we've known each other for a month, we've dated twice, I meet her family, she will meet mine this week, were both adults, is it time to suggest the bedroom, or should I wait a little longer, it has been a while for both of us to be in a relationship, and it will be a special moment, we have talked a little about it but indirectly, joking and playing around, I'm ready and think it is time..this is going to be a serious relationship we both agree on that....just want to know what u think about timming...what is too soon, and how long is too long....
2006-07-31 20:07:26 · 11 answers · asked by wizzard 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when it feels right - why don't you make little moves here and there and warm up to it over some time - do other things sexually without having sex yet - explore each other first and make it romantic - candles, music -the whole thing. no talk about "going to the bedroom" - if you force it, you will regret it - what makes the first time with a new person so special is how it happens - the build up to it - the waiting - how excited you are thinking about being with them and wondering what it will be like - that is almost the best part of being with someone new so in my opinion, I wouldn't rush that. In fact, say she were to mention it first - I would tell you to tell her that maybe you two should wait a little longer - that you want to really know her first and you want it to be very special and be comfortable with each other. Maybe you could take a bath together one time and not have sex. There is something very sexy about just seeing each other naked and touching and fooling around, without having sex - the teasing and just getting to know each other's bodies first. If you do little things everytime (or sometimes) when you see her, you will build up to the sex - you will learn what she likes, how she likes it and then when you do have sex, it will be that much better - b.c you will know exactly what to do to make it special and to turn her on plus the longer u wait, the more build up to it and the more build up the hotter it will be - the more and more you will want each other. My current boyfriend who I have been with for 4 years and I did that and I never really did that with anyone else - it took us months. and that was great - we fooled around and then when we had sex -it was out of this world amazing. one month isn't that long - 2 dates. do things totally right - slow if this will be serious - if it will be serious then there is no need to rush into the sex part - do something different with her if she is that special - not like every other girl. No need to rush into it - all or nothing - slowly move towards it - a little more each time and that would be special - there is no set time but I would say about three months would show her that u want her, not just sex and would give u time to know her body and her likes - make it fun, draw it out.
2006-07-31 20:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right go with it. I don't feel that there is a time limit so to say. It is whatever feels right to the both of you. But be spontaneous and if this is someone you really care about and see yourself with then I am sure she is well worth the wait but make it special!!!!If you get the feeling that she is not ready yet, then back off. Just let nature take it's course. All good things are worth waiting for. Good luck and enjoy!!
2006-07-31 20:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should suggest the back yard, because cooking in the bedroom with a GRILLfriend is a bad idea. you could burn the house down. I love getting with GRILLfriends, they can cook a mean steak and lam shanks. So I hope everything works out with your new grillfriend. Give her a good tubesteak to put between your buns.
2006-07-31 20:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific! i'm shifting to Thailand in a pair of months for a million twelve months to artwork at an Elephant venture :) i could stay longer although this is extremely hard with the visa, i'm no longer allowed to make money over there.
2016-10-01 08:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't plan it.. the moment comes when you least expect it.. I have been going out with this webdate guy for 5 months now.. and believe me, no sex has happened.. just wait until the right moment comes.. if you do, it would mean a lot to your girl.=)
2006-07-31 20:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by janet j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and get to know her better. She will respect you more and want to stay and you can respect yourself more for waiting. If it's going to happen, let it happen. You will know when it's right. Don't push the issue. Let her make the first move. Relax and the good times will roll.
2006-07-31 20:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should let her chose how long because some gurls dont wanna have sex until there far into a relationship because sex can change a relationship intirely some gurls just dont feel comfortable with someone after sex especialy when its just a friend or the relationship is just begining
2006-07-31 20:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by confused89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the girl and the situation. Wait 'til it feels right
2006-07-31 20:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will come to you without noticing it, you don't do plans for it, it will happen if you went to a nice place , or did a nice move , or even after a nice dinner , just that when it begins don't pretend you didn't notice the signs , just go along .
2006-07-31 20:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it happen when the time is right you shouldn't have to suggest.
2006-07-31 20:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by lilAudrey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋