Most of my question are about this person, three years together, then a break up , we were gonna get back together and all i had to do was break up with my new boyfriend but i couldnt and then i lost my ex for good. I was so young and i didnt kno what i wanted, i was scared that he would leave me again so maybe i chose the saftey route with the guy i knew wouldnt leave me, like my first love did. My first love promised he would come find me several years after we broke up and i hope he does, i have tried to e-mail him and apologize but he ignores me, he was my bestfriend and i love him so much and miss him with all of my heart. I think hes happy now and i dont want too ruin his happiness but i miss him so damn much and i feel like i need closure. I am really haveing a hard time jsut forgetting the past, everyone who says to do so well it isnt as easy as it looks, and well i dont think i can handle feelin this way muhc longer its alreid been a lil over a year, someone please help....
2006-07-31 19:53:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Waw long story, but understood.
I can give u a piece of advice girl(don't think i'm that old lol) - Never look back for things which has passed.
This is a golden advice truely. As for things which u have already done, there is no way to change it. And u can not also. So even u cry your head off and break your heart thousands times, what is done is done. Nothing is changed coz u are sad.
Trust me, i have experienced similar thing also and i tried the hard way.
Treasure what u have now; If not, u will even lose the happiness u have now.. Cheer up and look forward into the future. Plan for your future and u will forget about the past. If u feel u loved your ex so much, put hin in your deepest memory; He will be there always for u.
2006-07-31 20:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by a V a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Opportunity will only knocks on ur door once!. U r always greedy & selfish. Be matured. Don't be shattered by ur immature ways of thinking. If u think u & ur ex. did leave behind a lots of funs & happiness, just keep it deep in ur heart! Now, u've a new b/f, if u think he can satisfies or at least can provides what u need/want (never 2 compare with ur ex. - past means past), try 2 give more attention 2 him. A person can never takes. There is always a give & take. Pleasing & pampering him a bit. Let him feels that u r so sweet & luving in his heart. Consider about it. Bear in mind that u should not mention ur ex. no matter under whatever consiquences do 2 of u did argue (big or minor issues) - try to sit down calmly together & solve it without raising both voices. All I need 2 say is 2 treasure what u have now.
2006-07-31 20:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by linghppy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you made the wrong choice. When people break 99% of the time it's best they don't get back together. Your first love is the hardest to get over but you have to do it. When you break up with someone you are losing a good friend to. You need to start dating other people and eventually you will feel better and probably find someone you like just as much. The only thing you can hope for on closure is that he will eventually accept your apology but I wouldn't be anything more than friends.
2006-07-31 20:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Aries187 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap out of it. You did make a choice that was correct but now you are using I was so young excuse. You have the ability to move on but you are choosing to leave in a part that was uncertain. I know it not easy but I believe you can move forward. You have not mentioned if you have broken up with your presend boyfriend or not. Just remember that you need to talk to people about this and stop emailing you. He has ignored you what other sign do you need that he aint interested. Maybe the only reason he wanted you back was a a booty call. Live your life with happiness forget the past coz it was just that
2006-07-31 20:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About the part where you e-mailed an apology and he ignores you, i think he doesn't want to talk about it yet. Give him some time. And by the way, i think it would be better if you apologized personally rather than e-mail (but its already done). If you think he is happy right now, let him be. You don't want to ruin his happiness. If you really are best friends, then don't let a ruined relationship between you two get in the way. After all, exes can still be friends. Take care and God bless ^_^
2006-07-31 20:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Complicated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said that you are so young so I think that you have a lot of time ahead to start up with new relationships. If you do not want to start with anybody else except for your exboyfriend, do not too much worry. Continue with what you like to do in your daily life, make friends with new people, take part in social events (in your school, college, company). If you actively join these activities, I'm sure that you can feel releasing after 1-2 months. And at that time, If you still think of your old boyfriend, try to talk with him like matured people. If he's still ignore u, no regret and I do belive that you can find another better man.
2006-07-31 20:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tai Minh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easier said than done, but if he's ignoring you theres nothing you can do., you still have an unresolved issue with him so it'll be hell getting over him, but all in due time. And im sorry theres not much I or anyone else can do to help you. Meanwhile, just try to keep yourself busy to not think so much about him. I know its hard when he's probably the first thought you think about and the last before yo u go to bed, but you have to make an effort. You never know what life has in store for you.
2006-07-31 20:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serves you right for breaking up with him in the first place. You never consider how guys feel about things, do you girls? You think, "I'll break up with him, get a new boyfriend and never see him again." right? WRONG! You females are so wishy washy with your feelings your think you can just leave then come back to us when you get hungry again like a fast-food resturant. Well, I give the guy kudos for ignoring you, cause you would have just hurt him again. So my help to you is this: LEave him alone and make your toher bf miserable, cause just by writing this, you're saying you don't like either of them enough to stay put long enough for anything else.
2006-07-31 19:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Belive me i know how are u feeling i'm in the same situation.
First of all listen what your mind tells you and then your heart and when you clear your head act like a "man". Don't beg him. Tell him how are you feeling, what went rong, talk with him. LISTEN what he wants to tell you and don't pressure him. Give him his space. Remember maybe he has right....Understand your falts and see how you can work this out. DON'T BEG HIM! If nothing happens continue your life knowing that you did your best. Don't cry infront of him because it's not ok he will feel bad for you and you don't want that. Just talk to him. Don't stay like this. You have a lot of things inside you and you mustn't keep them in. I wish you in the end everything to be like you really want, to do the right thing for yourself. Because it's not him it's YOU.
Good luck.
2006-07-31 20:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girl that was my yrue love when I was 21. I made some mistakes with her and lost her. It hurt very bad. I still love her to this day and I am now 43. The pain will lessen with time but it will always hurt. Love can be hard, good luck.
2006-07-31 19:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋