Is it allowed in Christianity to have sexual relations before Marrige...?

Question

I will be very greatful if you can give me some authentic references....

Answer 1

heb 13:4. Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

with marriage the bed is undefiled,so without marriage the sex bed would be defiled.

Rom 1: 24. Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25. Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26. For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27. And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

also read rom 7 and 1cor 7 about sex and marriage

Answer 2

alright, nice question.
I will not attempt to answer this question by stating what everybody states from the law point of view.

The command of God is that everything we do should due Him glory in its very primary and core purpose, according to the maximum knowledge we have.
Therefore, lets say, I sit in front of the TV and become a potato couch knowing that I am currently wasting my life and still continue in it, that is sin.
Therefore what I think about this question is this - the question calls for something more. Becoming Christian is really nothing much with praying some sinners prayer and going to church - although both are significant parts.
It is a new heart. It is being born again, to desire God's desires.
Anyone who clings on to that which is inferior has rejected God. Anyone who knows that they are rejecting God and continue in it has no hope of heaven, but judgement only.

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Answer 3

I'm not a christian anymore, but when I was I could not reconcile this idea of sex = sin, It seems a bizarre equation, since sex is so natural and wonderful, and the supression of it leads to all sorts of problems, and the sin side of the equation just leads to guilt.

I came to the conclusion that the bible says a lot about Lust being a sin, and that the church had come to the conclusion that Lust = Sex. So I looked up Lust in the dictionary, and, it said

Lust - UNnatural desire for a thing.

Since the desire for sex and procreation is ENTIRELY natural, and the suppression of it leads to it being redirected, sometimes in to entirely unhealthy ways (how many abused choirboys??). I decided that the church was plain wrong.
What had probably started out in the church as a desire to protect its flock from sexually transmitted desease and unwanted pregnancy and illigitimate children, had been mutated into this mad sexual guilt trip.

Since science had liberated (read usurped) the church's authority over sex by giving us condoms, contraception and penicillin, surprise surprise, the pope edicts that using contraception itself is a sin, proof positive that the church has lost the plot, since it seems to be their desire that even married couples should either a)never have sex or b)have kids 'til she drops, and continue to overpopulate the planet.

The whole lot seems related to St Paul, who, frankly, I think was a nutter. He was convinced that we were in the end of days, didnt want any one to marry, certainly didnt have sex himself, and well, have you READ revelations? Steven King couldnt get that past his editor!

Answer 4

Have you ever gone to church growing up? I was always taught that you do not have sex outside of marraige or before marriage. Because we are sinners we do, but in the eyes of the Almighty it is wrong. This passage in my opinion does speak to that very question. "I say therefore to the unmarried and w idows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Corinthians 8:9. I think the meaning is self explanetory. I am by no means a bible thumper, but I was raised by my parents, and grandparents to heed God's word. Sometimes I do, and at times like most I fail. I hope I have helped you understand your question in some small way.

Answer 5

“Do you want real love?”

If genuine love has escaped you thus far, if think you’ve already found that perfect someone, or if regrets and confusion have made you wonder if the love you’ve dreamed of really exists, http://www.catholic.com/chastity/pure_love.asp have been written for you.

If you’re like me, you’ve been told that sex is bad. But when you ask why, you hear something like, “It’s just bad, so don’t do it,” or “You’ll get a disease or get pregnant!” While I’m sure you realize that sex has its consequences—and they might be bad if they happen—these reasons aren’t always convincing.

Our generation has been taught how to avoid venereal infections, but what we really want to know is how to find, build, and maintain a relationship of real love. Sex is supposed to be a great gift, so it’s easy to get tired of hearing about the diseases and unwed pregnancy rates. If you’re ready for a different approach, and you want the gift of sex to be as great as it was meant to be, read on.

“How do I find love?”

Everyone wants love. Everyone longs to give himself or herself to another. We’re made for love, and that need in us is so deep that many would rather risk getting pregnant or getting an STD than live without love. We may be willing to take these risks because the world tells us that sex equals love. Then we see relationships in which sex destroyed love, and we wonder what went wrong. The only solution capable of breaking through this hurt and confusion is the virtue known as chastity.

“What’s chastity?”

Chastity is a virtue (like courage or honesty) that applies to a person’s sexuality. It means that you take all of your sexual desires and order them according to the demands of real love. For example, when you love a person, you make whatever sacrifice is best for them and you do whatever is necessary to keep from harming them. Chastity means that you take this definition of love and apply it to sex.

Some think that chastity simply means “no sex.” But that’s abstinence: focusing on what you can’t do and can’t have. Chastity is what you can do and can have, right now: a lifestyle that brings freedom, respect, peace, and even romance—without regret. Chastity frees a couple from the selfish attitude of using each other as objects, thus making them capable of true love.

Answer 6

Most religions will not expell you but they teach you not to as it defiles the body. The body is a temple unto the Lord and he only enters into clean temples. Here are some verses about sex in the bible.

1 Corinthians 7: 1-2 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: “ It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, “to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 7: 8_9 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

1 John 3:3 And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.

James 1:27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

Answer 7

herein lies the conflict of society's morals, people's views and religious beliefs...

first and foremost, sex is but normal for people to do it... it takes to tango, right? whatever people do, that's up to them. for even before the age of marriage, many a couple have done it even with different mates....

let me cite an example: if two people, both widowers commit to themselves and get married, would it be a sin for both of them? remember, they committed sexual relations with their previous ones and now they, themselves, are getting married. is it a sin? debatable, isn't it? another one, if an adult had been rape before, would she be eligible for marriage, since she had a force sexual relation. is it a sin then?

thing is, marriage is a vow of faithfulness to your mate. to be true to him, trust him, be his witness, your companion to rear children and introduce them to the world... that you would love one another as a couple, accepting and giving both the love to one another, no matter who you are, or whatever was done before...

so, why would sexual relations be a hindrance before marriage then? I'm a true blue Roman Catholic and i don't see anything wrong in having sexual relations before marriage... it's after marriage that i should think of having it with that matters (and that of course would be my wife), for only then would it be a sin....

Answer 8

No authentic references here basically if it feels good don't do it. If it taste good spit it out. If any thing gives you any pleasure its a sin. So basically NO- agnostic

Answer 9

Biblically it is prohibited. The first institution that God established is marriage relationship and the only way to consummate marriage is through Sex. Sex outside marriage is considered a sin.

Answer 10

Indeed there are many places in Bible where you can find people having sex with those who they are not married and in many cases, hookups with the prostitutes and incests are performed without any doctrine, reproof and/or way to righteousness.