, it takes half the length of a relationship to get over it ending (my relationship lasted 3 years, we split 12 months ago and i'm not over it fully yet)
2006-07-31 22:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Adam C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to Vietnam when I was 19. I was not the same when I came back, and neither is he. It is not your fault, and it is nothing you did. There are experiences that change everything we thought we knew about ourselves. You have the advantage of being young. Move on. There is nothing more you can do.
2006-07-31 22:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lady told me once that it takes half the time you where together to totally get through all the phases of break up, you never get the person totally out of your heart, though it doesnt hurt you will allways remember that person.
2006-07-31 21:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by jhnedrmr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and get to know more new friends or take up a new hobby. Once your mind is occupied with something else, you would have no time to think about him. With time and effort from you, you would soon not be able to remember his face and voice! :) Hang on in there.
2006-07-31 22:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by iwillmoveawayoneday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋