How come I can never get the girl I want?

Question

I've had some girls over the course of my life, but the handful who have come along who I truely like and want to pursue are just never interested never. I would say that i'm decent looking, not great, but not bad, and i would like to think i have good personality funny charming. After the latest mishap, I've pretty much come to the conclusion that my standards are probably way too high, and the girls I want i'll never get. But I don't want to settle for less cause i dont think ill ever be able to live with myself. I'm almost 21 and have never had any sort of relationship plus as years go by and each disappointment mounts up I'm becoming more and more bitter and empty. At this point I've pretty much come to accept this as my lot in life. I think I'm just gonna go down to mexico, buy a boat, and chill out eventually. Live out the rest of my life without any love and just drink, sit in the sun, and fish.

Answer 1

You remind me of me in your own sort of way. Read one of the questions I asked. The first one. That was my expirence all nicely summed up, but now onto yours.

So what you've gotten burned before, haven't we all? Going through life some people love us, some people reject us. Look at it this way, atleast you're getting all the people that reject you out of the way now.

Maybe it's not that you're the wrong, what if they're just the wrong girls. What if you move to Mexico and buy your boat and fish and what if that girl that is your "It" moves next door to your old place in two years. Now, I'm not saying don't change so that you'll never miss out, change is part of living. I'm saying don't give up.

After each heart break we gain a little more, lose a little trust, they barrier that we're slowly building gets a little taller. But in the end, we heal. And I know it hurts like hell right now and you feel like **** and you want to give up, but don't. Because if you do, what's that saying to the rest of us, to give up hope when a heart gets broken? To decide to fill your life with bitter and emptyness because some floosy of a girl broke your heart? I would hope not. But do what you want, Mexico, after all, is quite lovely.

But remember, fill your life with those you love and love you because even if they hurt you atleast it's better then sitting on a boat in Mexico, alone, fishing, drinking Tequila because some girl broke your heart when you were 21.

S

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Answer 2

Hey! You kinda sound like me, I'm only 18 though and every guy I've ever liked is already taken or it couldn't work out cause of certain reasons. I'm a Christian girl so I'm saving myself for marriage. I think a lot of guys are turned off by this so they'd rather just be friends :) I just want a nice guy that will respect my beliefs and has a good sense of humor. I don't think my standards are too high, yet every guy I fall for it can never work out. Yes, I'm young, but I have joked about just becoming a nun! I think God has the right girl in mind for you, you are young too. You just have to be patient and don't look for her. Just let it happen. Everything happens for a reason, just be patient, and when she comes along, you'll know it and be so happy you were patient! :) God bless ya and good luck!! Don't give up!! :)

Answer 3

It seem as if your having a problem with time. One of the reason why all those girls might of rejected you is because your coming on too fast. If you really like them, talk to them more. You can't just express your love for them. As time pass, maybe that no will become a yes. Rushing was a mistake I made, although it was just asking someone out to a dance. She didn't know me well enough and thus, rejected me. Haha..

Answer 4

Your plan sounds peaceful... but empty indeed...
I don't know, it seems like the ones that seem so perfect always slip away and leave us reeling in sorrow... Don't worry, I'm sure you'll find that 'one' someday, just don't give up hope... Just be yourself, any girl who wants you to be someone else doesn't want you to begin with... Be polite, kind, and ready... Life is chock full of ups and downs, you never know when the perfect opportunity will come...
Wow, that was incoherent and vague of me...
Good Luck

Answer 5

You think 2 highly of yourself and expect the same standards when looking for a soulmate. Y dont u let nature take its course. Make friends. u r still young, enjoy yr youth. Take life as it comes. Dont go looking for love let love come 2 u .Just be yrself and enjoy yr youth.

Answer 6

I was my son's fathers first relationship. He was 26 then. Your still young don't give up so easy. Maybe the things you look for in a mate are in the wrong order. I would hope looks aren't number one. My son's father and I weren't physically attracted to each other at first, the closer we got as friends the more attracted we became. Then came our son.

Answer 7

well buddy your not alone your almost 21 and never got into a relationship well look at me i am 21 but i am gonna turn 22 in two and half monhs and i am been single my whole life and i am still single right now well i am gonna stay single rest of my life too cause i a give up on love.................

Answer 8

people say "there's somebody for everybody" it all depends if you believe it though, maybe you havent found her yet, or maybe she hasnt found you =] dont give up on yourself, she'll come along eventually, plus it doesnt matter if your almost 21, there's plenty of people who's older than you and still single

Answer 9

through fact adult males sense protective approximately their mom's and get indignant in case you're saying you have slept with them (that's the comprehensive element of asserting it). no person truly cares if their dad is napping around.

Answer 10

ok first your only 21 wow really old...lol...from my experience when you do find the woman of your dreams she will be nothing of what you imagined or were looking for, but everything you want. give it time you will find her, she is out there somewhere saying the same thing.. good luck