why is it so hard to find someone that cares for you, that loves you, that trusts you, i know theres someone for everyone, and i felt like i've already found her. she makes me happy, but for some reason, i feel like im not the one for her. what should i do? should i let her go so she could be happy? all i want for her to be happy even if i have to suffer, but i just dont want to let her go, i dont know anymore. any advice please?
2006-07-31 20:12:56 · 27 answers · asked by MISTAKN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw, i have asked her if she was happy with me and she hesitated and said yeah, but it seemed as if she didnt really mean it, you know, but i've tried and tried to make her see how much i love her, but it's like she's not understanding. i dont know if she loves me the way she says she does, i trust her and all, but it's like she's hung up on her ex, i mean, she was the one who broke up with him
2006-07-31 20:53:22 · update #1
its okay, i know it may be hard to please her, but dont worry, as long as she's still with you, just think of it as your pleasing her already, she may not except your love but atleast you except hers
2006-08-01 07:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ SNO0KEMZ ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u feel that for some reason u r not the one for her, so the first thing u need to do is find that reason first. Try making her feel good when she is with you. If u want to see her happy and dont want her to go frm ur life then try not hurting her. Just remember one thing in life the more love u give the more u get. Sooner or later she will realize that how much u love her, and that day u'll find a dramastic change in her. Mail me back if this solution works. Have a great life dude.
2006-07-31 20:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by rahul k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure that everyone wants the same thing as you." For some reason", you mentioned that you felt that you were not the one for her. Is that some sense of insecurity that I detected?? Is there somebody else interested in her, someone better off than you from financial means or physically,etc, that you think "he" can make her happier than you did??
Look closely. This is YOUR perspective and assumptions. NOT hers. Why don't you ask her instead?? Does she feel happy whenever she's with you and vice versa?? Not all girls go for the outer package, you know.
One more thing, in a relationship, its not all about receiving, its also about giving. Show her how much you appreciate her as a person.
Best of luck for trying.
2006-07-31 20:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a really big misconception between love and whatever it is that makes us think that someone has our heart. Eventually you will realize that happiness only comes within ourselves.
Happiness comes within ourselves. The object of your affection can only make herself heppy. You are only responsible for your own happiness......she is responsible for hers. When two happy people have eath other there is a realationship.
You can die trying to make her happy.
Maybe I am jadded, but there really isn't just one person for us.
I believed that for a long time. That is why so many people are unhappy. They hang on to a dream that turns in to a night mare.
Happiness is often a choice. It is possible for two people to be happy and live with each other until they die. And it is also possible to be in love and have it things change and then you suck it up and guard your heart until it is time to fall in love again.
You will surrive with or without her. Just as she might never really be happy and have a string of men trying to make her happy.
It is definatly the best feeling in the world to find that person who loves you and you love them right back, and the happiness is somthing that you share...not something that you have to dig up for someone else.
2006-07-31 20:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't surprising to find yourself in such a relationship..
But, just because you think she's not happy, it doesn't mean she isn't.. You gotta find out for sure... Speak to her about it... Find out what she likes... Do things for her, nobody else would.... Those lil things make them so happy, you wouldn't even realise how such a small thing could mean such a lot...
it's not always about spendin all your time with her... or all the money...
Think to yourself... What does she do to keep you so happy ??? You gotta walk around a little in her shoes... You gotta go beyond enemy lines....
Surprise her with little little things, from time to time.... Don't take your relationship for granted.... Don't wait for a special day to give her flowers... Don't wait for a special day to write a poem for her..
Never wait.... Cuz who knows if tomoro will come ???
Don't leave anything to be regretted later.......
If you think she's your to be.... Don't let her go..... But keep her happy.... She could be the best thing that ever happened to you....
2006-07-31 20:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say if ever you had find true love,never let it go...but bec.you have said that you think shes not happy,maybe you need to think again...the only thing to solve that problem of yours is to ask her...yes,i know its hard..But im a girl and I know what other girls think(maybe some of them..)The two of you have to talk..privately..in a time that is not limited..ask her if she love you,if shes happy being with you,tell her that you need to know what she feel,so that no one will get hurt..
2006-07-31 20:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by LILYCAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to her and find out what her needs are. Does she request you to do something you never did? See if doesn't maybe try to tell you by showing you what she's missing or what she needs. when asking her straight away, you could give her a little present. Hold her hand and just ask " Whatever I can do for you I'll do it, just let me know"
2006-07-31 20:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by tami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem doesn't lie with her. its you. ask what you want. your heart will guide you. she's fantastic, you're confused. Are you sure u are ready to be in a relationship? Even if you date other ppl, its gonna be the same agin. are you still hurt from the past?
are you emotionally stable? before u commit, always make sure you are ready- emotionally, mentally, physically. don't make life hell for others if you don't know what you want. that poor lady!!! anyway i think she deserves someone better - someone who is not confused like you.
get some help,boy!
2006-07-31 20:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by NOTurBFF!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how she feels about you. Tell her you love hare and you think she is the one for you but you don't feel like you are making her happy. If the case is your not the one than move on.
2006-07-31 20:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Aries187 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her for the time of her life. make her smile laugh and be happy. or ask her whats wrong and find out if she is really happy with you. if she is not let her go and be happy even if it does hurt.
2006-07-31 20:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fool if she still talks to you it means shes happy dont worry about it if shes right she will stick with you if she breaks up with . just look at it as if u win some you lose some
2006-07-31 20:19:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋