i am 15 & i've never been in love before. & i've decided that i'd never say yes to anybody in this early age. i like this guy & i've realised that i love him. Recently he proposed me, but i am not sure if he really loves me or not. i did'nt reply at that time & told him that i need time.what shall i say to him. cuz i don't want to go for a fake relationship. please help.
2006-07-31 19:50:30 · 15 answers · asked by summi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He didn't propose me for marriage but approached for a relationship
2006-07-31 20:02:21 · update #1
You are 15. You have far more important things to do than to accept any kind of proposal anyone offers you. Now is not the time to lose yourself in an intense relationship that may very well leave you far more damaged than you can imagine. If he loves you, then he will wait. If you value the quality of your life, you will focus your energies more on school for now. While school is a drag for most people your age, it's not half the drag that being a waitress for the rest of your life would be. Work on your personal and professional skills. Love will be there when you are ready for it.
2006-07-31 20:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My darling, i think that 15 is way too young to even be thinking of marriage and this persons age does play a large factor aswell. You probably feel akward or uneasy about the idea of being engaged to this young man because of your age, and bacause you know that young girls your age don't usually really find love much less get married at such a young age, this is probably why you feel as though he might not really love you or not. Has he shown any signs or indications, big or small, that he may not really love you? if so, then it probably wouldn't work out. Besides, you're young and, by the sound of your very important question very intelligent for your age, you should really take advantage of your childhood and don't waste it. Maybe you and your love should wait untill you're old enough to marry and if your relationship lasts that long and has wistood time and probable hardships and tests then you have found you're soul mate and should marry him and that he truely does love you.
Try this first, and expalin to him why. If he understands then that alone proves that he loves you and is willing to wait for you.
I mean, getting married at such a young age could only ruin both your lives and if he truley loves you then he would respect you and your decision and desire not to possibly ruin his life.
You must understand that love takes time and trust and lots or commitment and perseverance when hard times come,and they will some worse than others, and there is no greater test of commitment,strength, and love than engagement and marriage.
I wish i could've been of more help to you and i wish you happiness and love always.
2006-08-01 03:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you have never been in love before. So its hard to say if you really are. Maybe your not in love but just want to be inlove. You get me? Your 15 and if you accept his proposal, your going to ruin your life. The guy sure is stupid and selfish to be proposing to you knowing fully well that your too young. Give it time. You'll meet other guys and will fall inlove so many times...Just dont rush into something you will regret later on. If he loves you, he will wait. In the meantime, enjoy life with friends and family.
2006-08-01 03:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're both young and need to enjoy yourselves together and things change so quickly at this age and it is critical to figure out who you are and what you both want out of life and relationships family life money and all of these things you'll have to decide to have a successful marriage
2006-08-01 03:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by danny p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't feel very comfortable with the idea of being engaged to this guy. Whether it is because of the relationship itself or your age, or other factors altogether, it seems like the right thing to do would be to ask him to slow down a bit. Or become "engaged to be engaged" and see where life leads you.
2006-08-01 02:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I'm fifteen too and all i can say is hell no! You have your whole life ahead of you for marriage so you don't have to say yes right away. You have to get through school first. Date other people. Be fifteen! Have fun! Plus if he truly loves you he'll understand and be willing to wait until your ready.
2006-08-01 03:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NO!! it's easy!! N-O. look you still young and you will go through a lot of relationship as that one. but only you have to make the right thing. i am sure you know it. Don't let love close your eyes!!
2006-08-01 03:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by proposing you mean asked you to be his girlfriend? if yes tell him that you want to get to know him a little bit more. if you meant proposing as asking you to marry him. my opinion is that you are too young to get married
2006-08-01 03:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by ☼♫☆☺♡♥☺☆♫☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it too young for you to get into marriage?
How old is he??Use your feeling to see whether he's true to you.
2006-08-01 02:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by sun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look the best way is to tell him that u r not that kind of girl that wants only to have fun.
tell him u want it somehow serious and without playing!
2006-08-01 02:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋