I have been seeing this guy off and on for a year. He golfs all the time, only sees me once a week after 9pm we have sex and then he has me leave first thing next morning. He says he has love for me, but he never takes me anywhere or does anything with me. He is always out with his friends, but refuses to meet mine. I have told him I feel like a booty call, he says that is not what this is, he is just taking things slow because he has been hurt in past relationships. Am I correct in thinking that this is going nowhere?? I have broken it off with him and he will continue to contact me stating he wants to be with me, but it is always the same old thing, Friday nights when he is finished golfing, go to his house, spend the night and not see him again for another week.
2006-07-31 21:17:17 · 19 answers · asked by jerzey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl he is using you soooo bad!!! open your eyes hun!!! you are worth more than that!!!! he is taking advantage of you, i mean look, he gets to do whatever he does during the week, work, hang with friends, golf, whatever, then he gets the benefits of having a gf without actually having one, he gets the sex without having to deal with the 'relationship talks' and cuddling and meeting the friends and family, and all the things that he obviously doesnt want in his life. you are giving him what a lot of men desire. sex with no strings. and thats exactly what it is. there are no strings connecting you to his 'real' life. youre only in his life on fridays. i mean he probably sees a therapist more times a week than that. if youre ok with this than keep it going but if you want a real and fulfilling relationship than i suggest you tell this guy to hit the road and find yourself someone who will want to be with you friday, saturday, sunday, monday, tuesday, you get the point! good luck!!!
2006-07-31 21:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but that is a booty call. If he loves you he would want to show you off to everybody he knows and take you everywhere with him. I would say just leave him since it's been over a year. He's not worth the pain of one day a week time together.
2006-07-31 21:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by volleyballpimp69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to tell u this but that is a booty call a weekly booty call and if he was takin it slow that mean yowl wouldnt be having sex and next time u break it off change yo number and every thing get a p.o. box just blow him completely off like he does u until friday
p.s. when a man says they got love for u dont me they love u and sure as hell mean they aint in love with u
2006-07-31 21:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by confused89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry--he's just not that into you,--total Booty Call--and you CAN do better!!! I bet he's not even that good in bed either!! The losers usually aren't. Save it for a Real Man coz they ARE out there, and you could be missing out on the Love of your life while tapping your toes waiting on this jerk!!!
2006-07-31 21:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm something is certainly not right! Are you sure he is not married or already in a relationship.
It sounds to me as though he does not want to be seen in public with you. Now the only people that generally do things like that are those who are married or already in a partnership and do not want to be recognized. Do a bit of detective work yourself. I couldn't help myself, I would have to. Follow him and see where he goes. P.S Are you sure it is his house that you are going too.
2006-07-31 22:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r so right u r a booty call. i mean maybe he is seeing someone else. Dont let him do that to you if he really wnats to be with you then he will take u out and give u the treatement that u deserve.
2006-07-31 21:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by epena86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably he is married, or have a doble life. Be careful, he can just been using you. Are you sure that's his house? Men love tricks. specially for sex. Lies are the major for some of them.
2006-07-31 21:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by speedy girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him and get a guy who will take u out on friday nights instead of making u stay in with him.
2006-07-31 21:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Vidra 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A year??????????? He needs to get a grip!!!! You have A LOT more patience than I do. He got hurt? Everyone gets hurt. He needs to move on!!!!! Girl, you deserve sooooooooo much better. If he cares about you than he needs to start showing it. Let him make the effort. If not, move on!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-31 21:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the best rules I've made for myself is if sex starts it, its going nowhere. if sex is all you do, that is all it will ever be. If you have feelings you should respect yourself and stay clear of him.
2006-07-31 21:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by gnomef0cker 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋