2006-07-31 18:43:00 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try to relax her and do things that would calm her down before - a bath together and lavendar bubble bath and candles and incense or some home fragrance oils. Just lie with each other and caress each other - maybe you have to build up a level of intimacy before actual sex first - maybe she is uncomfortable somewhere inside with herself or sex or has something she is holding onto from the past. you want to tell her to let go, feel free so you can explore each other and that you just want her to relax and focus on what she is feeling and have her tell you what she likes. - It is kinda hard to help more without more info but I don't see any problems with letting her know that you want to build a deep level of intimacy - music, candles, explore each other and hold off on the actual sex for a while, build up to it. Do everything but - little steps each time and then maybe she will be ready after a few times of teasing and touching - maybe then she will let go instead of trying so hard - maybe then she will be herself - there is something holding her back that is causing her to try to hard - something that she isn't comfortable with and I think she is trying to cover that up maybe by trying so hard.
2006-07-31 18:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to hard? how so? is she banging you into the wall? For most guys it's the opposite: you try your best and all you get is "that was good, can you hand me that Allure magazine?" I say let her try hard, practice makes perfect, and don't hope for the day when she does try at all in the bedroom.
2006-07-31 18:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You also need to be patient , rhythm depend upon by the both partner , single person is not responsible for fast hard or slow motion .
2006-07-31 18:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try to tell her that you want to seduce her without her moving a muscle and plan a little fantasy night with her. Good luck! I read this to my husband and he says he wishes he had that problem too. LOL!
2006-07-31 18:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest other things to do instead of the stuff shes trying, don't insult her bc then she will prob just take offense to it. Just sort of tell her there are other things you prefer, or different ways you prefer things to be done.
2006-07-31 18:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by VL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i waited to answer this so not to disurb others and you-simply say slut-you dont believe in marriage-so whatever-i use to be a slutty guy myself but i didnt advertise my disgrace-try amazing grace then u can go to church pure with the sex behind you and awaiting honor in marriage. peace up bro
2006-08-03 18:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying too hard?? Maybe it is how she enjoys sex.. it's not just about you ya know.
2006-07-31 18:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you just answer your own question? Just tell her or try showing her... works pretty good!
2006-07-31 18:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Autumn_Anne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha well saying things like "slow down" or "hold on" or something might help... or tell her to lay back and let you take care of her?
2006-07-31 18:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by hello_beautiful_222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you notice she is trying too hard... look at her, put your ahnd on her face, look in her eyes, and in a soft sensual voice tell her to relax.
2006-07-31 18:46:24 · answer #10 · answered by sarahdancer123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋