how do i tell my boyfriend his friend is taking advantage of him?

Question

i have a 3month old daughter and it seems like everything her dad does erk my nerves. he has this 30yr old guy friend who is always around its to the point that i don't even want his friend to come around its like he has no life of his own and he's interfering with our relationship because i feel like he's taking food from my daughters mouth because he aint never got no money and always come over here hungry and my boyfrieng is a giving person his friend is taking advantage of him

Answer 1

Totally understand to some degree. Your beau won't see it (your point) for a while until he feels his friend is stepping on his toes and to him that hasn't happened yet.

The first problem is this guy is interfering with your family time and he doesn't care, but trust me he notices. You might want to start asking him side questions like, so where do you work? Next time he eats over even if it's just a snack, tell him he needs to start chipping in on groceries if he's going to be eating there often.

Ask your beau for money "for the baby" in front of the guy as often as you can, maybe he'll see that money is for needier purposes. Ask your beau what are his priorities and point out that spotting his friends shouldn' be one of them.

If all else fails start acting like a piss ant when the guy is there, he'll get the hint and feel too uncomfortable to come over as often.. if he's got any sense.

Answer 2

Thanks for answering my question, your right I don't need to move with him. I'm waiting until my lease is up next March. As for your question, you know I understand your situation. 1st off that N!gga is 30! He need to fine himself a REAL women and go spend some time with her. If he really had a girl friend you would see less of him. I see no problem with telling him he can't eat, cause his big a$$ NEVER puts in. I feel like the more time he is with your boyfriend the less time your boyfriend is spending with you. Tell your boyfriend that you think you need some family time alone. I mean your baby is new she needs time to bond with her father. I think you should tell him with him sitting in your face not over the phone, that you miss him. That you miss being with him the way you guys used to be. I'll call you around 6 this afternoon.

Answer 3

Unfortunately it is something he has to realize on his own..or he will resent you. Possibly you could suggest infront of the friend.. that money is really tight.. and it would be nice to have Less mouths to feed.. although I doubt either would get the hint.. sigh. The best you can do is say, I know he is your friend, but I feel disrespected when he comes over so much and eats all our food. Good Luck.. tough situation

Answer 4

You can share your feelings with your boyfriend, but you can't tell him what to do with the visits. If you can convince your boyfriend that you need more time with him and you three as a family with out the friend's visits as much, you may be able to cut down on the visits and get what you want with the three of you alone.

If you cannot convince him that the time you need with out the friend over is valuable, you don't have rights to tell him what to do, but you do have the choice to stay with him or leave.

Concentrate on sharing your needs, the needs you feel your daughter has and not telling him what to do, but ask him to understand your feelings and ask him to ask the friend to not visit as much. As the cards fall where they may, you can only decide what you are going to do, not what your boyfriend is going to do.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

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