sleeping problems?

Question

The problem is my daughter sleeps with me, she has a crib but she refuses to sleep in it... i tried and she cried for 2 1/2 hours b4 i just brought her back to bed with me. So when she wakes up in my bed she crawls all over, i give her another bottle but she drinks it up and decides it's still play time... i am a first time mom and i just cry when she is in her bed crying, i feel bad to let her cry like that... and scard she will climb out of her crib, it's just so overwhelming

Answer 1

She has grown use to the fact that she sleeps with someone and doesnt know any other way.

I have 2 boys and one one the way. My boys LOVED their swings, and would only sleep in them and would wake up when it stopped. Which would wake them up just because it stopped and woke me up more than usual.

You need to start putting her to bed at a regular time. Like, read a book and then put her to bed, then shell see that as an indicator that its bed time. If she cries, you must ignore her for at least 10 mintues and go back in the room, WITHOUT talking or picking her up. You can pick her up at first, maybe, and shush her, but dont interact to much with her.Just touch her face or wherever you like to let her know your still there, do that for about a minute, guarantee shell cry again as soon as you leave. Just keep that going and and increase the time the next time you go in there by 5 or 10 minutes, whatever you please.

Shell need reassurance that your still there but you need to let her know you are dead serious about her sleeping in her crib.

I did this to my first son and it killed my heart to hear him cry, i just wanted to pick him up and hold him. But within 3 days, we got weened from his swing. Those were the hardest 3 days ever hearing him cry, but i noticed a difference on day 2 and 3, that he would cry less and accept the fact he was in his crib.

You are letting her win in this situation. You need to take your time back.

Answer 2

take little steps. she has been with you for so long she thinks that is how it is supposed to be. maybe she was too tired when you tried the other night. how old is she. you need to talk to her no matter what age, and let her know that this is her bed. and that you have your own bed. keep it simple.

try naps in her bed first during the day. then make sure there is a night lite in the room for night time. go in there and spend a few minutes in there with the lights off so she gets comfortable for a few nights. this will help her know that it is OK to be in there at night. try and make her calm before you go in there and read her a book or give her a massage with baby lotion. these things will relax her. after a few nights in the room put her down and let her play with a toy, take a few steps back and stand at the door. then in the night, start putting her in her crib. you can keep reading her a book or massaging her, this will keep her calm. do this while she is in the crib.
if you leave the room and she crys, go back in the room but don't pick her up. tell her it is time to sleep and then stand where she can see you but not looking at her. then each night put her in the bed and be a little further away. this will let her know you are there.
its a bit of a process, but worth it.
her crying will be over sooner or later. don't feel bad about letting her cry, it is a part of life.
good luck.
blessed be.

Answer 3

How old is she?? I don't think that there is anything wrong with co-sleeping but I can see how it would be hard for you to get any sleep with her wide awake and crawling all over the bed as you say. I know that it's not good for teeth (at all) to get a bottle before bed. The bottle could be part of the problem. I would start by eliminating that. Perhaps setting a more routine bedtime and making sure she is getting consistent naps during the day would make a difference too. Routine is important during the toddler years from my understanding. Make sure she's getting enough sleep too... I think toddlers need somewhere around 12 hours minimum in a 24 hour period. (you might want to check on that) Good luck!

Answer 4

Your mistake is that you are too tired to deal with it.. You get tire before she does. You need to tell her she needs to stay in bed, put her on the bed and leave her. She can cry all night but leave her there. It may take couple nights but she will learn. If she gets out after you put her in just take her back to bed and back until she is exhausted. Don't give up. It is hard work at first but it will be worth it later.. Good Luck and remember she is not hungry or wet is okay to cry... Let her

Answer 5

She needs to learn how to sleep alone. My suggestion is to sit right beside her crib until she falls asleep and do this for a few nights. Then, move your chair to the middle of the room and if she starts to cry tell her that you are right there, and stay in the middle of the room for the next few nights then move your chair to the door way so she can still see you. And then move your chair outside the room but so she can still you. I did this with my daughter and before I knew it she was sleeping though the night while I was sleeping in my room.

Answer 6

I wouldn't let her cry like that, but I would put her in her bed when she is sleeping like nap time anytime she goes to sleep put her in her bed. and don't stop. that's how I got my son to sleep in his bed and he is only a month old. At night make sure she has a night light, maybe even some music. That might help her. Some nights she is going to want to sleep in your bed like maybe a bad dream or something but right now just keep putting her back in her bed. Don't give up I know its hard. you can e-mail me if you want too!! Hope I help you

Answer 7

yes, it is overwhelming,go with your feelings ,if you want to keep her in bed- do. i was in the same shape as you, & discovered that making my baby feel loved & secure was more important than doing it the "right" way..i hope you have someone to let you get some normal sleep (take care of the baby). i do not regret this,because my child feels very loved & we are a closer family..good luck-very few people remember the 1st year,it`s rough, but you`ll make it .i didn`t realize how much stress a mother could have,it`s very normal-you`ll make it -honest

Answer 8

Dear Madam all women facing this problem.Even my sister had same problem but me,my brother and my mother we all r help my sister.In the night time my mother will wake up, in the morning time me and my brother will take care.
so like u staying with ur families meant it is so helpfull for u.Otherwise u want to face this problem more than 8-10 months
Whenever u get time take rest that is good for u and ur health
take care always

Answer 9

Have to tried putting her in a play pen and letting her play so you can get some more sleep or they have things for babbies you can attach to the bed for baby to sleep

Answer 10

Don't feel bad allowing your baby to cry.. When they cry, they know they'll get your attention and you will give into them. Next time let her cry.. She'll stop.. I promise. You're not a bad mom